I May Be Insane, But I'm Not Crazy......
By Sparks
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
Regina, Saskatchewan
June 11, 2008 5:11pm CST
As most of you know, this morning for me was busy sorting out the Meg/horse/farmer in the dell. All's sorted now and I was looking forward to some time on the computer and being here with you all.
Then the doorbell rang. It seems that the abandoned house on our property next door has got to come down THIS WEEK. It was hit by lightening three times last week and though it didn't catch fire, the lightening rods are now shot and it's got to come down. One of the other farmers at the town hall this morning came over to volunteer (at a decent price) his services and equipment to get the house demolished. I was standing outside with him going over the plan, when the soon to be ex decided to make an appearance in town for the first time since Monday morning. He parked and came to see what was up.
After some negotiating for the soon to be ex's help with the demolition we all repaired to the house for coffee and to dry out as it is still raining. The demolition man left shortly after, check in hand, and the soon to be ex and I had a 'talk'.
I may be insane, but I am not crazy.
The soon to be ex has most definitely found himself another 'honey'. He wanted to know if I would freak and peak if she moved into the RV with him as she has recently been given an eviction notice and will be homeless at the end of the month. She doesn't have kids or family in the city - another Alberta transplant to our fair province.
I heard him out, thanked him nicely for 'consulting' me about his plans with his new 'lady' and told him that on the weekend I would clear everything out of the RV that belonged to me - which would leave it totally bare, but I figure, if she's moving out of an apartment, she's got her own sheets, towels, dishes etc. right?
I then told him that I would have to charge rent for the RV. He laughed. I didn't.
I got out paper and pen and wrote out a rental agreement. Took me all of the five minutes it took him to get a fresh coffee!
I put it under his nose and told him if he didn't sign it and give me first and last month's rent in advance, I would just put the RV up for sale and he and she could find their own apartment together in the city.
Now, his reno/building business is very busy right now in and around town, but he can't afford our newly raised gas prices to commute from the city and back every day. I know this, and he knows this.
Being who and what he is, however, he took the paper, left the house and told me we would discuss it again on Friday.
There will be NO other woman living in my brand new RV while it still has my name on the chattel mortgage and I'm making the payments! End of story.
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16 responses
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
12 Jun 08
You're so right! I had a friend who lived on her twin sister's property in an RV--with her husband (she was trying to kick him out). She even had a boyfriend...since he was incarcerated last year, she's been forced for move back in. Her twin and her husband have been trying (unsuccessfully) to get the husband out--he finally got the message a few months ago. You give some people an inch and they take a mile! Good luck with your situation! 
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@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
12 Jun 08
You go sparky! Here's some REALLY big ones for you! 
And you're right--you've got every right to charge the fool rent...did he think he was that unforgettable?
And you're right--you've got every right to charge the fool rent...did he think he was that unforgettable?3 people like this
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
Hey scorpio! I figure it's on my property, the title is in my name and I'm making the payments, although my divorce terms have them being turned over to him, but until the divorce is final, it's my call and I'll charge the idiot rent if he moves ANYONE in! No negotiating on this one for sure!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
My eyes! my eyes! ROFL Good lord scorpio wherever did you get a pic like that! Oh my, I need to find my bob........I'm gobsmacked! Thanks so much for the morning wake up! LOL
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@tammyr (5945)
• Etowah, Tennessee
12 Jun 08
Oh dear!! The cad!! I can't blame you for not wanting HERin YOUR RV!! OMG he really is mental ain't he?
He needs Meg sicked on him! Maybe she could 'deliver him from the evil spirits' he has hiding in his heart!! Tar and feather his azz please!! geesh he has some nerve! I bet she has been around the whole time, the little harlot!!!
Whew, I think I am madder than you seem to be! Forgive me but I'd LOVE to have a video of him boiling in oil.
**stomps to another room to cool down before that vein bursts!5 people like this
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
Tammy my dear, no vein bursting on my account unless it's with laughter please! LOL Yes the man's an idiot and deserves boiling in oil, but he's also a man and thinks with his d*ck don't you know. Now that he knows he has no further chance at my considerable attributes (ROFL), it's only natural he'd look elsewhere and frankly I'm relieved. Takes the pressure of me worrying about him trying the seduction route to get his own way on things. Been there, had that done to me before. But I draw the line at having another woman living on my property within shouting distance. NOT gonna happen in my lifetime!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
He never was one to let the grass grow under his feet when it came to having a woman in his life gabs. They never seem to last long though! lol I think I lasted longer than anyone!
