My daughter is 12 years old, when is the right age for a boyfriend?

United States
April 7, 2008 10:32am CST
My daughter is 12 years old. When is the right age for her to start dating boys?
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• United States
7 Apr 08
At 12 years old, she has probably only recently discovered boys and it is not unusual for kids her age to be "going steady" - which basically means they see the other person at school, the mall or parties, talking on the phone, passing notes, etc. At 12 - 13 I would be okay with group activities (large groups of both girls and boys) as long as there is an adult present, at 14 double dates and at 15 dates with curfew (and of course I'd have to meet them and approve). Best of luck with one of the most trying times you'll ever go through!!!
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@Ajaxus (33)
• United States
8 Apr 08
I think this is pretty spot on. There definitely needs to be more supervision early on in the process to make sure good values and practices are instilled on your child. After they have gotten older, have matured (hard word to use for such a young age..heh) more and have learned more then you can start to step back and let them go a bit. When you feel you can trust her (and her significant other has passed the gauntlet of challenges you have placed before them) then you can start to allow full dates with of course the curfew sherryl mentioned above.
@shebeck (116)
• Jamaica
16 Dec 08
Your daughter is quite young and should be allowed to enjoy her youthfullness. I believe the right age for dating boys is when she understand the do's and don'ts as it relates to boys, once she understand how to relates to them. Talk with her, ask her questions and tell her the truth about boys and girls friendship. Also try to build an open relationship with her so that she can talk to you about problems she faces, hug her, tell her that you love her and tell her how pretty she is because if you don't and when those compliments are given to her she will gravitate to it and mistake the ungenuine compliments for love and sincerity. No dating should be allow until she is made aware of the boy and girl scenario. when it comes to that time (dating) it should be done in a group and not by herself. Some boys are just looking to score and will engage your daughter into activities that you do not want to happen. Never allow her to go out alone with boys this can be a dangerous practice.
@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
13 Apr 08
Well my niece is 13 and has a boyfriend. Basically it means they talk with each other on the phone, walk with each other at school, and do some activities on the weekend. He usually comes over here and they talk or go for walks. Nice thing is it makes her keep her room clean . They might play basketball or watch a movie but nothing too serious. They will be going to the 8th grade formal together. I don't see a problem with it. They are mostly just hanging out together and calling it dating.
• India
8 Apr 08
well according to me 16 to 18 yrs is the rite age for ur daughter to have a boyfriend
@marcialoyd (1174)
• United States
8 Apr 08
I would have to say 16. Thats how old I had to be and even then I was interested.! lol. I was not your typical teenager. You just got to be really careful now days. Its just not like it used to be. Its nothing to see a 12 year old girl pregnant anymore.
@ladym33 (10990)
• United States
7 Apr 08
I started having boyfriends at 12 and frankly it was too young. These days I believe things are worse. I think it is OK to talk on the phone with a boy at this age, but not much else, unless it is a group activity. I would say at least 14 but I hope mine kids don't want to date till they are at least 15 or 16.
@thedaddym (1736)
• United States
7 Apr 08
My wife disagrees with me, but I say 21. Just kidding, I think for one on one dating they should be at least 15 or 16, if they are just hanging out in groups and maybe talking on the phone 13 or 14.