Ever Look Around and Say THIS IS NOT MY LIFE?

United States
April 18, 2008 10:14pm CST
I have said that repeatedly the last few days! I have a daughter who ran away from home because of a boy, a house full of people majority of which could work and contribute but one at least that has not tried very hard, we had to sell our main mode of transportation and really have nothing but a half broke down car. Top all this off with my sister had the cops called on her for drugs and she thinks I did it! Which I did not!! I do not want to play any more, I want to pack my toys and go home!! Wait no someone elses home, lol. I need a vacation but can not afford one!!!! What do you do when the stress reaches an all time high?
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@mnflower (1301)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Wow shewolf I feel for you, I think I would run someone in the open and scream at the top of my lungs and then take a deep breath and tell yourself my life starts over now and take control back of you life and if the rest of the family don't follow you so be it, do it for yourself..I know it is touch I am on the opposite way of you..My stepson come home with his girlfriend who is 17 and she run from home and they come with the package of our 1 month old granddaughter. Now if that wasn't nuts ..Took alot to straighten it all out but the kids all live with us now and her parents really don't care that she left. So they are working on getting there family together and things are going good but it took 4 months to do so, alot of crying and terrible phone calls and threats and believe me I went outside and scream because my life was peaceful with no drama and caos, you just have to remember you have to take care of yourself and the rest will follow and your daughter will come back..Life is tough and when they realize how much she misses you they will come back, family pain is the worst kind of pain anyone can feel and it seems to cut worse than anything else.good luck sweety we are here for you.
@starr4all (2865)
19 Apr 08
I've been feeling like that a lot lately. I'm taking care of my three boys (7, 4, and 7 months). My husband is in korea for a year (military-we're going on month 6 now.) The boys are acting out without him here, my youngest is teething. I'm with my husbands family but they don't understand not having a family member there and they definatley don't understand the military life. I know it will get better but some days I wonder what happened. Wish I had some advice for you.
• United States
19 Apr 08
That is tuff, I do have my own place to go crazy in and a husband home to drive crazier than me! To bad we all live so far apart we could get together and scream. I hope it gets better for you soon.
• United States
19 Apr 08
I have thought kinda like this except my line of thinking is what if i did this differently. I think you just need a day to relax by yourself. Order in some food and unplug the phone so as not to be disturbed. Or go out for a night on the town. Also for stress i tend to write all my problems out on a peice of paper and then come up with ways to fix them. I'm sorry to hear that your daughter ran away. Is it because you didn't approve of the boy or just because he convinced her to? Obviously your sister doesn't trust you for some reason. Why would she automatically believe you did it instead of other friends or family. Maybe you can start saving a few coins everyday to put towards fixing your car or buying a used car.
@mrsjbelle (1641)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Unfortunitly, I have been doing this alot lately. I wish I had an answer. If you figure it out please share:) Take care hope it gets better for you.
• United States
19 Apr 08
I know its crazy right? Who would of thought? Not me I tell you that! I think if it gets warm enough Im taking my husband and the tent and disappearing for the weekend! Let you know how it goes.
@healer (1783)
• India
19 Apr 08
I think you are going through a lot at the moment, but my friend thats what life is and we have to accept it. Some times all the unimaginable things will happen one after another or at the same time and its hard to cope all those but we have to keep the faith. Sometimes we question a lot why this to me?, or i don't deserve this, but this will end one day and things will be our way again and at that time we will experience the beauty of life and the wisdom that we have learned from the troubles that we have faced once and we will thank for it. Things get tough at times but God won't send us any difficulties which we cannot handle. Be strong and good luck to you.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Oh my gosh I understand completely, I don't handle stress very well. The thing that helps me when things get really bad is a long hot shower or some time to myself go for a walk or just crawl under the covers and watch a good movie lock the bedroom door turn off the cell phone and just hide lol.
• United States
19 Apr 08
It is funny because I have been going through a really tough time lately too and I often ask what couldl I have done that was so terrible that I must pay for it over and over again. I still get no answers for that question but it seems that the paying is not over yet for me. What I do is I find something positive in my life no matter how small and that is what I focus on then I find one thing that needs to change and I force myself to change whatever it was but I keep focusing on the posotive so that I get through whatever it is. When I am done and have made it through this tough time I should be much stronger and able to handle more. Keep your chin up and remember we are never given more than we can handle and you may not think that you can handle it but you must truly be able to or you would not be going through it.
@meiji15 (664)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
in my case, it would be, 'do i deserve this life?' a loving mother, an intelligent dad, supportive siblings and friends. and i, i am the black sheep of the family. in the span of two years, i've had two jobs, both of which i resigned because of incompetent bosses. i know i have to chip in in our finances, but i opted to quit my job and burden my parents with financial and attitudal headaches. again, do i deserve this life?
@jesbellaine (4155)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
Oh yeah, definitely! I just said that to myself out loud last week because I got fed up with my work and I am not liking it anymore plus the fact I can't file a vacation since we have lots to do in the office. Well, one of my stressful days, I guess!
• India
19 Apr 08
Well, not me really. I'm still studying and my aspirations still need some time to take shape. And maybe then I'll have to say that if I fail to fulfill my dreams. For now, I never had to say that, and sorry that you have to face so many situation at once.. As you say it, sometimes a vacation changes it all, an off from normal life. I'm planning to run away from home after these exams I have in a month and come back after a week. lol.. that would be one situation .. They would surely beat me black and blue after I return. hehe .. When I'm completely stressed, I just sit in a corner, thing what caused the stress and try to keep it away from me. Many a times, my parents and my friends cause enough stress to drive me crazy. I just switch off the phone, go offline, sit in a corner with my best friend, the book. I have always wanted to have a pet and almost succeeded in having one, but my mum doesn't want pets at home. So had to let it go. But the 2 days I spent with it, were like so joyful and good that I could never forget them.. Get a pet would be my advice. Although sometimes getting the wrong one can add to the stress. Other than that, you could develop the habit if having walks. Music is another stress buster. Try that.. Otherwise, you can go and sit on the roof top at night and watch the stars. Thats a very good stress reliever as well. and helps to soothe the mind a bit. If all fails, then you have only one option. Be brave and face them... You would surely emerge victorious.. bourne