As it is still raining here and is supposed to continue for the next three days, I figured flicking my lighter just wouldn't have the same affect this time as hitting him the wallet would! ROFL
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
12 Jun 08
You go girl!! I would have done the same thing but probably have been a bit more mean about it! It's yours and you take what is yours! I love that about you!
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Class is key and neither seem to have that or any brains for that matter. Don't they know how dangerous those Sparks are? I don't think they want to see that...
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
Skinny, I don't think I even know how dangerous they are! LOL I'm just finding out myself. I am truely surprised at how calm, but definite I've become where the soon to be ex is concerned. He had me cowed for so long! Life sure is strange when you get the chance to live it freely!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
I'm all for people moving on with their lives when relationships go south, but geez louise, show a little class, the dumb phuck! He'd better not go against me and move his new friend in, or I just may have to show them both the burning ends of my sparks!
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jun 08
I see by the responses you have they are ready to
tar and feather him so can I bring along some hives
of african bees to add to the furor. that would surely'get rid
of your soon to be ex by Friday. heres hoping anyway
good luck and God bless sparks
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
LOL - I must say I'm rather amazed at the reaction of the women here! What a blood thirsty lot you are! I'm so glad I'm not a man! ROFL
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
Oh wouldn't the coyotes just love that mama! ROFL Perfect!
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
12 Jun 08
Sparky..you got big ones!!!
I totally love that you can and did this and you rock big time..yea Mayor Sparky!!!
To think you would sit back and be nice is one thing, but to think you wouldn't back down... now he see's you as someone else and hope he's afraid..be very afraid..heehaaheee
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@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
12 Jun 08
I can't wait to hear about that...he sounds foolish enough to try pushing you into allowing her over and forgetting her panties on purpose!
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Girl girl girl!! i hear ya. I mean if he want's to move someone in, hell yeah they better be paying rent. of course the relationship has been over for a while, but to want to move someone in, right there in the RV where you can see them. I don't think i would have ever asked that.
With each post I take my hat off to you my friend. You are an amazing strong, and Insane lady. I love that about you
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
Well I figure, he's got a right to have a private life of his own now, and this town isn't big enough to set up housekeeping anywhere else, but geez louise, show a little class man and wait until the RV is totally yours! lol He's going to be really pissed if he pisses me off enough to sell it out from under him, but he'll have deserved it! LOL
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
12 Jun 08
So, what if they come up with the rent and all the things listed on the rental agreement. You know, people do spiteful things and I bet if he could find a way he just might. Why didnt you just tell him, No. That would have been my choice. Good luck to you and I hope it all works out for ya. I kow about divorce and things can get pretty ugly. Hugs
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
13 Jun 08
I just may start renting it out, if this is the way the soon to be ex wants to handle things! LOL But I get the rent money of course!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
13 Jun 08
Coming up with the rental agreement was my way of saying no and at the same time giving him a choice as to what to do next. I wasn't interested in starting an argument and this way - he got the point and saved face at the same time. We live in a very very tiny town (75 people) and he has a business here, and as Mayor I can't afford, nor do I want, to have him as an enemy. But I'm not about to let him push me around either!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
13 Jun 08
Mummy I'd cry if we didn't have enough rain falling already! The rain hasn't let up for over two weeks. My lighter is useless in the rain, so I've had to come with more creative ways to keep him in line - and hitting him the wallet seems to be the best way! LOL
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Hmmm I would have a talk with a lawyer hun and draw up some official documents. I'm sorry that the son to be ex has sprung this on you. And this may be my skeptical and untrusting side but how the heck did he find a honey this quick?
And yes no woman should be living in the rv when it's still in your name. Gosh I know your sweet and caring but what does he think that you are just going to roll over and let him do something like this. I think by now he would know enough not to do something so stupid and thoughtless. Where is the gas can and lighter.. ???
