Have you ever regretted a friend request?

United States
May 8, 2008 2:39pm CST
Have you ever seen anyone in discussions, and enjoyed reading their discussions and responses, so you added them to your friends, only to find that you really had nothing in common at all, and in fact, they are so different than you, you now wish you hadn't added them? What would you do if you added a friend, and soon realized you really didn't want them as a friend? Would you delete them right away, or wait and see?
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@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
8 May 08
Ok well once. But not because I didn't like the person or that they were not nice. It was because I cannot relate to ANYTHING they ask. I get flooded with email about how this person starts discussions and none of them are anything I can even begin to respond to. And they must feel the same way because they seldom respond to mine either. I have been considering just turning off the notify thing on their name. That way I am not removing this really nice person but I'm not flooded with stuff I can't respond to. I don't know they have the occasional good question.
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• United States
8 May 08
By not removing them, your Mylot home page is still flooded with their questions and discussion responses. Doesn't that bother you at all or you just ignore it?
• United States
9 May 08
I don't really use the home page. lol
• United States
8 May 08
Oh, yes, that has happened to me all the time. Mostly, though, I get more requests from other people than I actually request myself. Many people who request me have nothing in common with me at all. I will let them stay on my friends list for a while, then I delete them if I find that I never answer any of their discussions or they never answer any of mine.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
20 May 08
I did this recently. I had a friend request, looked at the profile, approved it and within 2 days I got a big private message about how Islam is the the only true ppl, the quran is the only true bible, that anyone who doesn't follow the quran is going to be tortured and die, ect, ect, ect. It really ticked me off b/c I try to give ppl the respect to choose their own path and I expect the same in return. I don't give a fig what the Islam ppl do, worship or believe...so their outlook on what I do, worship or believe shouldn't be any of their business and certainly doesn't warrant them sending me messages like that. I deleted the person on the spot. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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• United States
21 May 08
Can't say as I blame ya there. I also believe everyone has the right to their own beliefs, and I respect each person for what they believe, but I don't want it to be forced upon me. Thanks for the comment
@kamran12 (5526)
• Pakistan
8 May 08
Hello Katsmeow1213, I have never requested a friendship here, mostly because I don't feel like forcing someone into making a decision to have me on their list just our of courtesy without real interest involved. So, with that in mind, of course I have never had to regret a request here as I never made it. I don't know if others regret making request to me though, LOL! But, in fact, I think some people HAVE regretted, as a couple of people removed me from their friends list after adding me. I don't mind that, though, I rather like that only those keep me on their list who really are interested in keeping me as a friend. It keeps burden, that I am an unwanted guest on someone's friend's list, off my head, and I like that feeling.
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• United States
8 May 08
That is a good way of looking at things. Thank you for sharing.
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@makingpots (11915)
• United States
9 May 08
Oh no, katsmeow, I hope I am not the friend you are referring to. If so, wait and see please. I think the more friends the merrier on a site like this.... keeps things interesting.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
9 May 08
I have been there and yes I deleted them. I ignored the posts for a while but then started getting PMs about money things.
• United States
9 May 08
Oh no it's not you. And I agree, I like to keep things interesting. But what if you had a friend that only posted things that you were completely against? Hypothetically speaking, let's say you added afriend and all the discussions they were involved in were always about making money, and you aren't interested in that at all. Would you delete them or just ignore their posts?
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
20 May 08
I have not deleted any friend, yet. This is not to say that I would in fact delete a friend. They are there for a reason and if the reason does not shine through immediately I have no timetable for this and I am patient and just happy that they are my friends. I tend to take the view that friends are good for ya.
@GreenMoo (11834)
9 May 08
I've never had reason to regret accepting a friend request, but there's people on my friends list that I don't really have anything to do with now. I think they'd have to do something pretty awful, or start some really miserable discussions for me to get round to deleting them though.