Would you prefer no answer to a response?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
May 24, 2008 9:51pm CST
As I was updating my discussions tonight, I noticed that there was simply nothing more I could add to some responses. The comment stood alone and needed no further clarification. After sifting through four pages of responses on my "turkey burger" discussion, and posting endless "thank you's", I noticed an alarming trend.
By page three I had just ended up saying, "Good point!" and that's not really the type of in-depth response that I would prefer to leave. So, I was wondering. If you had to choose a scanty response to your comment, like "Thanks!" or "Good point" or no response at all. Which one would you choose?
I mean assuming the person who posted the discussion could not honestly think of one single thing to say that would add to what you had posted. Would you be horribly offended with a two word response? Would you expect much more?
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16 responses
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
25 May 08
I give responses up to a certain time frame then only respond to the ones that have really contributed to the topic, some discussions you would be answering all day and as Mylot recommends you don't say thank you to every response, I guess you have to draw the line somewhere especially if you create a lot of topics..
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
25 May 08
You're right about that. I remember reading the TOS and they do say not to thank everyone that drops by. I try not to fall into that trap. I've noticed that some people don't go out of their way to post a thoughtful response that really contributes to the discussion as you mentioned. Some just restate what's already been said in the discussion or they simply rattle on about something else entirely.
I really do have difficulty responding to those types of comments.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
25 May 08
Doing a lot of discussions can and does bring up many issues along commenting to the respnses in them. I had one recently with 161 responses and commented to a lot of them and it was a LOT of work. I am just the type that likes to write and or talk a lot it seems.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
25 May 08
beauty queen i think I would do like you and say
thats a good point or words to that effect. after'
all sometimes there is just not much you can add
and I do not think I or others would be horribly
offended by that. we could see why you said what
you said after all.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
25 May 08
Thanks for the vote of confidence.1 person likes this
@GardenGerty (157622)
• United States
25 May 08
My choice would be to have no comment on my response, if all that could be said is " Thank you", or "good point". I mean, if it strikes you and you have something unique to say, then please do, otherwise, we should not clutter up each other's inbox.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
25 May 08
I have a confession. I like to always respond to other member's responses when I recognize their username. Or, if they're on my friends list. I think it's only polite. Sometimes if I don't recognize someone then I might hesitate if their response adds nothing to the discussion.
But, I will always reply to a response that adds a fresh and original insight into the conversation.
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
25 May 08
It all depends on the discussion,if discussion it is...some people only want simple responses,and that's what they get...others want more considered,open responses...the first sort don't need much in the way of a response,so may just get an acknowledgement..the second type may raise further points the original discussion didn't cover,so that response would need more input from the Author..If You put more into a discussion,IMO,You should get more out of it!
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
25 May 08
I do so appreciate when respondents actually add fresh and new material to the discussion. It really helps. It doesn't happen all the time. But, when it does, it's just like carrying on a real conversation.
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@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
25 May 08
I only get to comment to the responses left in my discussions for a while. Perhaps to the first ten. But of course, I also look into the responses. If they do not need further clarification, I leave it as is. Well, sometimes, I do show my gratitude to those who responded. I personally do not think that there is any reason for me to get offended by two-worded responses. Unless of course the words are offensive, if you know what I mean..
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
25 May 08
I hear ya! And, no, I don't talk like that. But, thanks for the vote of confidence on the short replies. Sometimes it's the only thing I have time for. I'm just trying to acknowledge everyone for their efforts. I hope that can be seen. It's sort of what you might do at a baby shower where there are a hundred gifts and you run out of "ooh's" and "ahhs" and "Oh, how cute!" after the first thirty minutes. Same thing here. Just trying to let others know their efforts are appreciated and find a healthy comprimise between no response and a ludicrously long response that takes all day. Whoops! I've rattled on. Thanks for dropping in.
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@andyloveling (29)
• China
25 May 08
haha.
It's funy.I check my blog everyday and yearn for know what kind of response on it.And awlays the response let me down.Cause much empty words,none of senses.And by manner,I have to answer every response.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
25 May 08
I know precisely what you mean and we have all encountered this at some time or other. I like to make a decent reply to any responses that I receive, but some are difficult to reply to at all so I simply skip past after reading them. It also becomes difficult when too many people appear to make the same statements but in different words, because it is not easy to reply to the same general comment in an variety of ways.
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@alienstar (5142)
• India
25 May 08
When any discussion is of interest, we do answer taht or respond thata nd one liner won't eb enough to taht thareda s tehere will be so much to explain or comment on that thread isnt it? so, forst develop interset and then articpate in discussions instaed of taking half interest and doing something
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
25 May 08
I add comments as they seem fit to be needed. Not all are worthy of a comment. Not saying their bad but like you state, thank yous, and good points can only last so long. I do try to add comments to a lot of the responses I get as it is a discussion. But.... I like more than a couple wors myself though.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
25 May 08
i get what you mean some you just have to comment back too .
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
25 May 08
When I've started a discussion, I don't always get more than a page of responses, so I'm not worn out from reading through heaps of discussions. Most replies I answer with similar length responses, but if I feel I have nothing more to add, I usually won't put anything. Personally, I like to get some response, so that I know my input has been acknowledged, rather than wondering if it's even been read.
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
25 May 08
I've been in that situation before, and no I never use a 2 word response. If worst comes to worst I look for some humor, make a joke out of it or tell a story, (anything that comes to mind) Humor is never out of place unless its the raunchy kind.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
25 May 08
Sometimes I'd honestly get to that point wherein I don't know anymore what else to say other than thank you and other short replies..and I hope those that I have commented with just that won't take it against me..There's just nothing else to say to what they have responded..But at least I do it in a nice way..But there are others which I think needs more than a thank you reply..Like when I need to make a point or something..anyways, at least I commented and read their replies..If it happens to me, it's ok, to each his own..
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
25 May 08
It doesnt bother me . i just started this site so we will see
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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29 Jun 08
To be honest with you, if there is not really a lot to say in response to a comment left on a discussion then there is not really much point saying anything. I did read in the guidelines I think that myLot do not like us to keep thanking everyone, or something like that. I would not be offended by you not answering me, not a problem at all!
@thebeaddoodler (4262)
• Lubbock, Texas
25 May 08
I'm not at all offended by not having a response to my response. Not all comments need to be responded to. If you're in a group of flesh and blood friends, face to face, do you respond to everything everybody says? Probably not, because some statements stand alone and require no more elaboration. Same here at mylot.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
25 May 08
I dont have a prob when people dont comment back . there is no need tho for a person to be rude or start a fight . that always bothers me
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