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
12 Jun 08
yep it does. Isn't it funny when men thinking with thier small brain screw themselves over. LOL!! I really understand the not wanting the new chickee so close. But I would be happy to tar and feather them both and then put them on a stake out front of the church with a big A on both of them. LOL!!!!! What do you think and yep you can still get the truckk on fire you just need a tarp. He he he he . I still vote for the orange thing and then you get everything and don't have to deal with him ever. LOL!!!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
The gas can and lighter are no threat with all the rain we're getting! LOL
I really think he forgot that the RV is in my name, especially since the divorce papers allow him to retain it. And because we stopped sleeping together some time ago, who knows how long he's really known this woman? I don't care really. I hope she makes him happy and keeps him from trying to get to me ever again. I just don't want her living across the road from me! The divorce papers are pretty air tight, but I will be speaking to my lawyer again this week anyway, just to be sure where things stand now that's he's admitted adultery. That rather changes the picture, the idiot!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
And I get the insurance too! I'll have to hold onto that thought. I'd almost forgotten about the oranges and I've a dozen in the fridge right now! LOL
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Oh gosh I couldn't help but laugh!! You go girl!! lol Sock it to him for all he's worth and even for what he's NOT worth for you deserve every bit of it and more from him!! Especially after all he's done to you and NOT done for you!! There's no way I could be with someone like him for a minute and bless the poor girl who falls under his trap next.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
Well they do say there's someone for everyone - maybe this one will be the right one for him and make him happy. Who knows? I just don't want her living so close! lol
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 Jun 08
LOL - Life, if we pay attention and have the right attitude, is more entertaining than any tv show!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
My life's always been a bit weird. I think that's why I became a writer! LOL
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@Gollywog (1092)
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12 Jun 08
You are to nice I would have told him buy it or no deal?If he wants to take care of his new Honey he wouldnt be doing it with my help? I would charge him three times the normal rent then he would decline the offer and take his Honey some where else! I think he is being cheaky, is he rubbing your nose in it! The fact that hes with someone else? Tell him to sling his hook?
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
13 Jun 08
Hey gollywog. You are absolutely right - he can sling his hook if he thinks that I'll put up with his moving someone else onto my property! Good thinking.
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@vicneedscoffee (1259)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Good for you! Your ex has some brass ones to even ask that of you. I think you were actually pretty nice about the whole thing. I'm not so sure I would have been so nice. Actually I am sure I would not have been...lol. Kudos to you for keeping your cool about the whole situation like that.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Jun 08
Thanks vic - and do drop by any time you feel the need for a coffee; I always have a pot at the ready! LOL -- sorry, but I just realized what your user name 'says' and couldn't resist. I love it! lol
As for being nice - well the emotion where the soon to be ex has now been removed from the equation, so it's not so hard. But there are some lines that shouldn't be crossed, so he'd better behave or he'll feel my sparks! lol
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@Winter08 (441)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
As alternate housing, you could suggest the abandoned house. With a little work, it might be livable. And since your stbx is a contractor, he should have no problems in fixing it up for her. Or even moving it to another lot. And he would then have an asset.
Of course, if his honey ever gets to your town, it's doubtful she would stay there very long. Your town sounds like it takes a unique and special brand of person to live and thrive there.
Good luck with your meeting.
Of course, if his honey ever gets to your town, it's doubtful she would stay there very long. Your town sounds like it takes a unique and special brand of person to live and thrive there.
Good luck with your meeting.
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
13 Jun 08
I thought about the house when I first wanted him to move out of ours, but it's over 100 years old and too far gone - no floors, holes in the roof, and not worth saving. I need the site cleared to build a set of units on for my seniors to move into when it's time for them to give up their homes. My will already has that land deeded back to the town so seniors will always have a place to live when their homes become too big. Then they can sell their homes to younger families and get this town back on the map. It's a long term plan, but it will work and keep our seniors out of impersonal city housing and at 'home' where they will be happier and longer lived.
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@taface412 (3175)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Good for you....and if they have a problem with it...letthem take over payments, unless you cannot part with it....in that case boot 'em out. Afterall, with two incomes they could surely afford their own love shack.
Way to stand up and not be a doormat. Kudos sparkofinsanity!!!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 Jun 08
Got that right - no more shoes on my back! LOL
