Do you still feel the pain when you were hurt.....

@subha12 (18452)
India
May 26, 2008 12:29am CST
It may be in any relationship. In love or friendship. actually even in friendship, when we are cheated, we feel equally hirt. do you still feel that pain? or you have forgot it altogether? I know its not possible to forget, its there somewhere inside heart. How you have moved in life?
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@mayka123 (13202)
• India
11 Jul 08
Whenever I have been hurt I have felt the pain but not forgotton it. For me it is impossible to forget the pain.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
10 Jul 08
subha what a pertinent post! I have always be able to forgive but can hardly forget. The hurts, pains, aches will be there forever. I know this is not right but that;s how I am. I die within.
@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
10 Jul 08
if considerable time had passed by, i would forget the pain and just remember what happened. like when i first got brokenhearted, that's when i was in my last year in high school, i felt the pain whenever i see him. but it gradually decreased as time passes by and i got absorbed with other things. months passed by and i was able to look at him without feeling anymore pain. and i sang to myself "i remember the boy, but i don't remember the feeling anymore..." with friends its different, i can easily forgive them as long as they say sorry. but if not, i'll continue to feel hurt and we'll just be hurting each other. as of now, i'm brokenhearted and its hard for me to forget because i always see him and the fact that he's ignoring me everyday, puts a knife in my heart and i always feel the pain. i don't know when i will be able to get this pain out of my heart. its only been weeks.
@julyteen (13258)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Jun 08
yes the pain still in my heart, i won't forget easily specially if it is a serious problem with my girl friend, i am hurt many times and that is the reason also that i hurt some girls. i know pain may vanished but not instant i will heal a long period of time specially if the person involved won't ask forgiveness.
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
27 May 08
Yes, I still do felt pain when I will knoew that I am being betrayed eventhough i am very truthful with the relationship with them especially for friendship but it is already normal, we have to moved on when we have the obstacles in life just keep on going that must be life on, to make us more strong in everyday......by moral, faith and everything.
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
27 May 08
When one is greatly hurt, it pains. One may forget what happens, but is not able to forget the pain that is inflicted. At times, the pain does come back to me over movies or tv serials. It no longer hurts but I do feel the pain - for the characters on screen.
@bellaofchaos (11549)
• United States
27 May 08
Do you still feel that pain? You bet I still feel pain wether I was hurt by someone I loved or a friend which goes under the love category becuase I love all my friends. LOL!! But seriously wether it be frienship or relationship when I'm hurt I still feel that pain it never really goes away away if it was something major but if it was something small it can be removed and put aside to go away. But the major betrayls or hurtings always are there to remind you what happened and to be more cautious next time. or you have forgot it altogether? It depends on how bad the hurt or pain was .. What type of betrayl or hurt was done .. If it is minor that will be forgetten (but I will be cautious). If it is major it sits there although I'm over it I will be a dull ache in the back of my mind to make sure I remember what happened the last time. How you have moved in life? Always, to let something keep you from moving on gives it power over you and I refuse to do this. To make sure to use what has hurt you as a lesson and learning point is not keepping you from moving on just making you wiser so to say. Life is about challanges and you never know what challange may be presented and the rewards that you'll get upon completion. LOL!! So I take life one day at a time get over my obstacles and move on with it.
• India
27 May 08
never been a two side love so for me and i never even expressed my feeling to that girl but when i found she is gone forever i still feel the pain .. ha
• Pakistan
27 May 08
No dear i have not hearted in love because i doesn't love any of my girl friend and i have no such kind of relation that i being heart by some one.have a nice day
@jyjnl_jia (429)
• China
27 May 08
I can still feel the hurt sometimes.Maybe it is not longer.Four months ago,my girlfriend and me broke up.We had been together about three years and i think we were very happy each other.However,just some reasons caused this happen.Now i begin to accept this fact and move on my life,but i can think about sth we toghter before in some special day or in the place where we are farmiliar with.It felt uncomfortable.
@metschica25 (5405)
• United States
27 May 08
It is so very hard to move on and even when you have forgave . You can forgive but will always remember . I think it is human nature when you think about that hurt it will still hurt, but maybe less. Letting go can sometimes free you .
@myhuni (112)
• New Zealand
27 May 08
Hey I recall hurting a few people but never really been hurt myself
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
27 May 08
I have a friend who hurt me before and I already forget it, but, I can't still accept her back.For me, it would be best for us not to be close again. I know I forgot the pain and part of it was to forgot her in my list aLSO.!
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
26 May 08
I guess I'm rather odd. I don't remember painful situations for very long. I actually forget them and have to be reminded by friends and relatives. I don't think this is a healthy reaction, but it is what happens to me. It makes it easier to go on, I guess. But I'm always afraid I'll make some of the same mistakes if I can't remember making them the first time.
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
26 May 08
I am not sure. I was hurt deeply by my ex a year ago. I deleted all his contact at that time. Now I can't even remember his face. I sometimes think that maybe I am stupid at that time. There was really no need for me to do like that. Whatever I am a human being. I have emotions. Now I told myself that I forget totally. But sometimes something will just come up.
@xParanoiax (6997)
• United States
26 May 08
It'll always be there *points at my chest* it's just as you deal with it, and time passes the pain becomes farther away, buffered...you could say. And things can always ressurect the old hurt afresh, but you just keep going anyway, you know?
• Philippines
26 May 08
I've been hurt for many times. It's too hard to ease the pain but we have to move on.Yeah i still can feel the pain whenever i remember those bad days when i was really hurt. It almost kill me 'coz of depression, but i realize then that if i will let the pain killed me i will die for nothing.In this world pain and failure is natural and it's up to us how we can conquer this. Pain makes us stronger always remember that mylotters... have a nice day
@maquisa (316)
• Philippines
26 May 08
i just feel the positive vibes that comes along, i ignore everything that happen and never going back to it,past is past and everything that happen good or bad will not come back anymore,Just be positive in life and think that everything that makes you sad or hurt,there will always a time and situation that will make you happy...and just always remember GOd is with you always
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
26 May 08
Everyone handles it different. For me it took me a very long time to get over it. But I did and now I never think about this selfish person. I hope he rots in hell.
@mayka123 (13202)
• India
26 May 08
Yes we do feel the pain when we are cheated by either family or friends. And I dont think it is easy to forget it. You may forgive the person and move on in life but somewhere deep in your heart the pain is still there.