my husband wanna change job field, should i agree?

Indonesia
April 19, 2008 9:01am CST
hm, yesterday he said to me that he wants to quick his job at this moment. he said that he is enough to be employee and want to be entrepreneur. i just surprised to know his decission cause for me, i am not sure about entrepreneur work field since i am not interest in this kind job field. at this moment, i also working outside and able to earn by my ownself for our household needing. by this chance, i would like to ask some suggestion from you dear friends, should i agree with his decission or not? since at now i just feel confused and shock about this matter
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@julyteen (13253)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Apr 08
i am an employee before for more than 6 years and decided to render my voluntary resignation because i am bored with my job. after 2 years of spending time without work and roaming around i decided to put up my own business and now i have freedom financially that can sustain my needs and wants. I am an entrepreneur now and it so amazing you won't feel bored because i meet different people, different traits, different attitude. i am happy now than having work before, you can make more money if you want unlike being employed your salary is fixed. you make the company rich but you remained the same. support you husband and see the wonders of being an entrepreneur.
• Nigeria
20 Apr 08
The only thing you need to know or do is to make sure you Husband is not in the wrong hand. Entrepreneurship's will be far better for Him than a pay JOB. If all go's well with him in Entrepreneurship will be the to rejoice, support Him and try to be a guide to Him,Let Him that you care try as much as you can to know what He is going into
@jfeets726 (775)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I would try to be supportive as possible, while still being realistic at the same time. It is possbile for him to start a business on the side for right now? I know that starting a business can be hard and not everyone makes money right away. Have him work on stuff, like creating a business plan, arranging money, and all that stuff on the weekends or when it gets home. When he starts to see money, then it may be a good idea to quit his job.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
19 Apr 08
Hi Plumwish. As someone who was in a similiar position as your husband I will speak from that perspaecktive. When you become fed up at a job it can be like living in hell. It is best to change professions or your work place if it is possible. If not then you will find that he will be bringing home and playing out all sorts of undiserable emotions even when he just does not mean to be like that. It affects ones ability to be as productive as they can be. A change in profession though as the one your hobby wants to undertake shuold not be taken lightly. It is a very big transition that calls for total committment on his part as well as on yours. Depending on what he wants to do as an entrepreneur it might take a lot of capital (not all do as you can start small from home for some businesses) and for the first couple of years the profits may have to be pumped back into the business to make it succeed. It was easier fr me to quit as I had no obligations (family). He will still need to see to it that his family does not go needy. It may be rough initially but with careful planning and compromising the both of you can make it work. You could think of it has building your own family business which would mean that niether of you live in the fear of being laid off or fired someday and there will be something for the children to inherit as their own business. I dont think it is wise for him to quit his job right away. You will both have to sit down, do the necessary planning and research as to which business is more viable at the moment, the likely ups and downs, where will the start up capital come from etc... You need to do up a comprehensive business proposal that you can use to guide you. I think you should support his idea but let him know that you will both have to continue to work for a while longer while you work on your business plans and even get the running before you quit. I want to become a entrepreneur also but you just cant drop everything and leave yourself empty handed. Thats not a good move. All the best in your endeavors whatever you decide to do. (lol)
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@kezabelle (2977)
19 Apr 08
I dont honestly think I could stop my partner from doing something he wished to do that wuld make him happy so as long as he would continue to earn money and had found another job before leaving the other so as not to leave us short of money I would happily agree to it although really he would not need to as my permission as such maybe my opinion though
• Indonesia
19 Apr 08
so, do you mean that i should agree and supporting him in this matter?
@kezabelle (2977)
19 Apr 08
Well yes I would always try and support my partner in everything he wants to do as long as it is possible.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
19 Apr 08
My boss at work is a ......... I just can not wait the moment I quit and kick his ....... maybe your husband want a real change in his life. he wants to find him self. starting his own business may make him feel more independent. I think you should help him and discuss the new job issues. you should be his partner whenever he needs you will find you around. that is what I think. you have my best wishes.
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• Canada
9 May 08
I would support my husband, if this were the cas, PROVIDED THAT the change wouldn't affect us, or woudln't affect me. -would you need to move? -would you get to spend less time with him? -would it affect his mood? -Would it affect the children, if there are any? -would his new career move uproot you, and change your life? all angles must be considered before one decides whether or not to support a change like this.
