Does your partner read your Mylot posts?

Australia
April 23, 2008 1:00am CST
Mine does. He used to go into my account and read evrything that I have written. I got angry at him and told him that when he does that it feels like I have no privacy. He would question me about every single thing that I discussed on here! It got very annoying. Now he only ocassionally reads my posts, if I leave mylot open on the computer. I don't blame him, and I have nothing to hide. After all it would be interesting to see your partner exposing their thoughts every day through words. I think that people's posts on mylot are a good indication of what's going on in their minds so I would actually like it if my partner began posting here! So does your partner read your discussions? What does he/she think?
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@SViswan (12057)
• India
23 Apr 08
no, my husband doesn't....he doesn't even know I myLot. I don't think I've written anything that I wouldn't want him to read....but he can ask annoying questions when he reads it. He would sometimes come across things I had written in books...and question me or tease me about them. I didn't like it. I don't want to get into that with myLot. This is my zone and I like to keep it that way. Especially when I know he's on myLot, I will be VERY careful what I write and I don't want that.
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@zed_k4 (17618)
• Singapore
23 Apr 08
Hello there coffeeshot, nice name you've got there. I am currently single, so there's no way a girlfriend could read my posts, ha! But should I have one in the near future, I wouldn't mind her reading my posts and thoughts as long as she respects my privacy time in mylot and let me answer my own discussions in my own time. But then again, I did that mostly while in the office and when I'm not working at the site. I think it is a good idea to let your partner know what you are up to, so there will be no blaming on sneaking around the net and all. Anyway, I think I would love to be discussing some of the topics I have answered with "her" someday. Thanks and take care.
@shizuoka (352)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I write a lot; MyLot, AC, novels, short stories, and I am always trying to tell my husband about my writing. Unfortunately, he doesn't read English very well and won't ever take the time to read any of it. My 7-year-old daughter, on the other hand, was trying to read over my shoulder this evening.
@julie0825 (1414)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
nope in fact he poes angry with me because i spend to much time responding and writing post, which i accumulate electricity more than i earn
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• United States
23 Apr 08
My husband would never come into mylot with out my permission and read, but I do invite him to sit down and read entire discussions from many of my friends and the ones that I start. He gets quite a kick out of them as I do, and for the most part I talk about so many of my friends in here with him he feels like he knows them. as far as him posting he is a gamer, and spends his time on his computer playing games. Mylot would not hold his attention for any real posting. But yes I share it with him.
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• United States
23 Apr 08
My partner reads my discussions and posts here because she's a member. She's actually one of my referrals so she can read whatever I write whenever she wants. Doesn't really bother me much anyway. If I want to tell her something or I have an issue, I'll tell her and make it straight to the point and then it's known. I don't like sugar coating things. Sometimes I do, but for the most part, I just put it out there.
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@anirc750310 (3424)
• Romania
6 Jul 08
He is curious sometimes but I guess never read , fortunately because i wrote some things which I don't like him to see, ha ha !
@Elixiress (3880)
5 Jul 08
No my partner does not, he knows that I post on a forum that give me money for my posts, but other than that he has no interest in it as he is not willing to put the time into earning online, so he also would not be bothered to put the time in to read what I have written online. If I am with him while I am posting, he might read a couple of things as I am typing them if we are cuddling or something, but then it would be a little odd for him to sit with me and not be remotely interested in what I was doing.
@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
4 Jul 08
Well, he will read them sometimes if I am sitting next to him and I am typing a response. I don't mind that, though. A lot of times, if he is here, we will have a discussion about some of the discussions or my responses. Sometimes I will ask his input when I am writing a post. As far as him actually going through my discussions behind my back, no he doesn't do that. My husband thinks mylot is interesting, but he just doesn't have the time to post himself or to snoop around my posts.
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
3 Jul 08
My husband thinks that Mylot is really stupid, and he thinks my being here is stupid. He doesn't tell me to stop, but I know he is not interested in coming in there to read what I write.
@dopey22girl (3324)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I don't have a partner so I guess I can't say they do. Lol but I would find it annoying. Do you think your partner read this one? Haha..
@magrylouyu (1629)
• United States
3 Jul 08
My husband doesnt read my posts or anything. From time to time he will look over my shoulder and say "what are you typing about this time?" or "did you get any helpful answers to your discussion?" It's not like he logs into my account and read them. We give each other the privacy we need. I really like it that way too.
@chrislotz (8198)
• Canada
3 Jul 08
No, my partner never read any of the things I post here in mylot. For one thing I would not allow him to and how I do that is don't tell him my password so he can't get into my account and read them. He is not a member of mylot so he can't go into my profile either to read them. I wouldn't want him to read my postings as sometimes some of them are about him and my feelings and to me that would be an invasion of my privacy. Not that I have to worry about it anyways as we are no longer living together. I use mylot to get out some of my frustrations and I don't let anyone else read them except the other members here and since none of them know me offline I like it that way.
• United States
24 May 08
Perhaps your partner feels like he was being left out of a part of your life. I know that as a relationship progresses often times we stop communicating as much as we had in the past. It's possible he wasn't trying to "spy" on you or infiltrate your privacy, but find a talking point to reconnect, you know what I mean? Personally I don't really have privacy boundaries with my partner. It is completley fine for me that she knows all aspects of my life. The good the bad and the ugly. I think anyone that thinks that they don't have things they need to work on is kidding themselves, and hiding those things from your partner demenishes the quality of the relationship. My mindset is that if one is wanting to keep certain aspects of their life private from their partner there is something wrong in the relationship, hiding things makes it worse, then you feel even more like hiding parts of your self. It's a vicious cycle! Anyways, The more open and honest a relationship is, the better it can become, no matter what comes out in the open. Communication key. I have been trying to get my partner to join mylot. I think she would be interested and could learn more about me, as we don't have specific conversations every day about all the various topics I respond to. Besides it would be nice to pick up at least one referral! Haha :P
@biggerb (2026)
• India
24 May 08
No.He does not.he knows that i am on this site.I am quite happy that I have the freedom to my privacy.This is where i vent out my feelings.I would nver want anyone whom i know t read my stuff.
@spalladino (17914)
• United States
24 May 08
My husband has mentioned some of the topic listings on here but I don't think he's ever read any of my posts. We have XP and he leaves his side logged in with the screen saver turned off so it's easier to just hop online from his side than to log into my side. I leave my Mylot account logged on most of the time so he's free to read anything if he wants to...I have nothing to hide and I don't post anything he would find objectionable or insulting anyway.
• Philippines
24 May 08
My partner occassionally reads my posts. sometimes he does not, but it don't matter co'z i am not doing something wrong here so my conscience is clear.. i hope he will refrain from doing it because i feel that he is taking my privacy out there. happy posting!! :)
@shooie (4984)
• United States
24 May 08
My husband doesn't come into mylot. He use to and even when he came in he never read my stuff which wouldn't of been an issue. Whats mine is his and his is mine. Don't have anything to hide nor does he. He has sat here with me at times and say i would say this or that and then he goes about his business.
@Adadrian (61)
• Australia
20 May 08
i think my partner reads mine all the time. she is always checking up on me like reading my msn chats,checking my phone out asking who im talking to and where i went and what i did. so even though i havnt asked her im sure she checks my mylot!
• India
20 May 08
Well friend i have no problems in that respect as my partner is not concerned about my sitting on the computer and doing MY LOT.He remains busy with his own work.Infact it is me who has to tell him that i have joined this site or whatever site i join.I am really lucky...RIGHT FRIEND.... have a nice day...