My Best Friends Husband

Nigeria
August 18, 2006 4:48am CST
What do i do,he lies to her and i've seen him with women, should i tell her?
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65 responses
@dellion (6704)
• Malaysia
25 Aug 06
As a best friend I think you got no reason for not telling her what you know but my advise to you was you should get some prove as your ground for telling the truth....with that at least you can let herself to see it first and based on her reaction to decide what to do next.........think it twice on how to tell but definately have to tell her.
• Nigeria
4 Oct 06
Hey! thanks have been thinking much about it lately, he is still doing it and is now telling his friends she is the on that is unfaithful.
@wdiong (1817)
• Singapore
6 Jan 07
yes, as her best friend ,you really ought to tell her. I would really appreciate it if I were your friend.
• Australia
25 Aug 06
Whats gives anyone of you the right to judge the dude? You all sit there with your ideals of what life should be but he aint bothring you is he? He is trying to srew you or harrass you? Ever thought that maybe this is his way of staying with her? Or maybe the girl is doing something his wife wont or cant and this is his only way to release his pent up fellings? I hate people who sit and wonder if they should tell others about there partners. He is married to her not you so back the FRACK off and deal with your own lives and let others deal with theres. It would cause your friend so mch pain, maybe divorce, do they have kids? you thought about them? hell its just not right to poke your nose into PERSONAL stuff.
@sunsham68 (1377)
• India
26 Nov 06
I am interested to be part of the one good debate I have seen on mylot, EVER. Ok here goes I don't understand why people cite instances where they did not tell as an excuse not to tell again. If you see your friend going towards a fire, wouldn't you tell them keep off? Its the same thing; here the chances of getting hurt are way more with each passing day. I hope you will seriously take this advice and break the news to your friend gently. At least this way she will hear it from someone who she considers(and is a friend - YOU) and you can choose to make it as gentle and easy as you can, under the circumstances. Its not a good thing to open up, but as a friend you owe it to her to keep her from further doubt and consequent pain.
@sunsham68 (1377)
• India
26 Nov 06
I am interested to be part of the one good debate I have seen on mylot, EVER. Ok here goes I don't understand why people cite instances where they did not tell as an excuse not to tell again. If you see your friend going towards a fire, wouldn't you tell them keep off? Its the same thing; here the chances of getting hurt are way more with each passing day. I hope you will seriously take this advice and break the news to your friend gently. At least this way she will hear it from someone who she considers(and is a friend - YOU) and you can choose to make it as gentle and easy as you can, under the circumstances. Its not a good thing to open up, but as a friend you owe it to her to keep her from further doubt and consequent pain.
@neztin (476)
• Singapore
4 Oct 06
you should tell her. i mean no point hiding the truth from her, after all, she's ur bestfriend, u dont want her to eb cheated by her guy, dont you. and if this is the best for your bestfriend, i think u shld tell her. but firstly, u have to confirm that the guy is cheating on her with the other girl(check out whether the girl is really his affair).
@neztin (476)
• Singapore
4 Oct 06
oh yes, and if she found out herself in the end, she will be so heart broken that u never let her know earlier on. and this may strain ur friendship with her also.
@ONUVICTOR (136)
• Nigeria
7 Jan 07
tell the husband first to change if goes on then let your friend know after all what are friends for
• Pakistan
6 Jan 07
as a frend u must tell her
• India
6 Jan 07
take her to some quite place, in the open. The place should be nice and pleasant. break it to her in a calm and cool way.
@srunaj (39)
• India
6 Jan 07
just leave along dont get carried away by others family matters she might have known first than you
• India
6 Jan 07
hey she is r best friend u need to tell her. if her husband is cheating on her then she should know. else u will feel guilty if her marraige breaks. tell her whatever u have seen
@dontataru (244)
• Romania
6 Jan 07
I think that it will be more good for both of them if you 1st talk with him, tell him that you know that he is cheating his wife and to stop to do that. If he still continue to cheat his wife (your girlfriend) try to disscus with her, but only after you talk with him
@domenyag (1273)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
You may tell her in indirect way. example: ask her what will she do if she finds her husband with another women? just ask her anything that will lead to the issue. it is very hard to tell her directly. she might think that you are destroying their happy family. If she still does not get the clue then you can tell her step by step...
• United States
6 Jan 07
I wouldn't tell her....I would approach him and let him know what you saw. I have seen a friends spouse with another man and that is what I did...scared the crap outta her and she fessed up herself. No drama, no threats, just the plain truth ~
@suren2k6cse (2624)
• India
5 Jan 07
i dont like this
@myrith (1830)
• Canada
5 Jan 07
Absolutely Not, it's not your place!
@sonix007 (275)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 06
yeah, u must tell her.
@nickventere (1423)
• Zambia
30 Dec 06
Ur friend might not believe u when/if u tell her. If there is proof and if he has a pattern that makes u to have "seen him with women" perhaps u should try to make ur friend see it for herself. That way she could get the story and ably confront him.
@andy_baex (428)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 06
i am sorry to hear that, but i think you must told her, because it is important for her married. don't worry if you do that because you do the right think. okey good luck to you
@bhu143 (525)
• India
30 Dec 06
first say her about this as astory happen to somebody else and see how she reacts then tell her that this what now happening in ur life
@missy1 (104)
25 Dec 06
make sure you have your fact straight before you do anything,then i would speak to him first and see if things change if you still feel the same after a while then as a true friend you should tell her what you know not what you think is going on just stick to the facts and let her make her own choice and support her no matter what her decision is.
• India
17 Dec 06
I dont think u should tell her. You might instead talk to the husband and probably slow him down on it. Its certain thet he would not stop but atleast his marriage could be saved.
• Philippines
17 Dec 06
if you really is her bestfriend you should tell her about what you see..or else if she knows you know her husband have someone and you did not tell her she will be hurt and get angry with you.