• Indonesia
12 May 08
you are right and as wife, we should support our husband very well in every condition whether sorrow and joy. his new carrer now as entrepreneur seems being his way to work and he feels so much comfortable on there so far (he is already doing this before as part time job for 2 years). changing our life, well it can be happened too and i am sure it will be. i will consider your suggest in here, dear
@Lakota12 (42605)
• United States
20 Apr 08
NOt sure on this one for I dont know what they do and am sure to start with not much money comeing in to help with household
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
20 Apr 08
What kind of entrepreneur does your husband want to be? It really depends on lots of issues, so it is really hard for me to give you a proper answer. I understand someone not wanting to work for a boss anymore. The questions I think you need to ask your husband, is does he have the right qualifications to be an entrepreneur ? Does he have enough money to set himself up to be an entrepreneur?
• Indonesia
21 Apr 08
he already doing his entrepeneur as cell phone technician and he took it as part time job from two years ago. so far he is quit able with this working field but still i have my own worried too if he leave his current job to be an entrepreneur
@stephcjh (38600)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I guess he could give it a try and see if it works out for the both of you. I sure hope it does. I would be worried about it also because you never know how it will go.
@checapricorn (16047)
• United States
20 Apr 08
I understand how you feel but I believe before he come up with that decision he has evaluated several factors already and study each factors more carefully..I don't think he will just decide if he is not sure about it! Maybe you just need to ask more details so you will also understand and be a supportive wife to him!
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
20 Apr 08
I think it is vital in a relationship, plumwish, that one partner be supportive of the other's wishes-unless it would cause an unnecessary hardship on your family situation. Since you are bringing in a sufficient income to take care of household expenses should it become necessary, I say you should agree with your husband.
@youless (108961)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Apr 08
When a man makes up his decision, usually he has thought about it a lot. Even if we want to be hired until we grow old, but sometimes it is hard to say. Perhaps your boss will find someone better tomorrow to replace you. I always hope to have my own business. I like your husband's ambition. I hope he will make a success, good luck!
@whiteheron (4223)
• United States
20 Apr 08
It seems like the votes out on this onw Plumwish as people are divided... I know that your husband wishes to be a cell phone technician and is already doing it part-time... I am wondering whether the money he is getting from that is a great amount and if he were doing it full time without the present job if he could honestly say that he would earn more even with the added overhead... So I am wondering. I understand your hesitation... You have some here who will tell you support your husband as it is your place as his wife to be supportive. There is some truth in that. But there is also a rational need to insure that oneself and children are taken care of. Your family has already been hard hit by economic problems. How certain is he that if he starts this busines he will be able to fix him. Get more information from him. Sit and talk with him more and once you understand what he really wants to do and how he wants to do it, and once he can convince both you and himself that this is something that is viable... i.e. by having a business plan and having others look at it and approve it, by having access to start up money that does not come out of your family's pocket, etc.-- then you can be free to support him. Until them, hesitation is a normal and rational reaction to his plans.
@Sir_bobby88 (8233)
• Singapore
20 Apr 08
Well i think your husband isn't happy with his current job , so i think you should actually surrport him to find a more stable job yea .
@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
20 Apr 08
if he has enough money to open a bussines thats is fine, because what i know entrepreneur is he want to open his own bussiness, good atleast his thingking that not all the time his employee only.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
20 Apr 08
you do not have to agree in his decision, you have to support your lifetime partner in his decision whether you like it or not. my dear, life is not all about money! life is about fulfilling a dream, it does not always have to be "your" security.support your husbands dream.they say every mans success is a woman behind it.
• India
20 Apr 08
No i dont think you shud supprt his decision. Does he have sources, required money, the experienced on his side? Even with all of them, hez heavy on risking, so without them its sure a failure. Any ways just say 2 him, that after you r settled well enough and have enough xtra money to spare, he can leave his job and xperiment, but if not, NO...All the best to u...
@sid556 (30964)
• United States
20 Apr 08
I don't feel anyone should just quit their job unless they are 100# sure that they have another one. What is your husband planning on being an entrepeneur at? When I was married, I supported my husband thru too many of these sorts of adventures to honestly tell you that it sounds like a good idea. Not knowing more about your husband tho, I could be very wrong. My thoughts would be that it would make more sense to ease into things to see how well he'll do while holding onto his present job.
• United States
20 Apr 08
First question: Do you have any savings to live on possbly? If not can he include in the loan amount enough money for 6 months living? Or can you support the family in the same manner for at least six months? Do you have children? If there is some kind of a plan for meeting your expenses dont try and hold him back, you will regret it. Even if he fails amazingly it will be a learning experience. The only regrets on deathbeds are the things that were never tried. Support your spouse and be there no matter the outcome.