Teacher marrying a janitor???

I am a school female Vice-Principal and my husband is a school janitor in another school district. He is a wonderful, compassionate, fun and well loved by all those who come to meet and know him. He does excellent work and all the school teachers adore him. He is faithful to me and very much in love with me even after 30 years of marriage. He also is a very loving and dedicated father to our two now grown-up, adult children. Unfortunately, due to the bigotry and narrow-mindedness of others who look down on the janitorial profession, I do not disclose to anyone in my professional circle my husband's occupation. I feel that I would be the laughing stock of many in my school and that I would be judged unjustly. Our daughter is dating someone from a high socio-economic background and she is embarrassed to introduce her father to her boyfriend and friends. Consequently, we never meet anyone from her circle. So marrying a janitor has its downside. We are frowned upon by those who "know" and forever ignored by those who never will. It can be a lonely and stressful life...

isnt it surprising that love doesnot distinguish between colour,caste or creed.unfortunately,there are many norms set by the society that people of equal education or of the same level should marry!!i think this is all humbug!!

Our janitor was married to a Head of School. Unfortunately his wife passed away three years ago but they were so much in love. He has not married yet. He always speaks highly of his late wife. © ronaldinu 2008

I really don't think they should start putting labels on her or him as they love each other and that is what is important in this matter. I guess we should respect that because who are we to judge them like that. We all fall in love and we do not chose who should be it is our heart that chooses not our minds that decides when it comes to love. It does not discriminates according to race, color or religion. It just is based on how one feels for the other and that's it.

Why would marrying a janitor be degrading for a teacher? I don't see a problem with that, its just a job, everybody has to work, and its an honest job. I don't know why people think being a janitor is degrading, my uncles a janitor at a school, and he's also a pastor of a church, he's a good uncle.

Hello Bebs08! I heard a lot about teachers marrying tricycle drivers or janitors. Well, there's nothing wrong with it as long as the intentions are good and the love is genuine. I am a teacher too but even when I was in college, I told myself that as much as possible, I will marry a man who is of the same profession as me or to a man who is able to support me and my children even if I am not working. But of course, there should be love involve too.

A teacher and a janitor, so what? Jobs are just that jobs, way of earning an honest living. This is about two people and it really is no one's business who they choose to marry it only matters to the two who marry each other and to their children should they have any. As for what they do for a living again so what. While many might look their nose down on a janitor, maid, housekeeper, garbage collector, or other service oriented areas of employment, it is kind of sad to think that we do look our nose down on those doing the jobs most do not want to do. where would we be with out those who do such work? Those who do the so called "more important" jobs couldn't do what they do with out those who have jobs that people look down on. Something to think about the person who is the janitor, is earning and honest living, working hard for his salary and like most teachers is likely underpaid and underappreciated. How well could the teacher, teach if the janitor didn't keep the school clean? How well could the students learn if they were to spend their days in an area that each day got progressively filthier? How much teaching time would be lost each day if the teacher and or students had to first clean the area where they were at learning? The janitor should be given respect for doing what he does, for ensuring that there is a clean area for the students to be in, so that they can learn with out filth and germs collecting. As for the teacher marrying a janitor, that it is even consider an issue for comment by those who would say he has won the jackpot, or for those who say it is degrading for her, those who would make such comments are in fact narrow minded bigots. It is a non issue, what someone does for a living is not necessarily the essence of who they are as a person. When it comes to two people marrying, the issues shouldn't be what they do to earn a living, so much as are they compatible, do they love each other, can they be there for each other, is there care, compassion, attempts at understanding, etc, and do they want to marry each other, and go through the struggles and ups and downs of being married, make an honest effort to build their lives together? And again is it really anyone else's business what two people do in their private lives?

I don't see what the big deal is. A teacher marries a janitor. So what. People are entitled to marry whoever they want. What the person they are marrying does for a living should not be an issue. I also do not think that it is anyone else's business.