Do You Like Your Name?

@winterose (39897)
Canada
April 21, 2008 3:19pm CST
I was named after my father's old girlfriend, imagine that, and I was also name for a christmas carol, but as I was growing up I hated my name. I didn't know a single person with the same name and I felt mine was old and ugly. Psychologists say that when you hate your name you are really saying you don't like yourself. It was true back then for me. Today I like my name much better than ever. I like myself too. Do you like your name? Do you agree with psychologists do you not like your name because you don't really like yourself? If you don't like your name why not? What name would you rather have been called? When I was younger I would have rather been called by my middle name, which is also my mother's name.
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71 responses
• India
21 Apr 08
well, did not like it very much when i was in school. my class had about 3 girls with my name itself it was boring and irritating at times. i always wanted to change it then. now its cool with me dont have a issue really
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
we do change as we get older don't we.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Did your mother know?! There is no way I'd agree to naming a child after the father's ex, not knowingly anyway. Anyway, no I do not like my name and was never comfortable with it. I am quite sure that is what caused my shyness and low self esteem as a child. I still don't like it but I'm not as bad as I used to be about it. I just go about my busness and don't use it unless I absolutely have to. I have no idea what name I would choose if I could rename myself. It is something I've thought about but could never come up with anything.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
she didn't know at first, he just told her he liked the name carol and she went for it.
@kezabelle (2984)
21 Apr 08
No a name is just a name in my eyes it has no bearing on your personality or who you beleive yourself to be and wether you like that yourself or not. I like my name well enough I suppose cant say I ever really thought about. Now my surname thats a whole different ball game mostly because I was bullied a lot about it, im over it now and in time when me and my partner get married I can change it lol!
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
see you were bullied and it bothered you so a name is more than just a name it has feelings and memories attached.
@gemini_rose (16192)
21 Apr 08
I never liked my name as a child, the only good thing about it if I think about it, is that not many people had the name. Nowadays it is everywhere!! I always wanted to change my name, I always wanted it to sound cool and it never did and I could never shorten it down very much either. I like it now though, well I have no choice really I am stuck with it!!
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
me too no way to shorten my name.
@cream97 (29164)
• United States
21 Apr 08
I guess so. So many people tell me that I have such a pretty name. A lady at the hospital told me this almost 2 weeks ago. My first name is a common name. I know many women who have my name. To me, it is just a regular name. I really don't see the big deal. My middle name is a boy's name. I changed it to something else. I dislike that very much.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
21 Apr 08
LOL I hated my name too. which is the same as yours and i too wanted to be called by middle name which is Christine. I thought it was much prettier than Carol. I was not named after anyone. My mom just liked the name plus i was supposed to be born on Christmas. Was born on new years day instead. I always liked myself I just didnt like my name. Now i use the name Snow even in real life.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
21 Apr 08
That's funny because I feel more comfortable answering to Foxy since I've always used Foxyfire online...I haven't been brave enough to use that in real life yet though.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
21 Apr 08
foxy the first time someone called ms now in rl it was kinda weird but now I am use dot it and its natural for me to answer. Foxy is a good name lol
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I like my middle name, Ann, Carol Ann sounded even better to me than just Carol, but now I like Carol
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I like my fisrt name and my maiden last name also. I could not stand my middle name. My mom named my middle name after my dads mom's middle name. It was not pronounced or spelled like hers though but it was close. I got rid of it when I got married and just kept the initial. My middle name just reminded me of some kind of disease or something. It had to go.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
yuck I wouldn't like a name that sounded like a disease, but then my last name and my son's is a nasty insect.
@athinapie (1151)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
i like my name... it's kinda unique here in my country. and i also like the fact that i was named after a greek goddess and a billionaire's daughter. and i don't think i agree with the psychologists that if you don't like your name you don't like yourself. names have nothing to do with personality. it's just really up to that person on how he or she perceives himself/herself.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
you like your name you like yourself, they are right. names are very personal it is self identification it means a lot to us, even choosing an avatar name many people think very long and hard, and choose something that has meaning to them, very few people just put down anything. the avatar name is a representation of us on screen, the real name is a representation of us in life.
