What do you act in front of people... you knew who hate hate you?

Singapore
April 15, 2008 6:17am CST
Everytime we meet people, we cant expect them will like us and treat us well. Sometimes, i have to face such problem... I dont care what they think about me and how well or bad they treat me... i just be myself... there are many people which is better, so i dont care with a person who doesnt like. I just wonder, i didnt do bad to him/her, but sometimes there's rumor or gossip about me, that i even dont know the source, those things are lies! I even never talk with that person, but i knew from the way he/she looks at me (seemed angry or what...). How could there's enemy that i dont know... i like to make friends and enjoy to know new people, treat them well and never say something will hurt. In this case, i never relate with that person, never talk also! hahah... we cant make people like us... nothing to do with them. We cant force them, to change their mind... Let them be like that! hmmm....
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13 responses
@Ravenladyj (22919)
• United States
15 Apr 08
When i'm around someone I know doesnt like me I dont act any differently than when I'm around ppl who DO like me..I'm a very strong personality type person who really could care less what others think of me...Bottomline for me is this, as long as my kids love me..thats all that matters
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• India
16 Apr 08
i agree this to this when it comes toa closed circle of friends. but in an open forum we cannot keep saying what matters???
@stephcjh (38797)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Well, I try to stay away from those types of people. I know that they do not like me so I stay away from them if I can. I hate to act like everyhting is okay in front onf them when I know it isn't. I do not like them because they have judged me and they don't like me to begin with.
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@madlees (1379)
• India
15 Apr 08
I am a happy go lucky person, wherever I go i am happy to be with friends and relatives and have fun. But I also feel there are some who watch me a bit seriously as to what I was doing. If they do not like it, it is their worry. I will not change myself. If you do not like to talk to me well.. don't . That's my reaction. Why should we be different if they do not like us. I have seen one or two , they will be watching and staring at me with that smouldering eyes as if I was wrong in doing what I do . I used to get upset before, but after that I slowly started accepting the fact that we cannot satisfy all. Let them be... All the best
• Australia
15 Apr 08
I'm me and that's that - if someone doesn't like me, that's their problem, I don't care. Everyone is different, with different personalities, so we can't expect to get along with everyone. My friends like me so that's all I care about. I don't put on airs for anyone. If I can't be myself around someone than that someone is not worth being around.
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@kalav56 (11466)
• India
16 Apr 08
I just read through all the discussions and felt Wow!!!! what a confident set of people we have here. And the different insights. Very illuminating. I kept rating many discussions positive and I should say that your discussion is indeed thought provoking. Personally, there is a streak within me that protests against the unfairness of it all when I see injustice for no reason at all or due to some bias. I feel that I have done nothing [when I have really done nothing]to warrant such gossip and hatred-- [My husband constantly tells me that I should never ask for justice where emotions are concerned and there is nothing like that in this world where there is subjectivity] -- If I feel that there has been some cause[after all from another person's point of view] then I feel I should stay away from that person as much as is possible.[here in this case if there is no way to heal the breach between known parties]. If it is a case of totally unknown i just couldn't care less.
@kalav56 (11466)
• India
16 Apr 08
I like to be nice to people and be friendly and warm but it is not a case of reciprocity at all times. For no reason or upon hearsay, people become vindictive and what can we do about it? It does pain me a lot when people do not realize that I would just like to be friendly but with a bit of respect from their side. I hate relationships and friendships that cannot respect me as a person.
@kalav56 (11466)
• India
16 Apr 08
I just keep away from them because I cannot act.
• Singapore
16 Apr 08
i really appreciate mylot-ers responses. They have variety answer. Haha.. indeed thought provoking? ;) Its just based on my observation when relate to other people... we may face such condition. Thanks for your sharing ideas... Have a nice day!
@SHAMRACK (8586)
• India
16 Apr 08
Dear friend, Life is itself is a big drama, God has given each of with a role we have to play it well. I change my attitude to child and act to make the child happy. Not only I act in front of people to make them comfortable more over some acting could help me to know what they are. Some acting make me to fall into traps. Still I just do not like to hurt others by exposing what is inside me. Hence I had to act for the benefit for myself and others. In some cases I have to use my self control. My life goes well if I could make other well to me. So I try myself maximum to make my life well.
• Singapore
16 Apr 08
yeah... life is a big drama, with many people that can act good and bad. Its not drama, if all people are protagonist, not antagonist. And we cant force antagonist to be protagonist... What do you think? Life is better from the way you manage it, but it doesnt mean other person will affect your life totally, right? hehe. i agree with you, i also always try to make my life well...
@yesah65 (158)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I have to say that I disagree with you, that there are better people than yourself. No human being is better than the other. Some have more money, nicer things, but if that's all they are, they are at a big loss. A lot of people THINK they are better, but we all feel, live and die the same. Under the heavens, there is none better.
• Singapore
16 Apr 08
yeah. we all feel, live and die. no man is immortal person. but how you react with person that you knew they dont like you...
• China
16 Apr 08
I don't expect everyone to love me. I live for them who know and love me. For those people who hate me, I ignore their looking, talking and thinking. They are out of my life and they are not important for me at all.
@yoj118 (346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
I don't want to make a facade just so others would like me.. I want to be myself.. if they hate me, I don't mind.. It's their choice as long as I know what I'm doing.. I know myself better than others.. I know I don't hurt them in any way... Let them do all the gossips/rumors they want to spread because if it ain't the truth it ain't work.. truth always prevail and in the end they will just be the losers....
@elflying (55)
• China
16 Apr 08
Be yourself,great,that's all you need to do.And don't bother youself whether there's rumor or gossip,maybe those people are just jealous!It is impossible to let everyone like you,but that is not because you're not so good as someone else.We should all think ourselves the best.
@Shaun72 (15964)
• Palatka, Florida
15 Apr 08
The only person that I know that hates me is my ex husband's new wife. I was her at Walmart she gave me a dirty look I just smiled at her and then she turned around and started talking about me to my ex husband. Sometimes smiling is the best thing to do.
@ratburn (939)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
i just be myself. i can't please everyone and the more you try to be someone else, the more they will hate you. if they don't like me, then so be it. there's nothing i can do about it.
@jstaubin (423)
• United States
15 Apr 08
If I am around a person that either hates me or has been gossiping about me I tend to be as nice and polite as possible. Espescialy when they have never met me but have been running around town spreading rumors about me. I take some small pleasure in killing them with kindness.