Do people actually read the posts before responding?

Canada
April 14, 2008 1:34am CST
Hi all I'm fairly new here and have not run into this problem too often, but I know it has happened to my mother frequently. She will post for example something to the effect of "I lost my dog" and will generate a response such as "I found a cat". That scenario is fictitious but it seems many people do not bother to read the whole post before submitting a response. What do you think about this? do you read it all? do you read all the responses? Do you try to answer the post the question was intended?, or do you write the first thing that comes to your head sometimes going off topic? Have you ever seen people doing such things on your own started discussions, or one you've responded to? Let me know your feelings on this topic.
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• United States
14 Apr 08
I only reply to posts that I read through. I try to respond only to things that I may have experienced or maybe have a little knowledge about. I don't think people should just respond just for the sake of responding. I only want to type things that interest me, I don't have that much energy to type stuff that doesn't interest me.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
Cool, I don't mind if people respond for the sake of responding ... if you read it, you are welcome to respond to it. Thank you for your response.
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@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
I read the discussions first before I make a response. I try my best to understand and answer it to the best I can. Sometimes I also get responses that are very far from my discussion. Not all people here are well versed in English so I think they just misunderstood the question, wasn't able to translate the whole question and got only a few words or associated the question with something else making his response a little misleading. I also avoid making rude comments if in case I receive a response not related to the topic.
• Canada
16 Apr 08
Good point thank you for responding.
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• United States
14 Apr 08
I read part of the posts and then put down what I want to say and then go back and read the reast of the post and try to answer any questions that they might have. I think people should stay on the topic that is being posted and not go elsewhere.
• Canada
16 Apr 08
I agree tho it doesn't hurt to expand the topic but leaving it behind idk thanks for responding.
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@winterose (39893)
• Canada
15 Apr 08
I read every the discussion posted before I respond, but some people don't like the respond. They ask a question but then argue with you over the answer, and that bugs me too. lol. I guess I am just getting old and cranky, but to me a discussion is expressing an opinion not trying to force the other person to accept your answer. Now how is that for going off topic, see how easy it can be done. back to topic yes I read the whole post and I try to answer accordingly.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
Thank you for responding, I can see why that would irritate you. I would think that would mostly be the younger members, tho not exclusive to the younger members. I got you beat! ... I am already old and cranky. Going off topic is fine you read my post and responded to it and expanded it. Subsequently coaxing a better comment out of me. :P
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@winterose (39893)
• Canada
16 Apr 08
responding to my lot discussions is truly an art lol
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• Canada
17 Apr 08
I agree and it pleases me when people show me their artistry.
@apsara60 (6611)
• Israel
14 Apr 08
Hello Esoteric1, I agree with you, many people including me, have made that mistake. We just look at the bold subject line and make hasty decision to reply without reading the rest of the post, which may sometimes be completely different from the subject line. I hope people on mylot will read this full discussion of yours and try to be careful next time. As for me I have started to read the whole discussion after I made few mistakes..... Have a nice day.
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• Canada
14 Apr 08
thank you for your response and honesty! I too am trying to fix any mistakes I my have started out making, and trying to avoid repeating them as well.
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@apsara60 (6611)
• Israel
14 Apr 08
Have a nice day.
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@Deea48 (1168)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Yep I have seen this happen, it has happened to me. You can tell they just read the title and respond. I have no idea why you would do this, because you would not get the full content of the disscussion. I however will often not read the responses already given, I find I can give a more genuine answer then. When I am done, I will read the replys and rate.
• Canada
16 Apr 08
Cool thank you for responding, I agree it can be more genuine if you do not read responses before posting.
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@4xmyworld (183)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 08
Esoteric1, To be frank i don't have time to read all responses. So i just read the start of the discussion Maybe my opinion is similar to some posted before me.. but what the heck. Yes sometimes i find confuse response made to mine. I was asking a question and it was not answered.. so i replied again and this can go on and on. Most people like to put 1 short line may it be a question of an answer. I understand that MyLot forbid this and these postings would not get any points.. but who am i to know. Be my friend http://url.e-vo.info/networking
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
Thank you for your time and opinion, it is perfectly fine to have similar views or answers as others in my opinion. I agree with you and thank you for your response.
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@stephcjh (32303)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I read the discussion before I respond to it. sometimes I will reread it also as I am responding to them so I can make sure to reply to every scenario they have given to me or questions to answer also. I have had people respond to my discussions without fully reading them. It bothers me sometimes because some people fly off of the handle but they may not have if they would have continued to read the whole post before responding to me.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
Yeah that would frustrate me also if people fly off the handle, tho it would bother me even if the read the whole discussion. If it happens to me that one should do that to me, I will try not to exacerbate a further confrontation. Thank you for responding.
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@joodzki6 (596)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
ofcourse i do read before i responded..it's a way of showing your appreciation and respect to someone's opinion. Reading and understanding one's written opinion is something that we need to respect..and giving an appropriate respond to it is something good that u can share to that person. no matter what it is...and i think we will feel the same way to our own written discussions. Hope i could give u a better answer on your topic. Have a great day to you and welcome to the mylot world.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
I agree with you, thank you for welcoming me, and thank you for your response and opinion.
