Money or Peace?

United States
May 15, 2008 10:25am CST
Which would you prefer and be happier with? Living in semi-poverty, struggling to make ends meet, perhaps not even being able to pay your bills, and yet at peace with yourself and your environment? Or living semi-comfortably, with a sense of financial independence and yet not happy? Which of these values means more to you?
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• United States
15 May 08
By far, the first one. On the surface, we look at these people who seem to have everything: money, nice car, beautiful home, nice jewelry, and a beautiful husband/wife on the arm, but deep down, behind closed doors, they are some of the most miserable people in the world because money and material things does not buy happiness. I would much rather have a peace of mind above everything else.
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• United States
19 May 08
But what if you couldn't pay your bills and were on the verge of losing everything? That would be my fear.
• United States
15 May 08
True happiness and peace matter much more to me than wealth. A comfortable lifestyle wouldn't be bad, as long as I had all of my loved ones, and an inner peace to go with it. I could work outside my home more than I do, but I choose not to so I can be here for my kids, so I don't have to worry about them struggling through school, or witnessing unnecessary violence at school. Our lives could be much more "comfortable" but I wouldn't be comfortable on the inside knowing I chose money over my family's well being.
• United States
19 May 08
Thats ok, if you can afford to stay at home. Many cannot.
• Philippines
26 May 08
What values for me is PEACE of course. Because if you are peace minded it may also mean that you are a positive thinker and you will find ways to solve your problem. You will believe that you should do things and ask God for help because He will do the rest. Being in a place of PEACE or if you are peace and happy person there could be a big possibility that it will not end your world or it will not be fading depending also to your traits or personality. Unlike being dependent to money but not happy of course we also need the human touch like love. Money can be faded especially if you are not really good in handling on it.
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• United States
26 May 08
I like what you had to say about being "a positive think and you will find ways to solve your problem". Very good point. Thanks.
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@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
16 May 08
Happiness is first of all a state of mind. It is base on your expectations. The more you want... the less happy you are going to be... because your life is a struggle to try to get what you want. The happiest people are those who are content with what they have and don't want anything else. My mother can pay her bills... but she has always been poor... in the sense that she could not go out and buy whatever she wanted. She has learned to live with that and be happy with what she got. She does not want anything anymore. My richest client has no interest in buying things. She is not materialistic at all. Her husband constantly buy new toys for himself... but she does not want anything. Her happiness is to work in her garden and play bridge with her rich friends once a week. How often did we hear stories about old people dying and leaving a fortune to their cat... while all their friends thought that person were extremely poor as she was living like the poorest person on earth. All that said... while money cannot buy happiness... you need enough in order to pay your bills. Because even if you are content and happy with what you got... the worries of not being able to pay your bills will hurt your happiness. You do need enough money to survive before you can be happy. There is a huge difference between surviving and being materialistic.
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• United States
19 May 08
Very well said as always Aussie.
@Hatley (164236)
• Garden Grove, California
16 May 08
kbourgerie I think I prefer where my son and i arenow,we have food in the fridge,most bills paid,but first off the rent, and not a lot of spare moneybut we havent racked up any largebills and we are sort of at peacewith ourselves and are happy to being semi comfortable and not happy. we have never lived inluxurey so do not miss it.we have our rent paid and a nice apt with trees and gardens and birds. its an okay way to live.
• United States
16 May 08
I'm sure you have more than paid you dues Hatley and deserve to have a nice apartment with a garden and birds.
@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
16 May 08
Katherine..you hold a tough bargain there..LOL I've been at both and don't like the struggling and don't like being unhappy..sooo could i get all my bills paid and then be poor and then be happy..? Pretty please!
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• United States
16 May 08
I wish I could answer all of our prayers, but I am just a lowly retail worker. LOL.
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@miryam (6507)
• Italy
15 May 08
a both....... no lol ..a peace, but in this world no exist nothing in home myryam
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• United States
19 May 08
I think we all wish we could have both.
15 May 08
Someone once said to me that money might not bring you happiness but it can make your misery a lot more comfortable. In a lot of ways I wish I had the money to make my life a little more comfortable, so I wouldn't have to worry about paying the bills and still be happy with myself and my life. I think, however, that right now I have the right balance, just enough to get by and still be happy.
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• United States
19 May 08
I don't understand how people think they can be happy when they can't pay their bills. I would be stressed out all the time.
