I"ve had enough...how do you cope with stress...I want the answers too!

United States
April 7, 2008 9:11pm CST
I'm looking through discussions and it seems like everyone is looking for the answers to these questions and if anyone comes up with one that works please share with me! I've definitely had it!!! My ex b/f has been staying with me since his bi pass surgery two weeks ago and has been doing great...until this morning! The visiting nurse wasn't here ten minutes and she sent him to the hospital with cardiac arythmia. He's going to be in for a couple of days and for the life of me I can't figure out what went wrong. He's been on a strict diet, except for our very short walks every day he basically sits on the couch watching tv or we just sit and talk. So what happened? He takes his medication the way he's supposed to and doing everything right. Since my Mom passed away in January and my aunt in March I can't wonder if God is being very mean to me this year! I definitely have had enough! Actually, I've had more than enough....how much can one person take? I thought I knew how but how does one who goes through all of this cope with it? Is there a breaking point?
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@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
8 Apr 08
ctry, I am sure you have heard it said, "Everything happens for a reason." Be thankful that the nurse caught this and something worse didn't happen while it was you and him alone. Life gets way tougher on us as we get older. People around us that we love get older and often pass away. It is hard for us to deal with, as we think about our own mortality. All I can say is live one day at a time and try to enjoy each and every day of life God gives you. He is not really being mean to you, this is just how life is. From the moment we are born we are dying. Today is a gift, even if it is not wrapped in pretty paper and ribbons, enjoy it. PEACE
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• United States
8 Apr 08
You know I've heard it all and it's getting to the point where I want to scream at people to shut up! I realize they are trying to be nice or helpful but there just never seems to be an answer.
@Hatley (164222)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Apr 08
Take it one step at a time and one hour at a time. Listen to some Mozart to relax and comfort you. get enough sleep and take care of you. How can you help another if you get sick yourself? do you have anyone who can help you with his caresince he is your ex how come you haveto care for him if you don't mind me asking you?I cansend my prayers to you and your ex and maybe it will help huh? my best wishes
• United States
8 Apr 08
He's my ex but I still love him and offered to take care of him because I'm the only person he knows who lives in a first floor apartment and is home 24/7 to be here for him. He really hasn't needed much in the care department and anything that the visiting nurses don't do I am more than happy and able to do.
• Australia
8 Apr 08
What differentites human beings from other mammals is the ability to think. This is what causes stress..beacuse we think too much. As for me I prsctise yoga and mind control . If you conciously control what you are thinking you would find a high reduction in stress control. Try and stop making mental checklists and it should help..Cheers !
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• Philippines
8 Apr 08
what are you experiencing now is part of life's journey and in a journey you have to learn every moment and in every destination.you are not the only one who is feeling that way or who is full of problems.Just cheer up face the life's challenges.
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
8 Apr 08
Hello ctry, please do not be despair. I do know how you feel tremendously when life just doesn't agree with us at one point of time or more. I hope that you can try to deal with all these with a great patience and extremely good patience at that though it is very hard to cope with it all. Believe me, I do know how much you feel because I've been put through hardships a lot of time together with my family and to buck up and rise from ordeals such as the one you have had, I know the feeling. You tend to feel lost, demoralized, really sad and more. Whenever I am in a difficulty or in a particular stress mood, I will always tell myself that all things happen for a reason and perhaps God has a way of doing things to make me realize something. Or perhaps God loves me and wants to see me go through these ordeals in order to "give me more" good and blessings in future. That is how I interpret the hardships in my life. And I take it that everything that happens in my life is for a reason and sometimes there is a hidden blessing to it which I couldn't really see. I've been through a similar challenge in life like you, but a bit different in the sense that my family is still around, but the challenges that I went through makes me realize how strong and patient I am so far. And I'm amazed and happy that I still have the courage to live on and move on. Please, my dear friend, do not give up on life for there is more to come; be it good or bad. Life isn't fair, but we can try to squeeze in whatever happiness there is left to it. For now, I advice you to concentrate on being supportive to your sick ex b/f and I wish him well. You need to be strong, please take care my dear friend ..
@Fishmomma (11371)
• United States
8 Apr 08
I know its not easy and people keep telling me to live for today and not worry about tomorrow. This is easy to hear the words, but not easy to believe them. I'm dealing with the IRS and taxes, which I feel get worse every year. I'm sorry your ex b/f is back in the hospital. Did he get any phone calls that could have been upsetting? My husband called me to tell me we have to pay more to the IRS and that made me so upset I needed another Pepsi. Its not easy to cope when so many terrible things happen right next to each other. My husband's parents passed away both were in bad health and the stress of thinking I should have done more was hard to move on and remember better times.
@barehugs (8984)
• Canada
8 Apr 08
Its all about your outlook on life! The study of Yoga and Meditation can reduce the stress in your life. Begin by visualising your Life as a Journey. Think of it as a Guided Tour. You are conducted each day by your Tour-Guide who is all knowing and very wise. You are able to relax as you travel to each tour site (place of business) knowing that whatever you find there will be interesting and your Guide will keep you safe. You have nothing to worry about. Each day's events are laid-on, so nothing happens by chance. (Its a Planned Tour.) Therefore you can sit back and enjoy each day for what it brings, with never a worry of Tomorrow, and never a thought of Yesterday. Life is what you make it! Nothing More, and Nothing Less!
@rhettaa (214)
• United States
8 Apr 08
Keep a journal. Writing it all down helps. Blogging like this helps, too. Do something nice just for yourself every day, even if it's just buying ice cream or a single flower. Whenever you feel really stressed out, breath deep. Count your breaths until you feel calmer. This really helps. Try to get out and walk as often as you can. Take it one minute, one hour, one day at a time. Remember, everything, no matter what, is only temporary.
@realgem1 (260)
• India
8 Apr 08
I am realy sory for the situation you are in. I would only suggest you to be calm and face everything comes in your life with a positive spirit and take it as a challange. yes, to get relieved from stress there are 24+ methods and 10+tips which are very effective for every one. To get the help on the same check this blog http://trainyourmind.blogspot.com
@Esoteric1 (866)
• Canada
8 Apr 08
theres probably no sure fire way to deal with stress as we are all different with different emotions and troubles but for the most part i just try anything to take my mind off what is stressing me i mean unless me actively thinking about it can accomplish something in your case i dont think you stressing will help matters so just try to do some things you like doing make sure your breathing remains normal and constant and try to relax i know thats easier said than done i hope all goes well for you take care and good luck