My FATE is in your (the MyLot Community's) Hands!!!! Help Me!!!

@buldwgz (1482)
United States
June 8, 2008 10:54pm CST
Ok, my wife usually has some very good ideas and I pretty much do most of the things that she reccomends...I mean, she is smart and gorgeous and I am in Love with her, so why not. Now, however, I think I need some more opinions, so I am coming to you, the myLot community, for that opinion. She told me a while back that she wants me to get an earring...I am not against it, but it really isn't for me I don't think. She insists that it will be very sexy. So, I have decided to let you decide for me. I will count each response as a vote, yes or no to getting an earring. Give me your opinion as well. I need many responses as you can imagine and will wait for either 25 responses or two weeks...I would love to get more responses than that...so don't be shy...HELP!!!!
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44 responses
@ivyoon (673)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I have to agree with many of your other responders and say that if you feel it is really not for you, don't do it. I'm sure your wife will understand. Harrison Ford has one, but I doubt he wears it when he plays Indiana Jones, lol! :D If you really don't feel comfortable getting an earring, don't get one. Just let your wife know that it's not something you're interested in doing and ask her if there is something else she might like you to do, such as wear a leather jacket or ripped jeans! At least those things are not permanent and/or painful! :D
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Thanks for the input, Ivyoon.
@ivyoon (673)
• United States
23 Oct 08
Your very welcome. Good luck to you! :D
@makingpots (11919)
• United States
9 Jun 08
No. My vote is no. If it really isn't for you then you shouldn't do it. I am okay with earrings on guys and even have found them sexy at times. But I also appreciate that it is not the thing for everyone. I think it is much more sexy to really know who you are and what works for you.
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I appreciate the vote Makingpots.
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Sometimes simple is best.
• United States
9 Jun 08
that would be a no. Your wife is not your owner. I would tell her on no uncertain terms NO. you have that right, and as the head of the house hold you need to express that right. I almost got married to a person that was like that...only worse. she wanted total control over everything i did right down to the type of friends i had and the type of cloths i wore. definitely tell her no if you don't like the idea. don't let her control you because its only going to cause problems later.
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Oh, this is in no way a control issue. She just thought it would look good on me and commented that I should do it. She actually thinks it is quite funny that I posted it on here. I am very lucky to have her and she makes a wonderful partner and best friend.
• China
9 Jun 08
i say no,if you don't like it you should say no,just tell the truth to your wife will be good to you all.by the way,i don't think it's sexy at all.
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thanks for the response Bluntsharp.
@wabuser (114)
• China
9 Jun 08
Lol its up to you, no offence but your wife does not control your life. Everyone is different, be yourself and if she is as great as you say then she won't mind if you say no.
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thanks for the response Wabuser. You are right about controlling my life, she doesn't. We make a very good couple actually and I didn't mean to make her seem otherwise.
• United States
9 Jun 08
If you don't want an earring, then don't do it. It will only make you feel self conscious if you don't like it. So follow your head...I know your wife is in your heart...and do something else sexy for her...maybe a foot massage.
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Yeah, she loves a good foot massage. Thanks for the response.
@raimond2 (53)
• United States
9 Jun 08
No, if it's not your style, than it won't work for you, and you'lll just resent your wife for encouraging you to get it.
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Thanks for the response, Raimond2, and the vote.
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@bevvy22 (279)
• United States
10 Jun 08
OK everyone in mylot land. I guess some of you may have guessed that buldwgz and I are married. In my defense(after reading the responses many have you have left) I am in no way insisting that buldwgz get an earring. He is my very best friend in the whole world. We are very close. We have fun together and have been married x 18 years and still going strong. We are both satisfied in every way. We definitely have a 50/50 relationship. I have always liked earrings on men and I just happened to mention it to him one day; that I think he would look even sexier with one. But this is completely his decision. I feel I've been mistakenly made to look like a real witch. Thanks for all the responses, by the way. So, thus far it looks as though you all feel he shouldn't get one and I'm completely fine with that. Our marriage will continue like it always has. Now that is something to look forward to. Ohh and honey, you decide what you want. I will still love you the same:)
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@bevvy22 (279)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Thanks dfn12968. I felt like I was getting ganged up on. Thanks for being a rebel; I've always been one too.
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
10 Jun 08
So, are you saying I should or shouldn't? LOL. Of course you know I never tried to portray you in that light.
@jer31558 (3683)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Tails you do,..Heads you forget it and go fishing - penny on heads
Hey, I think I can help.
@foxyfire33 (10007)
• United States
9 Jun 08
If you were really sure you wanted to do this, you wouldn't be asking us to help you decide! It sounds like you are not thrilled with the idea and just don't want to be the only one telling your wife! I have never like men wearing earrings so my vote is going to be no for that reason and because I don't think you really want it. As far as how to deal with your wife...and I'm a woman saying this...if she still insists you get an earing, tell her you will but only if she agrees to shave her head. Your ears belong to you and her hair belongs to her so it's only fair for her to make an equal sacrifice of her appearance...if you don't like the earing, you can take it out and it may heal (or you could be stuck with a spot on your ear lobe as proof that you once sported an earing). If she doesn't like her shaven head, she can let her hair grow out and no one will ever know the difference.
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9 Jun 08
in a way he's right ^^ if you want my input don't get an earring. on a guy it's just not cool
@foxyfire33 (10007)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I'm a she, but thanks for the support.
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Thanks for the input.
