How old were you when you had your children/child?Is there a right or wrong age?

June 4, 2008 3:16am CST
Hi all, I was Just 18 when i got pregnant and i found it to be such an issue with some of my family....I am a very mature person and always wanted to be a young mum...I had been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we had our own house...But a perticular family member wouldnt talk to me throughout my pregnancy till they saw my beautiful babay boy...The treated me like a criminal...but i got on with it and wouldnt change the world....I love being a young mum....ITS AWESOME!!
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@biggerb (2028)
• India
5 Jun 08
I am so glad for you that you are thoroughly enjoying your motherhood status.Its good to get married at the right age and have children when you are young.There are alot of advantages.I got pregnant when I was 24.just one year after I got married.Enjoy every minute with your baby.
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• United States
9 Jun 08
I was 24 when I had my first. I was glad I waited because I got to experience things in life that I wouldn't have otherwise. That said, I don't think it's wrong to have children at a younger age, either.
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
6 Jun 08
When I have my first born I am still 20 exactly and I have another after 2 years and now that I am a 33 years old I still have 1 year old and i am very lucky and happy with my children for it is worth all of my sacrifices in life they grew up with good moral eventhough I am far away for them......
@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
5 Jun 08
I was 30 when my first son was born and 31 when my second was born. I was a little afraid of being too old to enjoy my kids, but we are getting along just great. They respect the fact that my 47.5 yr old body is not as well as it should be, although they would love it if I could do more active things with them, maybe like bowling or biking. We all enjoy music together and I love the same stuff they do, so there are never arguments in the car with the cd player.
@pumpkinjam (6824)
• United Kingdom
5 Jun 08
I was 19 when I had my first child. He is now 8 and he says I am a fantastic mum so I am happy with that! I had my second when I was 24 and, to be honest, I think I managed better with my first. I don't know why anyone should have had a problem with your situation if you were with your boyfriend for 3 years and already had your own house. Surely, that is a perfectly good time to have a family, however old you are. I don't think there is a right or a wrong time to have children. Neither of mine were planned but they are well looked after. I was watching a tv programme about a 14 year old girl who had a baby and she was so mature and obviously a good mum. Now, I am not going to condone or encourage children to get pregnant, just making the point that being a good mother doesn't depend at all on age.
@naaadh (217)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Well above 18 is OK. but that doesnt mean its very good. But it will be good if you can earn enough money to support the baby, and if you have a good partner. Than there is nothing wrong in being a young mom. Just remember that the baby who is growing with you will think about many things, and the last thing you want him to think is bad of you. Dont let you kid think your a bad mom, or that you cant keep the kid happy. Then all will go well. I too wish to have a baby as soon as i get married ;). They are awsome little bunnies. And i olways tell my girl friend our first baby will have her eyes.
@AdrianX (30)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
Me and my wife had our first baby last year ago, we were both 22 back then. One great advantage of this is that when your child turns into a teen, you'll look as if you're of the same age and you'll treat each other as just buddies / bestfriends; which in turn will make your relationship with your kid a lot more stronger.
@kezabelle (2984)
4 Jun 08
I had my first child on the day after my 20 th birthday and my second daughter 27 days after my 22nd birthday. I love being a mother wouldnt change it for anything
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
4 Jun 08
You are going to think I am ancient.... I had my first child when I was 38. I am sure you are a very good mother, but I would not have been one at the age of 18. I didn't mean to wait as long as I did, but my hubby and I had trouble conceiving. I am glad now that it has worked out the way it has. I am able to stay home with my child and be a more relaxed, layed back mom than I would have been in my late 20s when I first started trying to get pregnant. Sorry you had the reactions you had from some family members. That could not have been easy.
@nenagirl (38)
• Belize
4 Jun 08
hi there!personaly i dont have any kids,although i must say that i know the wonderful feeling that only mothers feel.i got the grand privelage of having a baby boy in my care for one year and three months-had him from the day he was born.i loved him as my own and i miss him tremendously everyday..i had this responsibility at age 17 and i must say it made me grow up more as a person...so as to your question,i cant really quote a specific age or age range for when one is ready to have kids.caz to be honest,i use to think that one should be atleast 24-25,but like i said my thinking changed.although i'm not saying that i am ok with girls having babies at a young age-because not all are mentally mature for child rearing(like yourself).and as to that family member who was not in accordance,maybe he/she thought the same thing-that you werent ready. and i bet that it is an awesome and wonderful experience!! you should never think back and say "wat if?" caz you have your adorable little boy now,who is never a mistake.
