daughter overtired, worried

Canada
April 15, 2008 6:43pm CST
i keep getting letters from the school that my daughter is really tired at school and can't function right. she has been going to bed every night (even weekends) at 7 and getting up at 7 for school in the morning. she's been on this schedule for a year now. she's 4 by the way. should she really be that tired during the day. could something else be wrong? and she does fall asleep right away, it's not like she's playing in her bed or anything like that at night
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• United States
15 Apr 08
She could be one of the kids who still needs naps at the least. She could also have a sleep disorder like sleep apnea. Sleep apnea is when a person stops breathing a significant amount of time during sleep. When you stop breathing, you wake up, breath normal again and go back to sleep. Most people aren't even aware they are waking up, yet have no reason for being tired after 10 hours of sleep. In children with sleep apnea the first treatment is usually removal of the tonsils and adenoids and that tends to clear it up. If the child has no tonsils, then a sleep study with a CPAP machine would be the best route to go. Either way, you should bring up your concerns with the pediatrician, and have a sleep study done to try and determine how well she sleeps in that 12 hours.
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• Canada
15 Apr 08
thanks, she's had apnea spells as a baby but that was because she was born 3 months preemature. she hasn't had a spell since she was about 3 months old. as far as i know anyway. i'll start by going to the dorctors and see what he says. thanks
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
16 Apr 08
She could be low in iron. That could make her look and feel tired all of the time. Does she eat well balanced meals? I think she may be lacking something in her daily diet and she is feeling tired from not having the nutrients for daily energy. I would try her on some nutritional drinks. They make them for children also.
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• United States
16 Apr 08
Dark leafy greens, proteins (like most nuts and meats) contain good amounts of iron. I've been anemic my whole life, as have my mother and sisters. My son hasn't, thank God, but he does get extremely tired during growth spurts. I remember when I was a kid and I'd get the "sleepy spells", I would sleep literally for a couple of days at a time. As a toddler and a teen especially. There was one episode where my sister and parents called an ambulance because I was asleep for three days. I woke once to use the bathroom and get a drink of water after 2 days. I'd say let her sleep, but get her checked out just to be sure. If her appetite is good and she enjoys her activities when she's not tired, she may just be growing. See about getting her iron drops while she's going through this. It will make her feel so much better. Also get yourself checked while you're at it; iron deficiency tends to be passed down. If that doesn't work, you could try pulling one or two extracurricular activities to see if she perks up. I just think it's odd that such a young child is involved in so much. My kid rarely even goes to daycare; he's always too busy playing with the neighborhood kids. Blessed Be
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
she's only in a 45 minute dance class once a week, so i don't think it's that affecting her. it's not late, she's home in time for bed that night.
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
16 Apr 08
Daycare does make kids more tired! how much does she weigh? How tall is she? The only problem with iron supplements, is the disease that some people have, where they store too much iron and the body cannot get rid of it fast enough! This also makes people more tired, and often the person shows low blood iron, since they tend to avoid food with iron in it! The only solution for it is having your blood drawn every so many weeks, so it does not damage your organs! She may also have allergies.
• Australia
15 Apr 08
She's only 4? Gee, any 4 year old gets tired! Does she have a nap at school? Normal 4 year olds need a nap. Also, even though she goes to sleep straight away, doesn't mean she's not waking during the night. That could make her tired. But, really, she sounds like an normal 4 year old to me.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
i'm sorry but 4 year olds aren't tired the second they wake up from a 12 hour sleep til the second they go to bed that night. it's not normal to be really tired 24-7.
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• Australia
16 Apr 08
Do you know if she's waking during the night? That could be it. Have you spoken to a doctor? Maybe she needs some tests, even if just to eliminate possible causes. She may just be lacking in something (iron, potassium, for instance). You know your little girl better than anyone, so if you think what is happening isn't right, trust your instincts, take her to a doctor. I hope all goes well.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
i have cronic insomnia and i'm an extremely light sleeper. i don't hear her wake up during the night. some nights she does but it's rare and i always hear her on those nights. so i don't think she is waking up but then i can't be completely sure since i'm sleeping as well. not too sure what is going on. but i now she was never like this a while back. it's just lately, (last few months)
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@rombi001 (943)
15 Apr 08
It could be iron deficiency or maybe some vitaminC But it could also be that she needs some company... You should try to get her involved in activities where kids at her age are... If she is to tired to join then you should see a doctor...
• Canada
15 Apr 08
she is in activities, she takes jazz and tap dance. thanks, never thought of low iron, maybe i'll see the doc.
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@rombi001 (943)
15 Apr 08
sometimes I feel exhausted when I'm practically doing nothing... and its usually low iron... Also ask her if she get dizzy when she lifts her head up quickly while having it down between her knees... that could also be a sign of low iron...
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
thanks a lot for the advice, i appreciate it
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@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
15 Apr 08
have you taken her to the doctors yet just to make sure that everything is ok with her? other than that, i would just say it could be her age. mykids went to junior kindergarten when they were 4 and they still napped during the afternoon...its a long day for a little one.
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• Canada
15 Apr 08
no i haven't taken her yet. i think i'm going to. i have a checkup for her booked next month so i think i'll mention it then
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
16 Apr 08
You should definitely call the doctor now and tell about the tiredness! You may be able to move the appointment up to a sooner date. It is very important the she be tested and screened. There are many reasons for a sympton of tiredness at her age! I do believe the children this age need twelve hours of sleep at night plus two during the day!
