is it possible to love????
By BYOLA2871
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
South Africa
April 18, 2008 3:56pm CST
a lady was talking confidently with her friend on my trip to another province and she was so sure of herself,the topic was about hopw much she was in love with two guys at the same time,i was surprised cos i have always thought its impossible to love two at a time,its either you love one or you are in lust with the other or there is a gain fromeither relationship.is it possible to love two people at the same time?
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@kezabelle (2974)
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18 Apr 08
Of course it is but it isnt possible to love two people in exactly the same way you can love them both but it will be two different types because they wll be different people and ultimatley one will always get hurt
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
18 Apr 08
so i need to understand that there is another level of love that causes you to love people in a relationship between a man and a woman that make you love two people with different kind of love?isnt that lust or what term can i use for it?
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I think it is possible and happens quite often! However, when it comes to getting hurt, that only happens when one person asks the other person to choose which one they will stay with! If polygamy was legal, they could all live together and still be happy!
@kezabelle (2974)
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18 Apr 08
Its still love, for example how you loved a first love might not be how you feel with a second love but doesnt mean you love them any less just in a different way because the people are different so you love and admire different things about them, that is how it is easy to love two people at the same time especially if they are very different.
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@Lambchoper (538)
• United States
18 Apr 08
Yes is possible and it's wonderful to be that open with your willingness to love. You know that old saying Love: The more you give the more you get. Loving more than one person at a time doesn't mean you necessarily have to have a relationship with both.
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
18 Apr 08
this is another angle you brought to the discussion,and i guess you also have a point
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@Darkwing (21583)
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23 Apr 08
Yes, you can love two people at the same time, but you can't devote all your love to both of them. Therefore, you don't love them both in the same way. Love grows from friendship and it's perfectly possible to love to people, but very difficult to keep two actual relationships going.
Brightest Blessings.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
1 May 08
you are very right my friend and what more the same applies to a man,there is no way you can give a woman the same intesity and time at the same time
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
23 Apr 08
yes good from from you my friend,i agree with you,one of the two will definitely suffer neglect from you as you cannot be in the same place at the same time,you just cant really have the same affection for both
@constant91 (14)
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18 Apr 08
it is possible to love anyone or anything, love is a waiting game. you need to wait to find the thing you love, however the thing you love may take you a year to love it. you might be talking to the person now that you will love one day.
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
18 Apr 08
yes i agree with you that love is a feeling that grows over time from our emotionsand you just cant explain how you came about it especially between a man and a woma,but i cant seem to understand loving two men at the same time
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@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
Its possible to fall in love with someone. But to fall in love two at a time...I guess so. Sometimes our heart so bias to feel that way. It's hard for me to prove that fact coz i never had kind of experienced. My heart really belong to one person everytime i fall in love.
But if ever it comes..You should know HOW to choose or No one to choose of the two. I guess that is an abnormality of our heart sometimes. Know how to compare and to balance in making your choice.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
1 May 08
you are right ,sometimes we feel we are in love whereas we only are infactuated with the other person,inorder not to make a wrong and foolish decision,there is a need for us to truly check why we want to be with that person,is it because of one thing or the other?or material things and sometimes its just because we cant explain it but really the heart will always go for just one person at a time without a reason why the other person may be for a personal or selfish or material reason,i hope you agree with me?
@Remando (175)
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18 Apr 08
I don't think I have ever experienced true, heart-felt world-altering being in love, but I think part of that package is a disclaimer that it can only be with one particular person, so personally no, I don't think you can be in love with two people at once.
It's just plain greedy!
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@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
18 Apr 08
well i thought so too but i see some of my friends here think different,maybe there is really something she was looking for that she ahs not found
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I have loved more than one person at a time. The two people did not feel the same for me though. Only one of them truly loved me back. The other one just wanted me for a few minutes and that was it.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
27 Sep 08
its funny how people say they can love two peopole at the same time and in the same way i still dont know how possible that is i believe one will be love and the other a crush,which does not last,what do you think?
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
21 Apr 08
That must be hard, personally, I will say it's not! Among the 2 I'm sure, one will get the highest level, it will not be equal! I wonder how she managed her time dealing with two different people and claiming she love them both equally! She must be tough!..hahahha! Anyway, it has been said that everything is possible so maybe for others it is!
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
23 Apr 08
yes for some people impossibilities are just a piece of cake ,and it will be a little tough,
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
7 Oct 08
[i]Hi BYOLA,
I have not been in this situation but I guess it is very possible! I remember a friend in college who experienced this and later on, he tried to assess their behavior and personality and choose one to marry! [/i]
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
8 Oct 08
yes i do understand that sometimes we tend to believe that we love two peopel but if we do a good analysis of our feelings we will discover that deep down inside we only feel some thing for just one of them and the other feeling may be for a reason and from my understanding of what love is it is not based on a reason but on deep setting feelings which comes naturally without being based on any factor,i hope you agree with me?
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
19 Apr 08
It is indeed possible to feel love for two or more people, even romantic love! Just as we love both of our parents and our children, we can love as many people as we meet! but the question is, can we trust the other persons, to be honest and show their true natures? I know of women who thought they were in love, but the other person was only showing one side of himself, actually a completely fake side, so she was in love with a fictional character! The other problem with loving too much is the fear, jealousy and hatred that may arise from the two men if they know about each other! Sometimes they do not mind, but it is human nature (modern human nature) to be resentful of the second person!
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
actually you we always love one person. in our hearts there is a space for only one person.
but, sometimes a person would have two people if s/he feels insecure and afraid that the person S/HE loves would go away. well, I feel it is super wrong to do that.
that is what i think.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
23 Apr 08
i agree with you that we can onlyhave one person to love but the feeling of insecurity sometimes will make a person want to look for what i refer to "as extra spanner"just in case of a dissappointment,but i believe that sometiems we allow ourselves get into some trouble with this kind of attitude of looking for an extra hand,dont you think so?
@sunkistroses401 (281)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I definitely think it is possible to love 2 people at once but the love for both of them is never equal you always love one more. In this lady's case I would say that she just doesn't know which one she loves more... I love a whole lot of people but none of them compare to my boyfriend and the love I feel for him and I love the other people in different ways... like my best friend who is a guy I love him because he has always been there for me and at one time we did date but now I see that I only love him as a friend... not sure if this helps at all because I kind of got off topic a bit but thanks for reading anyways.