@sherrir101 (3676)
• Malinta, Ohio
21 Apr 08
I love my first name: Sherri. It suits me, I think. My middle name is different. It is made up of my two grandmothers' middle names. My middle name is LeBerta. My Grandma Neva's middle name was Lee and my Grandma Aggie's middle name was Alberta. For a long time I did not like my middle name. It was 'odd' because it was made up and the kids made fun of me. I think the psychologists might have something in their theories.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
oh they know what they are talking about they study human behavior and the first thing that we present to the world is our name, it is the most personal thing that we own,
@sun2day (1063)
• Virgin Islands (U.S.)
21 Apr 08
I guess life gets pretty interesting as you get older. My momma gave me my first name from a friend that she was very close to, and am not too fond of it. Most people knows me by my middle name;but now I find that am using it more and more. I think am begining to like it! Strange isn't it?
@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
not strange just starting to be comfortable with yourself and proud of who you are.
• United States
21 Apr 08
Hello winterose, my first thoughts are with foxy, did your mom know it was an old girlfriend of his? there is no way I would have named a child that I carried in me after my husbands x. As for my name, I go by my middle name, always have thats what my mom called me. Although on her defence when I was born she named me with my natural dad's middle name, and used the shortened version of my first name, when she remarried and I was adopted by her husband they changed my name, he didnt believe in using shorten versions so he said what my mom called me had to be in my name and she liked the longer version so I have the both with the shortened being my middle name and what I'm called. Dad said it would look good in lights if I ever wanted to act on broadway. I dont think a persons name defines who they are, although mine is unique and maybe that is why I'm the way I am. who knows but I do know that I like the person I am no matter what name I go by.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
no my mom didn't know at first, my dad said he liked the name and so she called me that. Only years later did she find out it was the name of an ex girlfriend.
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Apr 08
I didn't like the name Dawn and for a while I went by my middle name, Elizabeth. But I went back to Dawn. And for years afterward when somebody would come up to me and call me Elizabeth I was kind of startled!
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
once I could not use my name in a telemarketing company I worked for, because it somebody else had that name, so I choose my sister's name, Joyce, but I didn't like it, I could never get used to it.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I like my name. It used to be alot more common than it is now, but I think it remains a classic name, i.e, Katherine Elaine. I can't think of anything else I would have preferred. Perhaps when I was younger, I think we all go through that phase, but now I have become quite proud of it.
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@saundyl (9686)
• Canada
7 May 08
I love my name. I just dont like when people dont say it or spell it correctly. I dont know if i agree with psycologists about not liking your name/not liking yourself. I've always liked being called by my name. I hate it when its shortened to Cass or Cassie. Never minded Deedee or Nonni (my mom tells me i used to call myself nonni when i was little because i had a hard time with my name) To family members and close friends i'm Saundy...short form of Cassaundra.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
14 May 08
It is a very beautiful name, so classic greek sounding.
@saundyl (9686)
• Canada
14 May 08
Thank you.
• United States
7 May 08
I like my name. However I get very irritated with it. My name is Cherise (Sh sound not Ch) and NOBODY pronounces it right, or remembers it. I have to tell people my name probably 3-4 times before they can remember it. And no one spells it right. It just gets soooo tiring to have to tell EVERYONE and their mother how to say, spell say again and correct my name.
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• United States
28 Apr 08
i Hate, hate the name I was given.My mom told me that she thought it was a beautiful name and she chose it the moment she found out she was pregnant.So I got it.It is one of those names where people can and do mispronounce and spell. So I spend my time defending a name I hate. I wonder if the psychologists ever thought of the theory that people hate themselves because they have to spend their lives answering to a name they hate?Anyway, the name I like is Sarahbeth. I use Sarahruthbeth here because Sarahbeth was taken.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
2 May 08
It is a pretty long time, I must admit, sarabeth is nicer
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• United States
4 May 08
It has been two years using it and I like it.I guess if I would write it like this Sarah-Ruth-Beth.
