My Son Just Learnt A Hard Lesson In Life Bless

That's one of the toughest lessons of life for kids and adults alike, my friend. We teach them to share with others and then something like this happens. It hurts to see them cry, but they're learning a valuable lesson in life. I guess the best way to explain is to tell him that those type of children who disappear as soon as his sharing comes to an end, are not real friends. Teach him to share, but only with those who will share with him, or will play with him when he has nothing of particular value to them. I guess we all go through it at sometime, but for the life of me, I can't remember a time when it happened to me, personally. I tend to have a knack for weeding out this kind of "false" friend, I guess. As far as my kids go, the only thing I really remember is the kids coming around them when they had sweets or something to share, but then again, they would always come back and share their own sweets. However, it's happening with my youngest granddaughter at the moment. Mum and Dad bought the granddaughters a quite large trampoline for the garden, and two particular friends of my younger granddaughter are forever calling around and asking if they can play on the trampoline. My son has it sussed though... he limits them to time! lol. Not only that, my granddaughter is quite shrewd at the age of ten, and she'll suggest going somewhere on their skates or bikes to get them off her trampoline. Brightest Blessings... I hope your son is feeling better... give him a big hug from "Auntie" Darkwing. He sounds like a lovely little boy! xx

I do not know! I guess I would go home and try to explain it to my children!

Oh the poor little darling, my heart was bleeding for him reading this. Oh kids can be so cruel and selfish at times. I really do not know how to explain it, I am trying to think what I would say if it were any of my children and I think I would just be so angry and upset for him! But it happens all the time, hence the reason that I am virtually friendless, it is just that as an adult it is a little easier to shoulder and not get so upset about.

that would indeed be tough to explain to a four year'old that they were fair weather friends. I dont remember my son ever doing that although he had a period in whiich he would bring a toy to school to give to a friend then that friend would not have any more to do with him. I had to tell him that a real friend does not have to be bought with presents, I was on a committee once with three other women and once Ihad fulfield their needs I never saw these three again.so much for friendship.lol

Ellie..and Son you had some fun blowing bubbles i can see and even though this seems harsh right now and no MUM wants to see her Son hurting, this will pass...You know he learned a lesson and will not trust them now but if he's the forgiving type he will welcome them back for the next time. I think most people here have gone through what he went through and learned their are many kinds of friends..those that use and those that are for life...we learn to forgive the users and not get as close as before..and enjoy our time with the life friends since we know they will stand by us for anything. Huggles to you both

Yes, they all have gone through this type of situation but it happens all the time with my son who has autism. They other children did their share of crying, and I would just explain to them that those children were not really their friends. They learned eventually, now if only I could make my one understand it lol. It's so hard when they are so little because they cry so hard and you just want to go yell at them and tell their parents! Maybe you will get lucky and he will forget about them when he wakes up from his nap.

The poor little Man I so feel for him I have experienced this a couple of times in my Adult Life including in my used to be marriage, he only used to be nice to me when he was going out and needed my last Money of me, as for the so called Friends well it is my own fault I should know better I am an Adult but I am just to soft I hope the little Fellow gets over it I really feel sorry for him poor little Man Give him a Hug from me

So reads the story of my life ellie. It's why I am so independant. It's why I find it so hard to ask for help. It's why I find it so hard to join in. or so hard to ask if I can play too. It's not only the fear of rejection but also the fear of being used and then rejected. I seem to attract and be attracted to the sort of low lifes who do this. Those all loving, promise you everything types who say everything and mean nothing. Oh well, too bad. I'm a great person who is thoughtful, kind, funny and loving. It's their loss.

That is a very hard lesson he had to learn about human nature. I do have a "friend" that only shows up when she wants something or needs someone to take with for another purpose....she isn't really a good friend but still in all I do go with when she needs someone to accompany her. There will always be "users" in his life. I hope you found a way to explain it to him. Bless both of you!

Hi Sad story, but syre its materialistic u need to teach ur son as not to reply on any one to that extent and they are just boys passing by and join for temporary fun, they were not friends. tell him that u ( his mama is his best friend and always their to comfort him and play with him what else u can do dear.

