2 young to marrie???

Australia
June 10, 2008 3:42am CST
i have only known my partner for a little over a year and we have cassualy7 chatted about becoming more seriouse and getting married, i am 20 , he is 23, i am worried that i may be to young? and it may be rushing things, what do you think?
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15 responses
• Philippines
13 Jun 08
I got married at a very young age. I got married when i was 20, and my husband is also 20. Age really doesn't matter as long as your emotionally,physically, spiritually and financially ready. You just have to be mature. Anyways, think first a thousand times before you decide to get married. Make sure that you're a hundred percent sure to get married and to live your lives together. Good luck and hope my advice helps!
@YOULANLIU (312)
• China
13 Jun 08
If both of you have the economic base to support yourselves,of course you can get married at once.If you still need the financial support from the parents,you'd better get married when you are self-relianced.
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
10 Jun 08
For me that is already ok as long as personally, that is what you really want, emotionally,physically,psychologically, you are prepared to settle down since that is a lifetime commitment! So, if you are sure about it, then go for it, if he is stable and you also got a job, I am sure, there will be no problem for early marriage!
@ketzah (29)
• United States
10 Jun 08
if you feel it is right nothing should hold you back, age is just a number
• United States
10 Jun 08
Wait until your at least 25 I got married at 18 and people dont know what they want for awhile. remember its for a life time. can you see yourself with him at 80?
• India
10 Jun 08
yes dear, i do agree you are really too young to make such an important disission. I do not want to be sude, however i feel you have such a long way to go, so much to learn yet. To make a committement like marriage with someone you really do not know for so long. Not to forget he is very young too. Is he settled yet in life? I would take some more time, spend quality time together and let things go with the flow. I wish you all the best.
@SGTJOMAR (175)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
if your mind and experience dictates you are young then dont go on marriage. because marriage is not a rice to swallow and when you burn you blow it. but when it comes to our family code, you are not young, you are allowed to marry.
@sunkissed (4331)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Well if you are worried that you are too young than you probally are. I got married when I was 18 years old, I thought I knew what I was doing at the time, but I was very wrong, I was way too young to get married. The marriage lasted 21 years.I then got a divorce, I would have got one sooner but we had children.
@thedaddym (1736)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Until you are both financially stable, and both comfortable with the decision to get married you should not get married. If you have to ask you are not ready. I have friends who got married really young, and not one of their marriages survived. Not that it can't but I think you need to have some experiences on your own first.
@ladym33 (10990)
• United States
10 Jun 08
There is no need to rush. If you are worried that you are too young then you probably are. It is always best to go with your gut feelings. It doesn't mean that you can't plan a future with this person. You can, but there is no need to rush in to marriage until you feel you are 100% ready, you are very young and you have your whole life in front of you. My husband and I got engaged on my 21st birthday, but we did not get married until I was 24 a few short months of turning 25. Accomplish some things in life that you want to accomplish before you consider marriage, make sure you go in with no regrets. You have plenty of time.
• Bahamas
10 Jun 08
Hi cjdcg87! Just the fact that you're asking this question show's you are conflicted. I think that you should take your time and grow in the areas that you may need to. Although 20, is young , i know a couple that got married at 18, and are still together, but they were sure thats what they wanted. In your case i see no need to rush, enjoy your life and take the time you need to establish yourself, and if you still feel the same way about your bf, then by all means marry him.. Best of luck in whatever you decide to do.
@excellence7 (3496)
• Mauritius
10 Jun 08
It depends on both of you, if you think you are emotionally, physically, socially and financially ready for this new and huge responsibility, then you may proceed..
@hector76 (119)
• Indonesia
10 Jun 08
yes, both of you are to young to be in a marriage. wherever you come from, whatever you do. i am sorry to say like this, remembering your age is the age of scholar. so, i only can say, just go back to your school, and if you have a job already, just save some of your salary. it can be make you more ready.
@cutie143 (215)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
You're right! You're still young to get into that kind of life. You should not rush things up. Getting married is a lifetime commitment and once you're in, there's no more turning back. You should enjoy your being single to the fullest. Think a hundred times before getting into it.Good luck!!!
• China
10 Jun 08
I don't know which country do you come from.In my country,the law oldered the age of marriage that man is 23,and the women is 20.So the first,don't go against the law.And then, I think the economy of you is very important element of marriage.You should think about that if you marry him,can you carry the casting of living.The last,I want to say that,if you love each other deeply,marry or not is not important.Why not expierence more when you are young?