@jczvrse (169)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Having a child when you are young is right foe some people and wrong for others, it does depend on maturity and the ability to take on the responsibility. Teens having kids is almost an epedemic in the us kids ranging from the age of 10 to 16 are having kids I think that is too young. I had my firdt when I was 19 and I think that was to young for me, but I took responsibility for raising my boy also for the other 5 that followed. I tell my kids it is hard to raise kids especially these days with all the violence against kids and the high cost of living, I tell them they should wait until they establish their career and are financially and mentally stable to have kids. So far my oldest is 30 no kids, no kids for my 27 year old, no kids for my 25 year old, now my 23 year old has a 3 year old boy which he is a single father and a great father, takes very good care of his son. So I guess it depends on the individual as what is too young.
• United States
4 Jun 08
I was 22 when I had my son. As for a right or wrong age....my opinion is they older women(over 40) and young girls(under 18) shouldn;t have children.
@ambkeb (782)
• United States
4 Jun 08
I was 19 when I had my son. I had only been with my boyfriend for a short time, but it all worked out. Now 4...almost 5 years later we are married with a beautiful son and daughter. And even TALKING about having another. Things have been hard at times, but we always work through them. My problem always was that he's 10 years older then I am. That was always the thing that my family had a problem with. But I had graduated from school and had been living on my for a long time...I felt it was my own decision. But now they all like him so its all good....
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
4 Jun 08
I had just turned 25 when I had my son. He's 8 now and it's been the greatest years of my life. Time goes by so fast when you have a child and you don't realize it until then. Even though 8 years has passed since I've had him, I can still remember the first day he entered this world like it was yesterday. I've heard that having a child in their late 30's can cause mental retardation so I think it's best to have a child when you're younger rather than older.
• United States
4 Jun 08
I was 25,28,and 38. I don't think there's any age thats best. Ideally, you should be ready and mature enough to handle the job! As you can see, I had my first fairly young (a year after i was married) and my little boy (last one) I had a "little" later in life. He actually has more advantages than my girls did when they were little. Although we spoiled all of them terribly, we have a house now-he has his own yard and his own room, which is something my girls didn't have. Under the right circumstances being a mom at any age is the best job in the world as far as I'm concerned! glad your family came to their senses! good luck to you and enjoy your little boy! :)
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
4 Jun 08
i had my first one when i was 21. i'm 27 and i have 3 now all together. i don't think there is a right or wrong age. it all depends on the person. i do think though that the person should be emotionally and financially ready to have a baby. i'm kind of old fashioned i guess because i also kind of think that the couple should be married. But with divorce rate being what it is i guess that isn't the best choice. i couldn't imagine growing up without both my parents. i would never treat someone badly though.
@paula20 (31)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
i got pregnant when i turned 24. i know most people would think that it's an okay age to get pregnant, but not my family. i guess they were just being protective towards me that they just wouldn't acknowledge that i'm already a full grown woman ready to take the challenges of motherhood.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Technically LOL I had my oldest at 23 my middle child at 24 and my youngest at 28. As far as a "right or wrong" age....well I guess it depends on the girl in question ya know..PROVIDED they are adults...I have serious issues with kids (14-17) having kids...and I PERSONALLY think that waiting until in ones 20s is best BUT even then there are ppl who shouldnt be having kids....I dont think its age as much as stablitiy, maturity etc etc
• United States
4 Jun 08
I was also 18 when I got pregnant. Most of my family didn't have anything to do with me until the baby was born. The only relative of mine that WAS okay with my pregnancy was my mom. She knew that she couldn'tchange it and instead of being mad at me she helped me and spent time with me. It was really appreciated. I lso love being a young mother. My husband and I have been together for almost two years now and our baby is 5 months old. I was in the same situation. My stepdad and my grandparents wouldn't speak to me until after they saw my daughter. It hurts when family acts this way, but sometimes there is just nothing you can do.
@Anne18 (11034)
4 Jun 08
Its up to people when they want to become a mum, also it also depends when you find that special person in your life. You can not order babies you have to have them when they come!! I should know that. i had our daughter just after my 25th birthday. I then had to wait 9 years to get my son who is now almost 11, and then just before his 2nd birthday I gave birth to a set of girl/boy twins. No more babies. I always think of my children like the number 33 bus. You get one and nothing comes along for years and then you get three in a row!!