Poor little sausage. You can't explain to kids of that age really, can you? And there's nothing that takes the hurt away either. It's something I still find myself having to explain to my eldest, and he's allot older than that. I guess I don't even really understand it myself.

Such a hard lesson for one so young. Bless his heart. When my son was little, I used to give all kinds of "talking to's" to the neighborhood kids about things like that. I'd ask if they remembered what it was like to be little and how they felt when kids pretended to be their friends only when they had something fun. I think they used to think I was a pain in the butt, but their parents weren't teaching them anything. And I also know as they grew older, I was one "old lady" they respected. That was a hard thing for your son. Hopefully, he'll remember it when he's a bit older and there are younger kids around.

Life is hard. Nobody said life was going to be fair. Especially for the ones that are sensitive. It's something you have to get used to but never do. You always have more "friends" when you have a car. It's handy to have a friend with a car for the ones that don't have one themselves or whose husbands have it for the day. It's handy to have friends with money. Then they can ask you for a loan or go to dinner to their place a couple of times a week. When you run out of things your "friends" can use then you suddenly realise you don't have that many friends left. Maybe it's time we re-evaluate whom we consider friends and whom we consider acquaintences. But this won't help the little kid who is crying his eyes out. Hope my hug over the airwaves of cable and mylot reach him cuz he deserves one.

dont take this to heart this often happens with my 3 year old slightly older children dont wanna play with him unless he has something tht intrest him...he playfully stood in front of this 12 year old girl and told her playfully stop and i was surprised to see her push him very hard on the ground and she slapped him..i normally dont interfere betwen children but in this case i went up to tht girl a gave her a nice blasting and also told her mother to teach her daughter some manners ... so these things do happen i normally hug him console huim and try to divert his attention by givinghim biscuits or chocolates..all my friends are actually true friends so no sweat...

i am so sorry to hear that your son had to experience that when he is still so young... but i think there is a good side as well... he knows from his early age that not all people can be called as 'friends'... some people just want to become our friends to make use and manipulate us... the sooner he knows about this fact, the better... i guess you just have to tell him the truth and see his reactions whether he understands it or not... or better still, hopefully he had forgotten about the incidents when he wakes up... good luck and have a nice day...

I always told my son the truth about such things long before he could understand. All kids go through this and eventually he would understand too. So, I would just let him cry and tell him that some people will be friends only as long as you have something that they like. And then they don't want to be your friends. I would also teach my son how to politely avoid them the next time they want to play with him.

you can't really explain to a four year old they don't understand, this is normal kids play with kids the have the right toys or the most fun extra, that is what a kid's life is all about.

I think he got his first lesson too early it his life and at this stage he will not be able to understand it. Also you should not try to make him understand this now. I think life is the best teacher and of course as parents you are also a teacher to him. Wait till he become 10+ and if this type of thing happens to him at that time in front of you, take it as an opportunity to explain his the reality of this world.

Awwww...the poor little guy. My heart just goes out to you and him. That's just the worst. You can't kiss the emotional hurts better. My daughter is twelve, but when she was younger I was always the yard with the pool in it. So she always had tons of friends who wanted to play while I was out there and they could go in the pool. As soon as I covered the pool a few of them would split every time. I'd get done doing whatever it was I was doing and open it back up and they would be back. It used to make me so mad. You can't explain that to a little one. They are so innocent and naive. They see the world as a good place and people as good people. As silly as it sounds I found sugar cookies work great. When my daughter would have a real rough day like that I would bake some sugar cookies and let her decorate them. It would take her mind off her so called "friends" and give her something else to focus on. It's a messy solution, but it was easier to clean up a messy kitchen than a broken heart.

I guess everyone has to confront this kind of situation in our life.When i confronted with this,i felt so sad and upset.How they could do this for me!They are my "friends" when they need me.And after that,they even don't look at you! Fortunately,i have many friends who is really sweet and we are truely friends.And after this,you should tell your son what is the meaning of true friend.Hope he will forget it soon and have a good playday!o(n_n)o...