I want her back ...what should I do ?

India
May 17, 2008 3:10pm CST
Actually I had a relation with a girl for two years and she ended that by her wish before three month and went with some one . Now she has been stop talking with him and yesterday she met me in evening . Every one said me not to do it so , but I still love her and I want her back . I lost her due to my fault and I want her back . I know she hate my attitude which has been come in me since last august . So now what should I do ? How should I try ? She want me to study well and she called me just one hour before and asked me to not hate her for what she did . what does it mean ? Does she want me to continue ? I feel emptiness in my life , but she will again hurt me , that I also know . So people , sujjest me some thing better ... I need help ....
6 responses
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
19 May 08
if she advice you to study well it means she want your good future maybe with her. if you really love her follow your heart, love conquers everything. continue you relationship, i know you learn a lot while your away from each other because i experience similar to that but i am the one who break my girl friend because of her attitude always fight me.
• India
21 May 08
She said me once ...that I am not seeing any future with you . That time I didn't take that seriously . But today I think about that . I should give her positive side of me , where she can dream to be fit in my success ... Thanks !!!
@Ben101 (119)
• United States
19 May 08
I think it would be worth another shot but i don't think you should take it too slow because i tried this and it didnt work how i wanted it to at all. you have to make sure that she knows that you still like her because even though this leaves you more vulnerable to the possibility of getting hurt again itll be more likely to work because other wise she could take it to mean that you forgive her but that you just want to be friends
• India
21 May 08
I will go slow . This is another matter that I won't loose control over things , which will come in the way . But I don't want to friend of her in future as you can think of ... Thanks !!!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 May 08
I am sorry that she hurt you but I have been through this a bunch of times in my past relationships and also with my now husband before we got married. All that I can say is, that if you love her that much, I would try again with her and see if it works. My husband left me also before we got married but then he came back to me and I took him back because I loved him and we have bee together for 16 years now and married for 13 of them.
• India
21 May 08
Congratulation !!! Its really very luckiest thing to spend this much of time with some one , whome you love ... Never leave him for any of reason ... Thanks !!!
• United States
17 May 08
I agree in taking it slow I think if she would be back with you , that couples counseling would be to the best benefit!
• India
21 May 08
Yes , I am doing everything very slowly . It may be be , my fast speed will take her away from me ... Thanks !!!
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
17 May 08
I don't think there's any harm in having a friendship with her but you should take it slow. Everyone makes mistakes so maybe she realized that she cares for you more than she realized and wants to give it another try. Since you know what some of the problems were in the relationship before you can take steps to correct them and see how it goes. There is never any guarantee that you will not get hurt when you have a relationship with someone.
• India
21 May 08
Yes I am doing the same . I thought about it too much and make myself agree on this . Being a friend of her not a bad thing for some day . After that I will decide what should I do in my future .... Thanks !!!
@excellence7 (3647)
• Mauritius
18 May 08
Hi sincere4frdship A girl can't left a guy just for reasons of attitude. This means she never loved you..Now you will have to gain her love. Forget all what happened, it's life - and don't ever blame her for dating another guy. Just forget all and try to show her the true love you have for her (if so). Don't call her too much because she must study also. Be understanding. Don't text her also too much. Just wait at times when she is free to talk. And don't just keep saying "I love you" when you talk to her. inquire about her health, her day, her studies, etc..This is the first step towards expressing your love. That is, express your true concerns for her first. Now give her a surprise gift, don't just pick anything from the market. Try to really know her from the depth of your heart...what she likes, what she loves, her hobbies,...combine all her likings into a single gift like a big photo of nature if she like nature...or a lovely little baby doll if she likes doll...this combinations of her desire in a single gift will show how much reflective you are concerning her likings...it will be difficult to search for such a gift, but in love, nothing is impossible. Well then after she comes very close to you. Just go out for a date, and express everything in front of her by looking into her eyes deeply. I pray this work for you...
• India
21 May 08
I am looking for those reason , which broke her connection with me and took her away from me . Its a golden chance for me again to win her back and I will do everything for that .. Thanks !!!