Do you think it is okay for an Adult Man friend of the family to kiss...
By juls2me2
@juls2me2 (2150)
United States
November 1, 2006 10:09pm CST
your teenage (15 yr.) son on the lips? Or would you say its wrong and inappropriate?
28 responses
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
2 Nov 06
It happened to my nephew and my son and I witnessed it. My sister, being a divorced mom, doesn't believe it happened. I've gone to all the authorities I can, but because she allows it and there is no proof of anything else happening nothing can be done. Pretty sick, huh!
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
10 Nov 06
I agree it completely inappropriate. No one in my family kisses on the lips. We just hug that's it. And it's not right that authorities won't look into what you've said juls. That's what I hate about this kind of thing.
@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I think it's something to cause concern. Was the guy joking, or did he act like this was normal? No one should kiss anyone on the lips unless they're either a significant other, or a close family member. Even then, a close family member doing so would also be strange, sometimes.
As stated before, if you were in another country where this was customary, that would be a different issue, but in this case, it's a little creepy.
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@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
8 Nov 06
The guy denied he did it. My nephew admitted they kissed good bye and always do that, but then quickly changed the spot of the kiss to his cheek, later on to my sister...he said it was on the head, then when they discussed it with the guy...he said it never happened too....strange to me? My sister doesn't remember all that. guess thats what denial does. Unfortunately, its out of my hands to do anything further and she chooses to allow the guy to continue having private alone times to do things together.
@trish32 (1471)
• United States
2 Nov 06
I think it's inappropriate, unless it's a custom in your country or culture to greet people you know in such a way.
@xBoobooKittYx (17)
• United States
2 Nov 06
I think that is seriously wrong and wonder why this gentlemen even thought it would be ok!! Now if he was from another country where this is customary then I wouldn't have an issue although I would tell him thats not how things are done here and make sure you're son is ok.
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@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
2 Nov 06
It happened to my nephew. My son and I witnessed it. When I brought it to my sister's attention, she went into denial mode and can't accept the fact it happened. I've done everything I can do to bring it forward, but she continues to allow the man to be around her son alone. (My sister is a divorced mom)
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
13 Nov 06
It's nice to know that other people see it as wrong and unappropriate. I happened to my sister's son. My son and I witnessed it. Even after her own son admitting to it happening initially, but after speaking with the man....the man and my nephew deny it happened. She doesn't remember that happening. I know its denial, but it happened. Do you know of anyway to get through to her to face it happened and take action against them being alone together?
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
11 Nov 06
My sister tells me that there is no way that my son and I could have seen such a thing and won't even listen or consider the fact that it happened. It's really bizarre. I know that's denial, but how do you get though to someone in that state of mind? I'd want to know if someone did that to my son and I would definitely keep that man away from my son. She continues to have the guy around and still allows a lot of times that they are alone together. I don't get it.
@howdy1242 (71)
• United States
10 Nov 06
First of all confront your son.There could be reason for counsiling before confronting the nephew whom I assume is the adault.Give your son opportunity to explaine or express himself first.
Then, being accompanied by a friend or family member, confront the nephew.
It is wrong for an adult male to kiss a teenage boy in the lips.
I hug my grandsons.
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
11 Nov 06
It happened to my nephew. My son & I witnessed it happening. That evening we confronted my Nephew & Sister about it. My nephew admitted that the man and him kiss like that all the time, then he changed it but on the cheek. Later, he changed it to on his head. My sister is so confused by this man's reasoning.....he denied it ever happened and now my nephew says it didn't happen. Just because they say it didn't happen doesn't mean it didn't happen. My sister feels that my son & I couldn't have possibly seen what we told her and won't except anything different from what she says. It has really turned into an unbelieveable situation that......now I see why Molesters get away with what they do. This man has my sister believing him over family that loves her. It's horrible.
@Videogeezer (654)
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13 Nov 06
That is highly inappropriate and I would not let it happen. There is something very suspect about it.
@The_Eagle_1 (1121)
• Australia
13 Nov 06
There appears to be more concerned about here than "the kiss on the lips"....very inappropriate in my view...
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Jan 07
One has to distinguish between a friendly kiss or an inappropriate kiss. I would a accept a kiss on the forehead or cheek as a friendly, but the rest is inappropriate in that situation.
@Cortney (3980)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I do not think that is appropriate for a son to be kissed on the lips by any family member when they are 15.. when they are babies and learn to start to give affection, that is one thing.. but for a grown man to kiss a teenaged boy or girl on the lips that is just wrong.
@suzieque (2334)
• Canada
13 Nov 06
Of course it's inappropriate! You should never kiss someone on the lips unless it's you boyfriend or girlfriend, wife, husband. It's disgusting.
@queen_bee (221)
• United States
13 Nov 06
thats inaapropriate and creepy and would get his a$$ kicked if he kissed my son