@agfarm (930)
• United States
15 May 08
This is an interesting Topic , Because Peace is the Obvious Answer , But yet I find myself still being Jealous of Other people Financially. I'm not proud of this....It is an Ugly thought But.....I acknowledge that this is an Awful way to think. Why are we so Motivated By Money? Money can not By real friendship. But yet I think about it all o' the time. Does my jealousy mean I am a terrible Friend to all those I have come to know and Love? Mind you.....i do not have desires for Vast sums of Money , or to Rule the World , But I " Catch myself " thinking about Money. I would like to think I'm not that Shallow , but in the same Vein.....I also know that we are Human and we cannot always Control what pops into our heads.....especially when it comes to providing for our Families. ARRGGGHHH!~!! I need some Help here.....Am I a terrible Friend?????
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• United States
19 May 08
No, all it makes you is human. We all think about money, having more or the lack of. Its human nature to want more than what we have.
@ellie333 (21018)
15 May 08
PEACE everytime, in fact I live the way you describe but I am happy in the first instance. In the past I have had all the materials things and the lifestyle to go with yet I wasn't happy so I know 100% through experience on this one for me. Ellie:D
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• United States
19 May 08
I would like to live at least one day with the money and the materials things. Maybe then I could get a better perspective.
• India
15 May 08
I like peace coupled with adequate money. But surely i give much more importance to and love peace. You can live with out mney but you certainly cannot live without peace.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
15 May 08
LOL well I've done both and I'll take poor and happy for $500 Bob! and yes thats my final answer The way I see it and have experienced it is like this...when you are happy TRULY HAPPY right down to your core you can handle ANYTHING that comes your way..and for me thats the key ya know....
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
15 May 08
Done both -may I have comfortable and peaceful? Suppose not. Right, in that case it has to be poor but happy. Actually I am a millionaire in friends and that is worth more than all the money in the World to me.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
15 May 08
I would rather live in peace myself and stay happy. Having money is nice to have but not if your not happy.
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• United States
19 May 08
Yeah, but at least you'd have the option of paying someone to make you happy. LOL.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
19 May 08
Yeah that is very true.
@whyaskq (7531)
• Singapore
16 May 08
It is hard to imagine one who needs to struggle to make ends meet will be at peace with himself and the environment. Very likely he will not be happy and wish for money more than anything just to get out poverty. I would choose money over peace. With money comes many wonders, and happiness can be one of them. If one is not happy, likely it is emotional and the unhappiness is likely self inflicting. He just needs to let go and he will find happiness.
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• United States
19 May 08
Your honesty is very refreshing. Thank you.
• Vietnam
16 May 08
why we have to choose ? I like living in semi-comfortably and peace .But even though I have to choose ,I choose the second one :)
• United States
19 May 08
You don't have to chose, its just a discussion. Thanks for responding regardless.
@gemini_rose (16192)
15 May 08
Oh why did you have to put this discussion up with unfair choices, I want to be happy and have financial independence!! OK I would choose, semi comfortably, able to pay the bills and not be happy. I hate not being able to pay bills, I went through the first scenario some years ago, difference is I was NOT happy, living in poverty, struggling and not being able to pay the bills. So I could cope with being well off and not happy!!
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• United States
19 May 08
It is a hard decision and unfortunately not one I think anyone is going to give me anytime soon. LOL.
@Gollywog (1092)
15 May 08
I am already living like that, struggling is not living in peace its hard work!I would like to have enough money to pay all my bills and some over to squander? Then I would be extreamly happy. Health,Wealth,Happyness thats what makes the world go round!
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• United States
19 May 08
I totally agree. As I just said to someone else, how can you be happy if you are stressed out over your bills not being paid?
• India
15 May 08
i think both are needed to have a good life ... and if one missing i think you cant be feel good ... money and peace both are equally needed for prosperous and good life ....
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• United States
19 May 08
I wish there was a way to maintain a healthy balance.
• Canada
15 May 08
Peace, most definitely! I consciously made that choice over 15 yrs ago. I was working in the big city making lots and lots of money, so was my current husband, but MONEY CANNOT BUY HAPPINESS! I chose to move up north to the country and raise my children where it was safer and I didn't have to worry about them as much. I also had a dream of owning and running my own farm as I love animals. We, my current husband of 15yrs, have struggled financially for many years because of those choices I made, but, I'm certain I made the right one. I met him just after I moved up north. He went back to working for someone else, in order that I could fulfill my dreams of having a farm. We are now almost 6 yrs in to owning our farm together, and money isn't as tight as I used to be, so now we are getting the best of both worlds, too. Since the farm is now contributing to the household income, too.
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