What A Cute Little...Errr...Boy?

I never dressed my sons in dresses. It is harmful. I hope he turned out all right. Boys are boys and girls are girls. I think you secretly wanted a niece instead of a nephew and by dressing him as a baby girl, no wonder he got upset when someone wanted to take off the black patent girl shoes. It does matter. And you wonder why some grow up to prefer their own gender. And proof that that is not inborn. It is just as dangerous as if a man had abused him. It does confuse kids as to their gender. After all at two or three, he was starting to think he was a girl and possibly figured you would love him more if he was. So don't do that anymore.

No I haven't but having a nephew that was 13 year younger than I and when I was 15 and he was 2, I put nail polish on him..My sister and her husband knew about it, but it wasn't until his surgery and they had to remove the polish for surgery and they complained about it, in a joking manner..

ok... so why did you dress him in dresses? I find that a bit different. I haven't seen anyone ever dress their little boy in dresses. I don't think it would cause problems with them and gender issues. But I've just never seen it. I am also 100% sure that if I had a boy- I would not have let you dress him that way. I don't think kids are "real live dolls". Each to their own I guess. I do think that if I had a son and he wanted to dress like a girl- I'm sure I would have no problem with it... I have a daughter only. She dresses cute-- not all the time dresses but sometimes she likes to be a "girlie girl" and others more of a tomboy. She is 11 though- so she picks her own clothes. When she was 2 or 3 I dressed her in dresses to be cute :)

Many times throughout the ages boys and girls dressed in the same kind of clothes. From peasants in the middle ages, to the height of fashion from the 19th to the beginning of the 20th century. If you check old pictures you might find some cute kids that you have no clue if they are boys or girls unless there are names at the back. It was practical and the clothes could go from an older to a younger sibling when they didn't fit anymore. That said, I did not dress my son in my daughter's clothes simply because I had already given most of them. There were some one piece sleepers that I still had and used. But I don't see anything wrong in doing it, and no it doesn't have to be damaging for the child although I bet when he grows up he will feel like dad and will not want those pictures shown LOL Does it confuse them as to gender? Not necessarily, at that age they don't even think in terms of gender .Not in the way we do, at least.

When my son was little, my daughter and her best friend use to dress him up and put make up on him and such. It use to drive me nuts but he loved it. That was the only time the child would sit still. He has ADHD and was on the move all the time but he sat still for them. I didn't get any pictures of it but he did look cute when the did it. They still tease him about it once in a while and he just laughs. They were some really good times that the kids had.

i used to dress my baby brother in my dolls clothes when he was tiny.. but i had wanted a sister.. and i was 6 years old.

Even these days, baby boys sometimes wear Christening gowns, but they generally don't go around in dresses. However, they used to because one of my cousins (I think my grandma's first cousin) wore dresses and long, curly locks of hair (below his shoulders) until he was eight or nine. In the Amish communities, little baby boys still wear dresses. The way I learned this was that I was eating at McDonald's when a bunch of Amish people arrived there, and one man (who barely looked old enough to be a father) was holding the most beautiful baby. I told him that he had a beautiful daughter, and he told me that the baby was his son. We got to talking, and he said that it was still commonplace for baby boys to wear dresses in the Amish community. I remember when I was about five years old, one of Aunt Kate's friends came to visit her and brought her little boy. He was wearing little, white sandals, so I remarked, "Your baby's wearing girls' shoes!" She replied that she had two or three dresses at home for him, too, because she had really wanted a little girl. I thought that she had to be crazy. I know this one family where the wife really wanted to have a little girl. Her first two sons were Maxwell and Gerald, so she called them Maxine and Geraldine and dressed them in dresses. She also kept their hair long. When they got old enough to go to school, their dad put his foot down and said that they were going to go to school as boys. So they started wearing boys' clothing and were given boyish hairstyles. They had a baby brother named Sam, so I said to Max (who was telling me this story) that I bet his mom called him Samantha. But Max said no--that, by then, his mom had gotten this thing about wanting a girl out of her system. My cousins and I wanted to have a girls' club, and my cousin, David, didn't want to be left out. I told him that, if he wanted to join us, he would have to put on a dress. He did. I said that he would have to go out and show off his dress, so my cousins and I paraded him around the living room. He was such a good sport that we decided to let him join our club without wearng a dress by being our manager (something suggested by one of the grown-ups). We were something like six, four, three, and two at the time. I was three and David was two.

Lol, we tried to put a too-too on my 3 year old grand son. He cries and carries on that he "can't wear that" and "boys don't wear that". It's the funniest thing, I'm going to video tape it. We never talked to him about what girls or boys wear or do, yet he won't play with girls toys ever. I don't know we seem to have a lot of fun trying to dress him up because he doesn't like it. I don't think it matters at all when they grow up.

