Do you think you have to have alot in common with someone for them to be a good.

Kiran, please do not say that you could not have said it better....you in fact did make your point very effectively. Thanks very much for your kind words of appreciation. Good friends like you and me think alike...LOL! Deepak

WEll said, I couldn't have said it better myself, lol. It is alot easier to communicate with a friend who you have alot in common with plus I think you can have alot more fun too with someone you share similar interests too as you both enjoy doing the same things (well that is my experience anyway). You are right also about people having different traits, so we would not be totally alike lol, that weould be strange wouldn't it.

That's right, lol!

20 years, wow that is a long time, it must feel good being friends with someone for that long. I agree with what you said you don't necessarily need to have alot in common but some is definately a bonus. Spending time together does bond you closer together, important to make time for friends.

I agree personality is an important thing when being someones friend. You seem like a very caring and sincere friend, what great qualities you have accepting people for who they are. I wish there were many more people in this world like this, accepting people for who they are.

Wow Ravenlady, that is awesome, 35 years friendship with someone, you must be a very sincere genuine friend. Sounds like you have many long lasting friendships that is great. Similarities definately is an advantage. Do you have similarities with the person you have been friends with for 35 years?

thank you Kiran-when I make friends with someone I'm like a leech and dpn't let go of that and for as long as we have known each other on here you were my first friend so I class you as my friend and even though we live so far apart it seems like I know you anyway-so you will have my friendship for a while yet!! hugs littleowl

Ohhhhh thanks that means so much to me, I feel exactly the same way, you are a special friend. It has been a privlege being your 1st friend. I like it how you referred to yourself as a leech, I am like that too with close friends. Good to never let the real true friends slip away. I really enjoy chatting to you my friend, who knows maybe one day we could catch up for a cuppa, my relatives all live in the UK, have cousins, aunties, uncles, my half sister and grandparents there. Have not been there since I was 12 years old though. So if I ever win the lotto I am there, going to need the lotto to pay for all my big tribe to come there.

Sounds like you have a very open friendship with your friend of 39 years, I think that is great is is probably what has bonded you two together so well. Great to hear you also have friends that have things in common with you too. I think you are a great friend, I am sure you would be an even better friend in real life. Take care.

I don't understand how you don't have any friends in real life, I know we have discussed this before. But you are so bubbly and easy going people are crazy not to be your friend. Look at how many friends you have made here. I find you really easy to talk to and funny. Wish you lived in Australia, you'd be great fun to hang out with. I agree with you it does make it alot easier to have frienships with people who have common interests.

Hi geminirose, don't be sorry for going on, that is what friends are for. I am like you when I become friends with someone I put everything into it and sadly sometimes it leads to being hurt or used by friends. I understand why you would want to stick to yourself as you have lost your trust in alot of people. I don't think it is fair what your friend did to you, some people don't know how to keep things to themself and not blab they don't think how it will effect others. This has happened to me too on quite a few occasions, you think you can trust someone and they reveal everything you say to other people. I hope though that you will still try and let other friends into your life as you may miss an opportunity to find real genuine friends that will be there for you. I am so glad to have met my best friend, the one you see in my new avatar (again- I know lol), she means the world to me and has been there for me and most importantly I trust her completely. So please don't give up on friends, just be selective, throw out the dud chocolates, lol, and pick the good ones. (Just made that saying up then, he he)

When I am friends with someone I am friends with them, this means sharing everything, the good the bad etc. I give everything and ask for nothing except loyalty. I never got any of it with any of my friends, when I needed them to be my friends the most they let me down in the most hurtful way possible plus they were all gossiping behind my back when they should have been supporting me. I lost my trust of people big time, withdrew from them all and started keeping myself to myself. I recently made a new friend, I had so much in common with her and I thought I had found a good friend. Whatever she told me went no further, not even would I tell my hubby if she asked me not too. I told her one thing, one thing in the whole time that was really important for her to keep to herself, by the end of the day she had blabbed and nearly caused world war 3 for my sister in law. She also just uses me when her other friends are not around, she and her hubby have a circle of friends that they socialise in heavily and she makes it so obvious that I am not included in that circle. I could go on, but to tell you the truth it hurts, more than I realise. I do not understand how someone could be like that. Sorry to go on a bit!!

I am not saying you can't be friends with friends who you don't have alot in common with I just find from my experience that I am closer to friends with similar interests as we have done many fun activities together that we both enjoy doing. I am glad you have many friends with varying interests to you and that you have formed close friendships with them also.

Hi, I think personality is definately important aswell as things in common you are right.

You make a good point, I think it is also possible to be friends with someone you don't have alot in common with. But it does help a frienship if you like similar things as you can do activities together that you both like. Being genuine to each other is a great quality to have in frienships.

Yes it is good to hear stories about things you are interested in. 10 years is a great long lasting friendship!

Great response, I agree with you common interests helps the friendship but it is not what bonds friends. It is great how you have some great frienships from all over thw world and 30 plus years, wow, you must know some of your friends really well.

I can understand you being scared to open up to friends again. I too have been betrayed by friends I thought I could trust. However I am not going to let this stand in my way of letting other friends into my heart as there are some real true friends out there that will respect you and be friends for life. So give these friends of yours ago, you will soon know whether you can trust them or not.

Yes that is true having a friend with interests different to yours, could broaden your horizons, good point you got there.