My husband did loose his job :o(
By sedel1027
@sedel1027 (17846)
Cupertino, California
April 18, 2008 7:39pm CST
Ergh. I have been the supportive wife all week. Helping him find a new job. I have even made contact with a few people I know in different businesses. Thankfully his last job did pay him through 4/15 and it included his raise, so his check was bigger than expected.
He has an interview with a temp agency that has a few job that we saw online that he qualifies for on Tuesday. They sent him the test for Flash, Networking and some other ocmputer skills. He blew them out of the water. He got the highest scores that office has ever seen LOL 
He also has an application in with a friend of mine, she is trying to set him up with some temp clerical work until he finds something permentant.
Now the 1st is right around the corner and I am scambling to make money somehow. We have money in the savings account, but I am trying to not touch it. We tried to take back our move out notice and we can't. We have to be out by 5/31. Tomorrow we are paying the $400 deposit to our new complex in order to get $500 off of our June rent. Movers are costing us $595, but we have to pay our current complex 2 months rent to get our deposit back. My parents were going to front us some of the money. I was trying to avoid borrowing anything though.
To make matter worse....he got a bill from a college he attened. He dropped out in 2006, but apprently they screwed up. He had gotten a rebate check that he wasn't suppose to get and somewho they found the error and want him to pay $430 by May 1 or they are sending it to collections! Ack!
That was my crappy week..
I am trying to be the supportive wife and that isn't working too well either. I am really ready for him to just have another job and not be at home goofing off all day bugging the heck out of me!
He also has an application in with a friend of mine, she is trying to set him up with some temp clerical work until he finds something permentant.
Now the 1st is right around the corner and I am scambling to make money somehow. We have money in the savings account, but I am trying to not touch it. We tried to take back our move out notice and we can't. We have to be out by 5/31. Tomorrow we are paying the $400 deposit to our new complex in order to get $500 off of our June rent. Movers are costing us $595, but we have to pay our current complex 2 months rent to get our deposit back. My parents were going to front us some of the money. I was trying to avoid borrowing anything though.
To make matter worse....he got a bill from a college he attened. He dropped out in 2006, but apprently they screwed up. He had gotten a rebate check that he wasn't suppose to get and somewho they found the error and want him to pay $430 by May 1 or they are sending it to collections! Ack!
That was my crappy week..
I am trying to be the supportive wife and that isn't working too well either. I am really ready for him to just have another job and not be at home goofing off all day bugging the heck out of me!2 people like this
10 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Oh sedel, I am so sorry..
My when it rains here it pours, I am seeing a many friends here who are struggling financially,physically and emotionally in the last 24-48 hours..Including myself..
I pray your husband finds another job, one that he likes better and pays better and with more security..
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Apr 08
Me too! The thing is (I don't remember if you read my other post), they fired him all because they knew he really didn't want to be in support and the programmer manager just didn't think he was right for the position that he was going to be promoted to over the summer(they guy knew that when they hired hubby).
It is really screwed up becuase they told him what a great job his was doing, then fired him. WTF is that BS? They are going to give him an awesome referral to boot.
Really ticks me off. This was suppose to be the awesome job he was going to keep for at least 2 years!
Honestly, I really think he is jinxed or something. Every time he gets a great job something happens. He said the other day that he feels like he missed a day of class when they tuaght everyone how to be an adult 
I told him to call or message his boss to try to get his job back, but he won't. Heck, I would! The guy he was working under really liked him.
I told him to call or message his boss to try to get his job back, but he won't. Heck, I would! The guy he was working under really liked him.1 person likes this
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Apr 08
That is the outlook I am keeping. That temp company where he blew their tests out of the water has about 10 tech jobs, hopefully they will just hand him one to start next week.
Hopefully, where ever he gets on, they will have a manager that likes him and there is a lot of work to work to do.
Hopefully, where ever he gets on, they will have a manager that likes him and there is a lot of work to work to do.@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I think I did read that post, and you said you were concerned about him losing his job..I am sorry it turned out this way, but maybe something better is waiting for him..*hopeful*
@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
19 Apr 08
Oh wow I am so sorry to hear this. I really hope he finds a job soon that is more secure. Sometimes I take it for granted that my husband has a job to begin with. I know money isn't everything but lets face facts, we need money to live!! I really hope soon he'll get another job, a better one too!
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Apr 08
I take it for granted as well. Honestly, if we weren't moving and we had not bought him a car in November, I wouldn't be so far up his butt about finding a job ASAP. I know that sometimes it takes up to 6 months for him to a find a job, and normally we can eek out that time on my salary & the savings account.