@BzyBee (26)
• United States
16 Apr 08
Is she unhappy or are there kids picking on her at school or does she feel like she don't have a best friend? It is unlikely that she don't have a close friend at the age of 4 because kids at that age like to talk to everybody but maybe she is shy or feels she is pushed into something she isn't ready for.
• Canada
16 Apr 08
no she loves school. she is so excited to go all the time, she gets mad when she is sick and i keep her home. she has one little girl who she is really close to at school and they have a blast together. so i don't think that's the problem
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@coffeeshot (3786)
• Australia
16 Apr 08
Have you checked out her sight? Sometimes poor eye sight can make the child strain to see the blackboard and this can cause tiredness. If I were you I'd take her to the doctor to find out if she's lacking something in her diet or if she needs further medical attention. She could just be sleeping badly at night, tossing and turning for some reason. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
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• Canada
16 Apr 08
thanks, don't think it's poor eye sight, she's been checked and has glasses that she just got so they should be working fine. however i know i toss and turn all night and don't sleep good and i'm always tired as well so maybe she does the same.
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@rombi001 (943)
15 Apr 08
but then again when you are 4 years old you do need about 12 hours of sleep... That is the average amount of sleep they need... So I wouldn't be worried if she just likes to sleep 12 hours a day...
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• Canada
15 Apr 08
i know kids need 12 hours, that's not the issue. she is getting that, some days more. she sometimes goes down at 6:30. my worry is that she is still so tired all day. they say at school the mornings it's hard for her to concentrate and she's so exhausted at school. if your getting enough sleep she shouldn't be so tired.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
16 Apr 08
i know how you feel,i was geting the same thing from my sons teather. now they are telling me he is bord,which i do think could be part of it cuz my son hates wrighting and coloring and things. other then that what about iron deficiency. when i was in school i had a hard time with sleeping. i would be over tired in school and then come home and sleep eat dinner and go to bed. i was about 12 at the time my mom took me to the doctors and they did some blood test and said that was my problem. i took some iron pills and it did help. i still to this day have a hard time with sleep. good luck
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@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
your daughter is just a kid and kids do a lot of playing. it can be that she gets to play a lot in school which made her too tired in the classroom. it can also be due to lack of nutrients, kids need more nutrients than adults to support their growing muscles, most kids nowadays are hard to feed which cause they to get insufficient nutrients. if your kid is among them, you can give her food supplements like vitamin C, iron and zinc. consult your pedia about it.
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• United States
16 Apr 08
I think it would be good for you to take her to the doctor. She may have a thyroid condition or something else wrong. It probably is something minor that can be fixed. Does she need to nap during the day maybe? How does she act when she is not in school? Does she play or does she act tired? Is she depressed? Some kids need more sleep than others. I would be worried. Has there been a big change in her life that may make her depressed. I am not trying to scare you even more it is just some things to think about. A child the age of four may not not know how to describe what she is feeling. Good luck to you.
@athinapie (1151)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
maybe your daughter is just worn out... that's really rare coz kids are very active during that stage. maybe you should go see your doctor. i guess another factor is that maybe your daughter may not be motivated enough to be active. anyway, just stay by her side and she'll be okay. =)
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@clei914 (28)
• United States
16 Apr 08
I'm not going to worry you or anything by telling you that something is definately off. If you feel more comfortable going to a doctor and telling him/her what's going on, I would do that. I can say, though, that I was overly tired once and for no good reason. I would drift in and out of sleep, take naps, be disoriented, etc. and I'm twenty-five! I started taking a multiple vitamina and iron and the tired feeling that I was experiencing did go away. So it could be that she needs vitamins or iron. However, I'd go get her checked just in case!
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@jc00771 (155)
• China
16 Apr 08
take care. ask her teacher or classmates to see if there was something wrong. and you just see if she is ok in the next days. if not, go to see the doctor. little child and tiny and need more considerations in order to make sure they grow well healthyly.
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• United States
16 Apr 08
Eventhough they say that sleep is good for our little ones since you are this worried about her I would go ahead and take her in to the doctor and have them look at her. She may just be lacking some vitamins in her diet and they say that we sleep more when we are growing so maybe she is going through a growing stage in her life right now. Keep us updated as to what you learn.
@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
16 Apr 08
It sounds like she might be low on iron. I would call the doctor and ask if they could do a blood test and check things out. It may be that it is just so much for her that it tires her out, but you want to be sure.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
16 Apr 08
tired child - should be checked out by a doctor to be sure nothing is wrong
Good gosh, it sounds like she's getting more than enough sleep to make it through the next day. I would most definetely have her checked out by the doctor for there could be something wrong with her. It may not be anything at all but it's always better to be safe than sorry.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Apr 08
Could be a medical condition, either a sleep disorder where she's not getting enough sleep or some other thing that's making her tired. I'd definitely have her checked out by a doctor!
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• Philippines
16 Apr 08
you try multivitamins and see a doctor
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
16 Apr 08
Here is a website that I found for you! You can research it and tell the doctor which symptoms she has! http://www.sleepnet.com/children2000.html