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@dawnald (84199)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Apr 08
I read the post very carefully. Whether I read the entire discussion depends on the nature of the discussion. Like if the person is asking for my favorite song, for example, I just post that, and go back and read the discussion if I have time. But if it's a real give and take discussion that requires thought, I always read the entire thing first before responding. Partly so as not to look like an idiot. lol
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
ha ha good point, Thanks for responding.
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• Canada
14 Apr 08
I do read the initial discussion that was started before I answer the question. However I do not read all the posts to that discussion before answering as I use to do in the beginning. I don't read all the posts because I find that after reading them all I have nothing to say because I feel it as all been said. So I answer it and sometimes if I read all the posts before me I find other people said the same as me. Is it better not to read the post so we don't get the same answers or is it okay to have the same answers? What do you think of that? I personally think it is okay to have the same answers. Concerning reading the initial discussion that was started it does bother me when people don't read it in its entirity and often end up answering something that as nothing to do with the subject. I dont' think it happens that often on here but it does happen.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
I think it's ok to have the same answer or similar depending on the post. Some will only generate similar or even close to exact responses. I don't mind that tho I would like to feel the person did not just copy paste answers everywhere on the site. Thank you for responding.
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I read the full discussion before responding and I will also read the first page of responses as well. Now I will admit if there are many pages of responses I might not read all of them but I will do the first and last page, this way I know what I am responding to and also to make sure I don't just repeat what others are saying. Also if for some reason the discussion starter adds anything in to a response I can see it. Yes I have had it happen and not just with new members either. Many seem to read the subject and maybe the tags then go off that only. They don't bother to read the full discussion or any of the responses. It's very irritating actually. I really hate it when the response doesn't seem to have anything to do with the discussion. They just saw a word like dog in there and post "Oh yes I have a dog and it's great", well nice but we were talking about how dog wood trees. Those types I will let them know that it's off subject and they need to read before posting, which by the way is in the guidelines.
• Canada
16 Apr 08
That's the way to do it, Thanks for responding.
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@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I read the whole post. But, I think that you can add your own experience to some discussions. In an example like "I lost my dog", I might be tempted to express if I had lost a pet once. Just to show I could relate to the pain. And, perhaps once in a while, I will start on topic but branch a little still on topic but, a bit broader. But, it isn't for lack of reading the post. I just tend to have a lot to say and, sometimes something will pop into my head and, I just put it all out here! LOL! I can be a bit scatter brained sometimes! But, I haven't really experienced people not posting on topic. Once but, she corrected herself after she realized she did it.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
That's a very good point! I don't mind people relating to something written, it's just when it is way off. I see how my example was not the best I might have used. Thank you for responding.
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• United States
14 Apr 08
Dalmation cupcakes - oh my goodness. yummy dalmation cupcakes that look so good my mouth is watering right now as i type.
i noticed that too. i think maybe soem people dont know what they are typing after awhile. sometimes people write too much and its like dude am i suposed to read all of that. run on sentences and all??? lol its all good though.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
lol Good point, I tend to do that sometimes myself. :P Thank you for the response.
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• Bahamas
14 Apr 08
Hi Esoteric. I always read a post before i respond.Sometimes i read the responses if the postee is making a point clearer, but mostly i just go with what i'm feeling.I've seen this happen in a few discussions before though...I only respond to discussions i fully understand, and can add something to.
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• Canada
15 Apr 08
Thats a good way to do it, Thanks for responding.
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• India
14 Apr 08
well fortunitely i have not seen such posts till now. i have got a lot of responses to discussions i have started and do not seem to have an issue with any of them. hahahha i think that is funny, imagine writing about something which makes no sense to the discussion. i am sure someone should catch the culprits.
• Canada
15 Apr 08
lol thats funny, Thanks for the response.
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@subha12 (18449)
• India
14 Apr 08
i also have doubt. that day i started not a that much hard discussion. but the first response i got was way beyond the actual topic. i think many do not read the whole one . they just start responding reading the heading.
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• Canada
15 Apr 08
It can be mind boggling to make sense of some posts and I don't mean bad English or grammer etc. I agree thanks for responding.
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@yuanhuann (197)
• Malaysia
14 Apr 08
i write this by only reading your title. It is too lenghty if a title do not get straight to the point. We are making some discussions in Mylot, and i like that because it'll be like chit chat on MSN messenger. I don't like to read "great analysis".
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• Canada
15 Apr 08
What a coincidence you read eight words ... I read eight words, Thank you for responding. :P
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• United States
14 Apr 08
With so many people trying to make a limited amount of sentences. they may find it hard to find words to say. I have read a few posts and not to the end. The very long ones that look like they took a year to type. I will respond and also mention I did not read it all. I can surly respond on what I read from the post.
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• Canada
15 Apr 08
Good points, I don't always have the right words as I seldom remember how to spell most of them lol Thanks for responding.
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@Chispa514 (871)
• Montreal, Quebec
14 Apr 08
I think that alot of people don't bother to read entire posts especially when they are very long for the simple fact taht alot of people are only interested in getting their post count up, and not the actualy point of getting involved in a discussion
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• Canada
14 Apr 08
very good point about the count ups, thank you for your response.
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