Are you serious??? I have never heard of such a thing in all my life. I do not have any children of my own. But I have four nephews. I believe that if I ever put a dress on any one of them, I would never see any of them again. That is so interesting to me. Do you have any nieces or daughters of your own? How old were you when you did this? Poor little nephew.

in my mother's photo album there are a few professional pictures taken during her youth - a couple that have her and one of her brothers in them - up through his early toddler years he was shown in the pictures wearing a gown/dress. I thought it was strange when I was a kid looking at them but my mother said it was normal to dress baby boys in dresses back then. *shrug*

OK, gonna make me respond to this discussion lol. First question asked have I ever dressed any nephews or children of mine (which i don't have yet) in dresses? Well I have the nieces and nephews but no kids. No, I have never put them in a dress and probably wouldn't because thats just me but I am not saying if someone did that it would 'make them grow up g*y' or whatever or damage them for life. Just not my cup of tea for that situation. Next, Do I think when they are babies it matteres what they are dressed in? Well, I 'think' that normally they should be dressed as boys for boys and girls for girls. Though again I don't think its going to damage them if somone puts a dress on them goofing around or whatever or make them grow up g*y. Following, would I 'personally' be upset if someone put my child (future child) in a dress (if it was a boy)? Well, I would probably say yes, and only because I persaonlly just don't want my kid in a dress lol. Not that it will damage him or make him g*y but I would rather him stay in his own clothes that I put him in lol. No, I probably wouldn't FLIP but I probably wouldn't be happy either. The last question I have answered a few times already, no it won't confuse their gender. lol Lets just say that I know from 'personal' experience that you WON'T grow up g*y and it WON'T damage you mentally or anything lol. I turned out just fine and love the ladies haha. I have a girlfriend of 5 years and if my boat ever floated that way I'm sinking my boat and swimming back to my shore lol. Just my two cents... ~*~J_Dawgs~*~

I guess, it really matters in teaching our kids about the difference of boys and girls - from things to responsibilities. Age doesn't really matters to me. Because I talk to kids like grown ups. I know, somehow it sinks on their minds even they don't comprehend everything yet.

I guess, it really matters in teaching our kids about the difference of boys and girls - from things to responsibilities. Age doesn't really matters to me. Because I talk to kids like grown ups. I know, somehow it sinks on their minds even they don't comprehend everything yet.

I never myself dressed as a girl, but mu mum tried it on me once and I have the photographs of those times yet. Sometimes seeing it brings so much joy. I just wish that I could do that again.. lol.. Its really good to see those old photographs and have fun. bourne

I have personally never done anything like that, but I don't see where it would confuse the child at that early age. I'm not sure that I would have wanted someone dressing my son (if I had one) in girl clothes, but I wouldn't get mad about it.

I would never dress a little boy in a dress, even for fun, but I did put nail polish on my son once because I was doing my nails and he wanted some too, he wasn't even 3 years old at the time. Well my husband at the time became really angry and took all the nail polish off him again. I said he is just a baby he said so what my son is not wearing nail polish.

WEll I would never dress my boys in dreeses dont think it funny at all and never know if it would make them gay I sure wouldnt have taken pics either I think that was mean sorry but thats the way I feel aboutit

I think I would be upset. To me, and this is just my opinion, putting my son in a dress or anyone putting my son in a dress would mean they would want him to be a girl. That's just odd to me.

LOL...I just this week got my 5 year old son the pair of pink crocs he's been begging for. They were the cheap Kmart one and on sale so I figured it wouldn't hurt anything. We have pictures of him in his "dress" (an adult size pink shirt) and princess tiara. He knows he's a boy and that they are traditionally "girl things" but he likes them and thinks they're pretty. He's not confused about his gender, he's decisive about his preferences.

I would be upset cause I've always hated dresses from as far back as I can remember. My mom used to make me wear dresses to school when I was in K-3 and talk about a rotten day whenever I wore them. I would purposely get them full of mud and put big holes in the nylons I had to wear as well. Scuff my shoes up really bad as well. My daughter will wear them once in a while and she did look cute in them when she was a baby but once she got old enough to chose what she wanted to wear, I let her. I never force her to wear dresses and she rarely wants to wear them. She prefers to dress like a boy instead, which is fine by me long as she actually doesn't LOOK like a boy. Believe me, there is no gender confusion with my daughter. She lets me know point blank she is a girl whenever I tease her and call her my lil boy. lol