How do you know it's time to get married?????
By brandon2103
@brandon2103 (51)
United States
May 10, 2008 10:56am CST
I am deeply in love right now and just would like to know people's thoughts about marriage and how you all know it's time to make that big step.
9 responses
@james_22 (14)
• India
11 May 08
if u truly love ur parterner and ur perterner feels the same then u should get married after checking a few things like:
1) are u ready to commite ur life to this person and do u think she is ur ideal match.
2) do u have enough earning to satisfy all her needs and demands?
3) are u ready to shoulder all responsibility as a husband?
4) are u prepared to have kids and take all responsibilites to look after ur kids and educate them?
5) can u assure that u both would be happy all ur life and ensure each others happiness...
in this manner there r lot of responsibility to sholder in a marriage.
so my adwise would be , go on a vaccation with her and come to know her minnor needs and happines.
if u both dont mind then think of a live in relationship before marriage. it usually helps to develop a long term relationship.
@ihearttinytim (614)
• United States
14 May 08
If you just want to get married because the whole idea is new and exciting, etc. then WAIT. Plus, I disagree with living together before marriage. I'm a firm believer in "True Love Waits." That's why there is conversation - you know - communication - to talk about each other's dreams, desires, goals, likes, dislikes, etc. Why must everything be based on "happiness?" Who said married life was easy? I hate when I hear people saying they want to separate or divorce because they aren't "happy." Who said it was all about YOUR happiness? What about the partner's happiness? Chances are, if you're not happy, they aren't either. It works both ways. Anyway, that's a different subject.
When two become one, compromise is the key. I suggest counseling BEFORE the marriage. It will help you both dig deeper and find out if you two really are compatible, and reveal the "meat" of the relationship - if there is any. You both will be given booklets with thought-provoking questions that you both fill out separately. Youwill then share your answers with each other at the counselor's disgression. It's also a good thing because you have a mediator, who is trained at being proactive in problem solving, in case there are disagreements. Try the couseling idea first before you go rushing things. Me and my fiance are doing it and it is really fascinating. We're learning so much about marriage and about each other. :o)
@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
10 May 08
All I can say is, if it is the right person, you just know. You should find yourself not being able to wait to spend the rest of your life with that person and beginning the rest of your lives together. Nobody can tell you when that is or exactly how you feel, though. But, when it is time, you will know.
@brandon2103 (51)
• United States
10 May 08
Thank you so much! I know it's time now for me to get married. I'll be going home for a week from the military and we've been together for 5 years and can't stand being away from eachother. All I know is that I love her she loves me and it couldn't be more right to get married. Thanks again for your comment.
@karadiablo (313)
• United States
14 May 08
Step back from your relationship and ask yourself is there anything that would improve with marriage. And is there anything that would fall apart with marriage. And after you consider everything there is your ansewer.
@excellence7 (3647)
• Mauritius
14 May 08
The first thing that I will add, is that Marriage is a journey in life, not a destination at which love is ended.. In fact, a matrimony helps strengthen loves, it provide loves with a strong identity.. Now, how to really know, if you are really ready to enter a matrimony, its not child play, its a very huge responsibility, it englobes, the couples life and any extension from it; apart from deep love, financial security and a sense of maturity is of huge importance, bagged with these element and a tiny voice echoing from your heart, gives you the green signal to concretize your love into an everlasting bond- A Marriage!
@mommy_uv3 (109)
• United States
14 May 08
if it is the right person, you know there is so thinking about it, you just know. and who says you have to get married right away when you are in love, you can take the time if you are still unsure, and just have a long engagment.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
11 May 08
When it comes to love I have a 3 month rule, everybody may think they are in love with someone they have been dating for just a few weeks, but remember those first few weeks everyone is on their best behavior, you need to be with someone for at least 3 to 4 months for, during that time their true personalities, and bad habits etc. will start to appear. If you still find yourself in love with that person after all of this happens then this could be the person that is meant for you to marry.
Marriage however, takes more than just love. It helps to be financially settled before you get married. You don't want to start out a marriage in debt. Also you need to find out where each other stands on important issues such as religion, finances, and children, as well as your long term personal goals.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
10 May 08
you are the only one who can answer that question. As for me, If you feel that you really love the person and looking forward to grow old with him then that is the time to get married. Take care. Cheers!
