What would you say?

June 1, 2008 8:51am CST
I have a friend who has been told that she has genetic alopecia - and nothing will stop her hair from falling out and that eventually she will be bald in 5 years from now. She is 35 years old with gorgeous natural blonde hair - she is obviously very upset and getting depressed about it - what would you say if you had a freind in the same situation ?
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6 responses
@Darkwing (21583)
1 Jun 08
This is quite a common occurrence, and I know a few people who have suffered from alopecia, even to the extent of losing their eyelashes and eyebrows. I'm sorry to hear your friend is getting depressed about her condition, but there really isn't much she or anybody else can do about it, other than to boost her some, by taking her out to look at wigs and the like. These days, there are some nice, natural wigs about, and perhaps if she could find a really nice one, similar to her own hair, she might climb out of the depression a bit. The young girl who lives next door to me has this condition, and at the age of twenty-two, her hair is very thin. She compensates by pinning it up, but I've encouraged her to wear it down more, because it's not so harsh on her face. She stays cheerful, and takes what comes, but it's difficult for a woman to lose their hair at such a young age. Just stick with her and encourage her to accept her condition, and try to boost her confidence, as a friend would. Brightest Blessings.
1 Jun 08
many thanks, I think the idea of looking at some attractive natural looking wigs is a good idea. I also think it could be a nice idea to get her to come on my lot and see that she is not alone with this condition many thanks
@Darkwing (21583)
1 Jun 08
You're welcome, my friend, and yes, I agree that for her to understand that there are a lot of other women, of all ages, suffering from alopecia, might make her feel less conspicuous, or "different". She must be feeling terribly alone right now and in need of lots of TLC from her friends.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I have an aunt that has lost most of her hair and I know that it is very depressing for her. Its not unusual for a man to lose his hair, but its got to be really depressing for a woman as her hair is usually her crowing glory. I can only offer her support and perhaps some suggestions as to how she can style her hair differently.
1 Jun 08
Thanks a lot for that - I will tell her I think if she knows that lots of others are in same position she will feel better
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@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
26 Jul 08
oh dear i'm sorry to hear about your friend. i guess there's nothing much that can be done. try to take her attention away from the problem. maybe you can go shopping for hats and caps with her. make it fashionable to wear them, especially if you wear it with her. give her the support she needs and be there for her. she need to learn to accept the fact. cheers.
• United States
1 Jun 08
First, I would tell my friend that they have my full support and I'd love them if they were bald as a cueball! With or wihtut hair, it's the personality that makes a good friend and NOT hair. And ..tell her to see a naturopathic doctor or homeopathic or herbal MD and ask if they have alternative choices for treatment, so she might avoid losing her hair! If a regular doctor can't help, it doesn't mean no one can, right!? Have her go to PAAM.net and look at their MD's! Thay may have other options! I took my kids to one of them when other regular MD's told me my kids had bad asthma and always be in and out of the hospital and would be on medicine. Natural doctors got my kids off the toxic meds more than 15 years ago in ONE year and they are never in the hospital now, although we have learned to watch their nutritional needs! (Worth it!) -Asthma is a "buzz" word for THEY HAVE ALLERGIES!! Also, there are Oriental doctors, etc..she should ask them around if they could help! They may have oriental solutions that our Amrerican MD's don't know about or use! GO with your friend and ask about! If they have an appointment support them and go for the ride! You and she may be plesently suprised!! Best to you and her! Hey, if they can't help they'll say so! But if they can..it would be GREAT! Regular MD's are great for surgeries, broken bones, etc..but not for long-lasting chronic things. For that you need someone to get to the bottom of WHY you have the symptoms. (Like hair loss, wheezing, etc..) Lots of differetn peoplke that ARE professionals to ask! So..ASK! They want to help!
1 Jun 08
many thank for your response - very encouraging and I will certainly tell her what you have said
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Bless her heart. My aunt has alopecia. I think her hair started falling out when she was in her 20s, but mostly underneath where she could hide it with long hair. By the time she was in her 30s it was becoming more obvious and she hated going out of the house. My mom and 3 other sisters all got together and went wig shopping with her. They made sure she bought about 4, I think. Then my mom and other aunts also bought wigs...so they could all look alike. Now that she's in her 70s she doesn't bother with wigs much. She just ties a scarf on her head. The thing that always concerned me was my aunt's wanting to stay inside away from people, because she thought people were always staring at her. It's a blessing that it's not a terminal illness, but quite a curse for women. Oddly, I've never heard of men getting this.
1 Jun 08
Oh thanks for that - what a fun idea, I will suggest it to other of her friends and see their response. It is very sad isnt it and wanting to hide away as you say is very concerning. I do think that men get it - but not sure thanks for your response
• India
31 Oct 11
Welcome friend, Actually there is no cure for baldness that comes with age, i mean if its heriditary, it is embedded in the genes But if the hair loss is due to some disease like typhoid it has natural cure, they come back, i am running 67 now more than 50% hair is gone.i am almost bald. Thanks for sharing Best of luck. Professor