being new to mylot and hearing about these ''trolls'' etc scares you off

Australia
May 17, 2008 10:01pm CST
I am new to mylot and I generally only start a discussion if I have a query or a problem that I think another person may be able to help me out with,wich in the long run wont make me a lot of money or freinds but when it comes to replying to other peoples discussions I am just too scared to do it,I always wander around reading peoples discussions and replies and there is so much talk about these ''trolls'' and people following you around and replying to replys you have made and people saying negative things about one another there is just no way I want to become a part of all that!Is it really that negative,should I be worried or just ignore it and post my own veiws?I have heard of so many people leaving because of abuse and people seem genuinely upset or disturbed about what is happening on here?could someone please fill me in?
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10 responses
@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
18 May 08
I don't worry about it. I'm here to have fun and chat. I'm here to make friends. I know this is a LARGE community and in ANY community there are bound to be negative people. But there are so many wonderful and positive people here too. Do you really want to miss out on the great people just to avoid the few that are not so nice? I don't.
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• Australia
18 May 08
True but I was just worried that if it was as bad as it appears then i would get critisized straight away and then I just wouldnt come back,if that makes any sense but I guess if I dont try then I will never know!
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• United States
18 May 08
:) I won't bite ya. Most of us just have a good time here and don't worry about the few negative rabble rousers. There are negative people everywhere in the world. People who want to, for whatever reason, make the lives of others more difficult. Sometimes they get to you and other times you just ignore it. It happens everywhere including in real life. I say, welcome to mylot and lets just have some fun.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
18 May 08
The good outweighs the bad. Lot's of great members on this site. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
18 May 08
Well, I think you should just post on any discussions you feel like and express your opinions! Trolls don't bother me. In fact, I enjoy their company. It gives me something to laugh at and someone to argue with. I don't really care that a lot of people mark me negative because of my opinions. I don't call names and I don't break any rules, so there is no need for me to get the negatives, but like I said, I don't care about my number at all so whatever! Don't be afraid of people here... most of them are nice!
• Australia
18 May 08
I dont understand what these ''trolls'' are?are they just negative people that you dont know that follow you around on mylot and critisize your opinions?I dont really understand the number and negatives etc I just came here because a freind told me it was a great place to meet people and make some extra money but since then she has been scared off because she had some really horrible things said to her wich really upset her and since then i have been reading some thing posted and replys and it just seems like there is a lot of this going on wich I dont understand why people are like this?what do they gain out of putting other people down.I am glad you seem one of the stronger ones that dont let it get you down but you just shouldnt have to put up with that sort of crap!Thanks for your reply.
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• United States
18 May 08
Yeah, they pretty much just rate you negative and follow you around and argue with you, and others. They're kind of annoying, but as long as you don't let it bother you, you should be good. I don't know why they do it. Probably because they are bored, honestly, or they have a lot of pent up anger...
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
18 May 08
LIKE ANY COMMUNITY, there are those members who tarnish the image of the whole. There are trolls here but they are the minority. There are also those who take it upon themselves to act as site police. They have both empty heads and lifes. Maybe they are living out a power fantasy? Either way, i wouldnt worry, most of us are ok blessed be
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• Australia
20 May 08
Site police ?how funny.I will keep my eyes out for them,thanks for the reply as I have said so far I have met a bunch of great people who are most generous with their time with very positive attitudes.Thanks again.
@ferdzNK (3211)
• Philippines
18 May 08
I personally believe its a myth, like the abominable myllotian. Don't let this things affect you, as long as you state your opinion in a nice diplomatic way, you obey the rules and you post a lot how could you go wrong? Take care Daniellegldn and more power.
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• Australia
18 May 08
Gee what a nice person obviously you arent a ''troll'' thanks ferdsNK you take care too.
