The unwanted picture...

wow! You dad told you that? How mean she is,,,maybe she is just jealous and wanted all the attention of your dad to them. Anyway, there are really people who are like that and I am in the situation, I will be making things to irritate her more..hahahaha! Bad me!

I'm sorry to hear that has happened to you cream. I wish i could tell you why your stepmom seems to have a problem with you. When my best friend's father remarried he did the same thing to them. And only years later and after he left her he's now trying to reestablish a relationship with hs kids, whom are grown and could care less. I hope your dad finds a way to balance his relationship with all of his kids, or there'll be no winners in this situation. BUT THROUGH IT ALL KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.

Hi cream97, I do understand on how you feel. I'm sorry to say, this is always happened in the family that come with half-half..what is I mean is having step mom, step brother or step sister. I do have them once and I know how the situation looks like. No matter how we try to be closed but still will be some problems then. But that doesn't mean we have the loath each other forever. Try to confront with her face to face and heart to heart. For what ever it is you guys are still family and the most important part is he is your daddy!. Try to configure out why she had done such thing on you because no matter how hard she tries you are father's kid. By doing that at least you could let her know on your feelings and you could configure what is on her. Try to be calm, cream97...in this matter we are playing with our wisdom to solve the problem

"We were born first.. She has kids with my dad... Why should I be placed on the back burner??" Because you aren't her's and she's obviously a self centered witch! I hate it when people are that selfish about step children and what not. My s/o's family seems to forget that I have other children. You should talk to your dad, really he's the one that needs to deal with this woman. I hope for your sake he does. You are his child and he should have pictures of you in his home.

That was indeed most unkind of her, you were his daughter why should she be so upset. is she jealous of his affection towards you? thats awful. could you talk to her and ask what the heck she meant by that? or is you Aunt a trouble maker.

I am sorry to hear that. I think you dad should have stood up for that and say "NO" and he should be allowed to keep your pix. Pls talk to your dad first and find out his situation, it may be easier than talking to your stepmother.

i'm sorry that you have to experience that cream97... all i can suggest is to have a chat with your father and stepmother and ask her straight why does she do that... i can't give you any other suggestions as i think honesty is the best policy... good luck and have a nice day...

please dont take anything negative in this situation. Please speak with her regarding this.talk about this.

I think I would be questioning my dad about this, and why he allowed her to remove your pictures from 'thier' house. It's not as if their kids don't know you exist. I would be wanting some answers and you deserve an explanation for this. I'm sure it's very hurtful.

Hi cream97! I am really sorry to hear that. I would be hurt if I am in your shoes. I think your step mother is just one selfish and possessive person. She wanted your father for herself and her kids and wanted to erase the past. I guess, she is jealous of the past which belongs to your mother and she wanted to wipe that out in your father's memory by not wanting any pictures of you since those will be constant reminders of what is was then with your father and mother. Don't be sad dear, your mother's memory and your importance in your father's life can't be measured in how many pictures are in her house because I am sure they are in your father's heart forever. And maybe, your father has just agreed to that set up so that he will not be nagged by your selfish stepmom but he took extra care and keeping them in your aunt's house and not just been kept hidden where no one can see. Take Care and Keep Smiling! God Bless!

I understand why you are feeling hurt and upset here. It sounds bad. Still, if you have always had a decent relationship with your step mom, there could be a logical explanation. I can't imagine what...but you never know. If I were you, rather than jump to conclusions, I would go to your step mom and just ask her. It is really the only way you'll know for sure. If she has a problem with you, this may open the door for much needed communication. She is the only one that can really give you the answer you are looking for.

i felt bad for that. there are people who just can't take the past of the person they marry. on my part, i think, the thought that you already know the person have the first born kids in his first family, she must be ready for the circumstances that it will bring to their marriage. it is her very obligation to love the kids like her own. if she can't accept this fact, then she must find someone who doesn't have kids prior to their meeting.

Cream,This is a really mean thing to do.Some People and their Natures are so hurting and inconsiderate.It is possible that your step mom is possessive about your Dad and is doing this to get you out of his Life.But this is just too mean of her.Better sit with both of them and have a talk and directly ask them to explain the reason for doing this.

I thought now you cant do anything so better be open and think practically we have crossed from our hands so be patient bare that fact

It is really disheartening to read a discussion like this one. Very much unfortunate incident!

Well, unfortunately you will not be the first one that this ever happens too, and it is Sad that there are so many people out there like this. Sometimes, it is because they feel threatened. All I can say, is just always try to be friendly to her when you are around her, and maybe sooner or later she will come around and change her turn. Wishing you the best.

don't feel so bad. and don't you worry coz i think your father will not agree with her. he is your father and you became his first child before them. he will be at your side no matter what. maybe you should also ask your aunt about this. if you were really in good terms then she can tell it to you. she might have her own reasons why she doesn't want your picture in her house. then maybe you can have a better understanding knowing her reasons.

It happens. My stepmother tried to do some pretty crazy stuff to me and my brother when we were little. She hated us. She locked us in closets, let us play with lighters. (at only 2 and 3 years old) and beat the crap out of us. Sometimes step mothers are resentful because they feel you're a threat...A reminder of her lovers past.

That seems to be a very strange reaction. You should ask her about this and also do not worry much about it. People so such kinds of things in anger or so, but later regret it. Try sending some more photos of yourself and see what happens. Then you can know what is that she really wants. bourne

hey i feel sorry for you cream..but mostly step mothers are this way.this shouldnt have happened to you cream.anyways dont take things to heart.things will change.she will understand your position sometime.as time passes you will get married.that time your hubby will shower you with all the love that you expected from your father and step mother. he wouldnt throw your photos this way..cheer up yar..take care.good luck.. :)