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
24 Apr 08
hello winterose, haha, your luckier than me to have just one old girlfriend of your dad to name after you. i have two and my mom's as well so i have a very interesting name. i honestly dont agree with the psychologist assessment. why? because i grew up loving myself more and protecting myself more than i let others do so. the only reason why i dont like my name back then is, it reminds me of how terrible my dad was and it always pains me knowing my name is like a tag of his past craziness. i guess i was like that when i was in elementary coz i am growing up fast and maturing as well and i dont like anybody asking why my name is like that and would want to know the reason behind it coz it is extra ordinary. though i hate it i still want to let them know why coz i feel it helps me to accept such bitter truth (back then) BUT when i reach high school till now i feel my name is cool coz no one have it and i am the only person in this world who have such name so i feel it is something to be proud of coz it is rare that we can find someone whose identity is different than most. btw, when i am hating my name as a kid id rather let my friends call me on my nickname than my full name coz it is just irritating to me. but as time goes by my full name is great specially when everybody tries to pronounce it the first time and the only person who pronounce it correct is my husband (yes after 23yrs of living i finally found someone who can read it the way i read it - maybe that's why we're a couple now LOL) takecare and thanks for making me smile as i look back on my crazy years as a kid, haha!
@winterose (39897)
• Canada
2 May 08
I never liked my last name because of my dad either so I know exactly what you mean.
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
2 May 08
it's not easy to be on that place but at least we have move on. NOW is all that matters and i feel such experience have made me a better person and im sure you too. takecare.
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@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I like my name. I think it suits me. It is pretty and, because my Mom chose to spell it slightly differently, it is also a little more unique. Others have complimented me on my name. It was more common in my generation but, not as common as other fad names in the past or fad names in the present. And, people still name their daughters my name. So, yes...I do like my name. In fact, I love my name!
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@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Oh...and, I don't know if I agree with psychologists about one hating their name because they hate themselves. I think you can like you name and also dislike yourself. I dislike myself at times. So, you may hate your name and like yourself or vice versa. I don't know that your name has anything to do with what you think about yourself. Although, if you were picked on as a kid for your name, that may be a reason you both dislike your name and yourself. I think others' perceptions of you can form what you think about yourself and, if your name was a target of abuse, then you might hold some animosity towards your name.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
not that people hate themselves if they hate their name they don't really like themselves meaning they haven't accepted themselves for who they are.
• United States
22 Apr 08
Hey there How are you?? I do like my name *Aileen* my mom told me she got it out from an english book when we were in cuba(I guess she knew we were gonna come to this country lol) ;)
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
nice name, and glad to know you left the country. My aunt and cousins are on a trip to cuba now.
• United States
24 Apr 08
cool I bet they are having a great time, cause when u go with money they treat u like a king lol, send me some pictures when they get back ;)
@chertsy (3804)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I liked mine all the way until my sister started school and I was sick and had to stay home. Next thing I knew, my name changed. The name for mylot account is the name that became my new name all the way up til I graduated high school. I never really understood how you get Chertsy from Charity. My mom got the name from the Bible, she saw it and fell in love with it. I was used to being called Chertsy at home, because with a smaller sibling calling me that, my older siblings started doing it. Funny, I'm 31 years old and my they still call me that. So, when I needed a name, I couldn't change habit I guess.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I like chertsy it is different. mine being carol, my little cousins used to call me caca and I didn't like that because that meant poo in my house.
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@chertsy (3804)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Thank you, it is different. Weird how the smaller ones when learning to speak have trouble with names. I mean how do you get chertsy from Charity, caca from Carol. My youngest would call my oldest belby for the longest, and her name is Shelby. If you asked her what her name was when she was 2 all the way up to 3, she would say I'm the baby, . Your like I know your the baby of the family, but what is your name, she would say I'm the baby. Until my husband started calling her bear, after Care bears but Tara bear.