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@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
18 May 08
Don't worry about anyone rating you bad. You should still be polite and give answers that relate to the subject, but if you have something to say, just let it out. That's the point of this program: open discussion. You shouldn't have to worry about how people rate you or perceive you. Don't let these "trolls" stop you from expressing yourself! I have not had much of this activity in my three or four months here, so I wouldn't be at all concerned if I were you. Welcome to MyLot -- I hope it's a great experience for you and you lose all this unfounded fear and begin to open up more without worrying about others.
• Australia
20 May 08
Thanks Bethany,I have had the nicest replies and my first impression of mylot is what a great community!I look forward to making new freinds and joining in on some great issues.Thanks again.
@Adelida2233 (1005)
• United States
18 May 08
I have only been here a month or so, but there really aren't that many trolls on here. I know several people have complained about them, but I have written on all kinds of controversial issues from homosexuality to abortion and i have yet to have one challenge my on something. If you just don't want to be bothered by them, just make sure you put "In my opinion..." in the post. Chances are you do it anyways since most of the discussions on here are opinion based to begin with. You shouldn't have too much trouble honestly. There are tons of other members here that will stand up for you, so there's nothing really to worry about. I would just post your own views, after all that is what this site is all about. Don't let other people influence what you are going to say (unless it is derogatory of course). Welcome to mylot and enjoy!
• Australia
18 May 08
Well I must say the first few people I have come across have been very lovely,I didnt actually expect anyone to say anything negative but then again you never know,I am glad that most people dont let these so called trolls get to them and still post their honest opinion because I was worried that people would not be themselves or voice their honest opinion because of the backlash they may get?well it appears that genuine mylot users are pretty kind and honest people that stick together.Thanks for your reply.
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• United States
18 May 08
Yes, you are right. I think for the most part, the users here do voice their true opinion. That's what makes it so great. That you can chat back and forth about something, even if you personally don't agree with them. Just because I don't believe in something personally doesn't necessarily mean that I won't listen. I've changed my mind on huge topics before, and it's bound to happen again. Hearing someone else's views on things is the whole reason this site exists, I think to destroy that is to destroy the site. Just keep the "trolls" out of sight out of mind. If one does happen to bother you, just report them and it will be taken care of.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
18 May 08
This type of troll activity runs on all sites along these lines. There is no escaping it for some people. Others get lucky and never have the trolls affect them. I say don't be worried about it till it happens. Then when it happens to you that would be the time to think about what you want to do as far as it goes being here etc. Post your own views as this site has "discussions" to be replied to and "discussed". People will always argue no matter be it here or outside of the internet. Just have fun and do what you like doing when here. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• Australia
18 May 08
Fair comment,I guess thats exactly what I will do,thanks for your advice and as I have said before ,I have come across some lovely people so far and I think I will just take my chance and post my point of veiw while making freinds and until I come across someone that wants to challenge me I will have fun doing so.Cheers and thanks for your reply.
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18 May 08
Don't worry about it, just keep posting and enjoying yourself here in MyLot land. The trouble makers are the minority and if everyone here ignores them, they will soon get fed up.
• China
18 May 08
hiya hunni, just ignore them, i know what you mean, was happen to me too and im really really upset but hey i tell to myself, im here to have fun and we are still not in heaven yet to meet all good people lol...there are still devils around lol, just ignore them and they will stop, dont ignore them and feel upset everytime you see them post hurting words and they will stay with you forever, cheers hunni life is good, continue making discussion and you will see more people are nice than bad.
@ElaanR2 (277)
• United States
3 Jun 08
It seems you have been here longer than I have but I'm not scared of any trolls. I read some of the postings about trolls and I realized that many people hate to hear other people oppose their views. I have also realized that people choose interests here. If you choose interests that coincide with someone else's, if the person has a different view from yours, you'll keep finding this person airing his or her views under those interests. It doesn't mean the person is following you around. It means the person has similar interests with you but disagrees with you. Humans, by nature, hate dissent. Thus, when people disagree with us, we tend to think of them as enemies. This is not healthy. There are two sides to every story. We must present our side with dignity and others will respond likewise and the world will keep on turning.