@MGjhaud (23251)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
Well, that's sad. I hope your husband will get back on track as soon as he can. So he'll be able to pay your dues. It's really hard when you don't have a fixed income every month and you have a family to feed to. That's a problem. Just talk to him about your situation and find ways together to solve your problem.
I hope your husband will get back on track as soon as he can. So he'll be able to pay your dues. It's really hard when you don't have a fixed income every month and you have a family to feed to. That's a problem. Just talk to him about your situation and find ways together to solve your problem.@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Apr 08
Oh, he knows that we can not live on my salary alone. I only work PT. I can cover all the bills but his car payment, insurance and the rent on my pay at this apartment. When we move almost my entire months salary is the rent.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I am very sorry to hear that. My husband lost a good paying job last year and we now work seven days a week to make it because he makes alot less money now. I wish you and your husband the best for the future though.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
24 Sep 08
After he lost his job, took about 2 months to find a new one. His "new job" is actually an old job he has. When he started back he was still a contractor and they were paying him $20/hr. After they hired him his pay dropped a bit, but he gets to work from home 2 days a week (not sure if this is good or bad; I know it saves gas money & toll, but he is home running the A/C cooler than I do and eating more lol). Only bad thing, it isn't enough to pay all the bills (so on the 1st, we have enough to cover rent but not all the other bills due). My new job is starting to pick up and I hope it does. If I can even 20 hours a week, I will be making what I was working at my last job 30 hours a week.
@nice030481 (1109)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
my husband now want to resign from his work, he don't like his fellow worker in his work and also his officer in charge,
Yesterday, he decided to resign. I tell him, go on with what he want, i will not force him to work in a place he dont want to. i support him eventhough i know that i am the one to support our family if he loose his job. He said He wanted to start a small business, then i say go on, and i know he can do it, i believe in him and i will support him.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Apr 08
I understand you are supportive of that, but why didn't he find another job first? I think I would have been pretty ticked off.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Apr 08
No because it takes almost a month for unemployment to kick in (if it got approved) and it wouldn't anywhere near enough money to even help with the bills. We are hoping that he will have a temp job to work next week and we would get paid the week after. Well, he will at least have a low end clerical job to work next week, and hopefully a high end tech job the week after that.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
20 Apr 08
Sorry to hear that Sedel. I am sure he will find something permenant soon. Sometimes those temp positions turn into permanent if they like you enough
Sorry you can't back out of the move, but if it is a better thing for you to move, then that is what you need to do.
I am glad you have your parents to help you out with the money, it does look like a difficult situation to be in right now. Unfortunately this kind of thing is going on all over right now.
I wonder how they found that mistake. lol Seems to me that it would have been a deep secret for a while. If you don't have the money, call them and explain that your husband is out of work and see if they can help with a deferred payment or something.
Good Luck
Sorry you can't back out of the move, but if it is a better thing for you to move, then that is what you need to do.
I am glad you have your parents to help you out with the money, it does look like a difficult situation to be in right now. Unfortunately this kind of thing is going on all over right now.
I wonder how they found that mistake. lol Seems to me that it would have been a deep secret for a while. If you don't have the money, call them and explain that your husband is out of work and see if they can help with a deferred payment or something.
Good Luck 
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I went through the same thing when my husband lost his job a few years ago. I let him lay around the house and feel sorry for himself too long. Its best to get another job as fast as he can. The longer it takes the harder it is to get them motivated. Not to mention you need help with the bills.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Sedel, I am sorry to hear about this. It happens, and there is more of it happening at this time than in many years. hopefully he will get a job even a temp, while you are getting settled in again. moving on top of losing a job has to be tough. I honestly feel for you, we have been in your shoes many times as well.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Apr 08
Thanks Angel.
Yeah, every time he gets an awesome job, something seems to happen. You would think that I would be use to it. Normally, there is some kind of warning though. This was a big shick.
I stil don't understand how they can give him all these pats on the back about doing a good job, exceedig their expectations, and then fire him because "he didn't want to be there" because they knew down the road he wants to program video games. Ergh Stupid managers. I am really starting to hate tech supervisors.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
I am so sorry to hear about this sedel1027. Cost of living is getting expensive as time goes by. I do hope that you will be able to get through this. I hope that your husband will be able to find a good job soon. It really gets frustrating when you realize that there's so much expense but you do not have enough money in your pocket for all these. Continue on being very supportive. He will need all the support he could get, especially from you. Take care and I wish you all the best!
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Apr 08
I am tryingto be supportive. He is annoy the heck out of me though so all I really want to do is kick him in th eshins. I know that is wrong, but I would feel better. I am too evil for my own good.
Hoepfully Tuesday goes okay because we need the money ASAP. Right now I am trying to find additional ways to make money online. I think tat cllege bill is just going into collections. I don't know if we could have paid that even without him loosing his job because of this move.