@jhl930 (3603)
• United States
9 Jun 08
i know that you like doing what your wife says because like you said i m sure that she is smart and i have been guilty of doing that myself(doing what the woman wants)because most of the time they really know what they are talking about...but i think this has to be something that you have to choose or you could just go and get it and then if you don't like it later on you can take it out of your ear and let the skin grow back over and you won't have to wear it anymore...i think that might be the best thing for you to do that way you will please her and then you will know for yourself if your like it and you can say that you tried it...just my thought!
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Thanks for the idea, Jhl930.
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Oh and I will take that as a yes vote I think.
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• Australia
9 Jun 08
I got my ear pierced when I was younger, and I wore an earring for a couple of years. I quite liked it at the time, but after a while got tired of it, so I didn't wear one anymore. To this day, my ear is still pierced (the hole hasn't closed up), and I haven't worn an earring for years. I would say go for it, there's only a tiny bit of pain involved, and if it turns out you hate it, then just don't wear anything. Plus, you get bonus points for doing something to please your wife ;-)
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Thanks for the response makemoneypaid. The bonus points is a good point indeed.
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
9 Jun 08
My vote is ...No. Here's why...you said that you don't think it's for you. Wife or not, it's your' body and you are the one who will have to wear the thing. First, you will have to take care of it to keep it from getting infected after the initial piercing. Sometimes it takes 6 onths to fully heal. Second, if you decide to take it out and let the hole close up, as your' first response advised, you will have a scar that will not go away. The skin does not grow back over the hole. The hole closes but still looks pierced. Third, and this is my own opinion, an earring on a man says something about you that potential employers may not like. And when you grow old, well, yuck! What old guy looks good with an earring? If she thinks it's sexy, get a clip on. It's less painful and you can get rid of it when the novelty wears off for her.
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Thanks for the insight RebeccaLynn. Good points all.
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
weLL..if your not opposed to it then why not...it is your body after all..but if you think that it isnt for you then dont..i know your wife can have those ideas which seem great but sometimes not everything can be so great when its done already..you dont have to give in to your wife idea all the time especiallywhen your not so confident about it yourself..also having asked other peoples opinions was a great idea..hope this helped..
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Thanks for the input Graenger. Makes sense to me.
@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I think that you need to decide what is best for you. I have always felt that piercings and tatoos are each to his own. I do not prefer tatoos for myself and being a female I even limit the piercings. two to each ear and even then I don't wear earrings that often. It is your body, follow your heart!
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
That's really the delima for me, Loujac3. I usually do follow my heart, but in this case, I am kind of torn, so it is something I am willing to do, just not sure really. Thanks for your input.
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@ruby222 (4848)
9 Jun 08
Oh dear you sound in a right panic there!!!..my advice for what its worth is if you dont feel that its for you just dont have one !!!!..after all they are your ears and its your life...!!!we cant always do everyting just to please everyone else...
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@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Very true, Ruby222, we can't do things just to please others always. Thanks for the response.
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@saundyl (9789)
• Canada
9 Jun 08
I think that it is something you should choose for yourself not something you should do to make her happy. If you do it to make her happy and hate it, and end up taking it out there will always be that small scar there. I will say if you are prone to metal allergies or infections it is something I wouldn't recommend getting, as it will cause you more grief that its worth.
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• Philippines
9 Jun 08
look in mirror and think, do i want an earring? would i look good wearing one? if both your answers point to yes..then give it a go. heres a thought.. for now its doing you really good that you do whatever your wife tells you. but sooner or later its gonna be healthy if you follow your heart. do you always want what she tells you to do? most of the guys i know who followed all the stuff theyre partners told them broke up with their gf's/wives..why? coz eventually the girls found them impressionable and boring. i am not saying that you are or gonna one of them. just my 2 cents.
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Thanks for the response. I don't always do what she tells me, but when it comes to fashion she knows better than I without a doubt.
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
oh ok..so its just about fashion. thanks for enlightening me =) have a good one. or should i say..enjoy your earring! =P
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
17 Jun 08
LoL, still waiting on all the votes..it's only been a week so far. Thanks for your input.
• China
9 Jun 08
No...don't do it simply because your wife tells you to. If you don't feel comfortable with it, why bother? It is your body and your decision to make. Besides, once you get your ear pierced, you have to keep it from getting wet in the first several days (which means you may not be able to wash your hair) or it'll be infected.It's a nuisance.
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I appreciate your response. My hair isn't a problem, since I have none...LOL. I shave my head...but you are right...I would have to keep it from getting wet for a few days.
• China
10 Jun 08
lol~the main reason I haven't got my ears pierced is that I have long hair and I wash it every day.lol~
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
17 Jun 08
That makes sense with long hair.
@nupats (3564)
• India
9 Jun 08
i think u need to tell her u r not comfortable wearing earrings..if u two love each other i m sure she will understand..For all u know it really might look good and if u are concious abt it then it will look very awkward...my hubby wanted me to wear a nosepin but i cannot dream abt getting my nose pierced o i told him tht i am not very comfortable and he never insisted again..so all is well..however if u r open to changes then u may try it out and maybe remove it if u dont like it later..Good luck
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
10 Jun 08
OH, she will understand no matter what my decision is. It was really just a suggestion on her part. She actually wants to get her nose pierced and may do it with a small piercing. Thanks for your response and support.
@nupats (3564)
• India
10 Jun 08
glad to know tht u both have such a grt understanding..have a nice day good luck
@celticeagle (124375)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Jun 08
You need to be your own person. Sure you love your wife and doing things for her is very nice and shows love and caring on your part. BUT, if you don't feel comfortable with something or it just isn't you then- Don't do it! When you let someone else dictate how you act, what you wear, etc. then you are leaving your own individuality behind and letting another person block out your self respect. Wear it if you think it is you and if you are comfortable with it.
@buldwgz (1482)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Thanks for your response Celticeagle.