I wouldn't Recognise A Chat Up Line If It Slapped Me In The Face!

@ellie333 (21018)
June 11, 2008 5:48pm CST
Hi as some of you know I am a single parent with girls of 21 and 17 and also a young son of 4. Well a few weeks ago a guy was chatting to me and both my girls wre there and I was just having polite conversation and then said farewell and merrily went on my way, well they were laughing and saying mum he was chatting you up and I said no he wasn't he was just being frinedly and then they said 'Mum you wouldn't recognise a chat up line if it slapped you in the face' what a strange expression, but honestly I think they were right. How can you tell, come on please share some chat up lines even the cheesey ones that you have heard just for fun and also to educate me ofcourse! Naive at times Ellie :D
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@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Hello ellie, I love chatting with my friends but I have no idea about it.Maybe there are terms or phrases that means other way around,But, I remember the first time I was chatting, I didn't understand when someone will say ctc,asl,lol and some shortcuts..LOL!
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@ellie333 (21018)
11 Jun 08
I used to think that LOL meant lots of love I now know it means laugh out loud! Ellie :D
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
11 Jun 08
So did I Ellie. When I first came here I thought that everybody was super friendly because they sent me their love in virtually every post!! I still don't know too many. I can manage - LMAO, ROFLOL and PMPL which is a bit rude (P$ss my pants laughing!).
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@ellie333 (21018)
11 Jun 08
Hi P1kef1sh, please explain the others I think one is about rolling about on the floor laughing but not too sure on the other. Ellie :D
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
11 Jun 08
A man in a pub once walked up to my sister and said "hello. I'm John Smith" and walked away. Ten minutes later he came up to her and said "Haven't we met before. Can I buy you a drink?" How about: "Have you a plaster? because I hurt my knee falling for you." Of course compliments often do the trick - or did when I was younger. Heck, it's all a long time ago now. I don't think that I'd know how to chat up a woman today. I'd just have to be me and live the life of a celibate, lonely (dirty) old man. LOL.
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
11 Jun 08
I think that you are alright with that Ellie. Such innocence. LOL.
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@ellie333 (21018)
11 Jun 08
Not that innocent, I have have had three children LOL. Ellie :D
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Hi Doll I've been around the block a time or two way back when but I still can not be of much help because I'm being told something similar...My kids have told me a number of times that I am being flirted with. xoxoxoxoxxo
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@ellie333 (21018)
12 Jun 08
Oh Raydene it seems like so many of us are like this and the children tease us about it, I just feel so naive about it all LOL. Ellie :D
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
11 Jun 08
Ellie..you are going to have to educate me too when you learn since i wouldn't know anymore either..My daughter said the same thing to me and since i've been out of the dating scene for a 100 yrs, someone probably would be interested and i'd still just think he was being nice too!..LOL...help..I need help!!
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@ellie333 (21018)
12 Jun 08
Oh Rosekitty I am a mother of three and have had just so many life experiences but on this one I haven't a clue, weird isn't it? If I get clued up I most certainly will share no worries there. Ellie :D
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@GreenMoo (11837)
11 Jun 08
Ellie, I'm afraid I am in the naive corner along with you! I spent a merry afternoon chatting to the carpenter who was working in the garden next door to my boyfriend's place whilst he was at work. As I was new to the area, didn't speak the language and on my own all day I was thrilled to bits when he suggested showing me the area one afternoon. BAD IDEA!!! I really, really hadn't realised that it was a come on. It was quite flattering actually as he was quite a lot younger than me, but eventually I had to get my boyfriend to start answering my phone for me
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@ellie333 (21018)
11 Jun 08
Oh Hi GreenMoo I am so pleased that it is not just me then, the girls were teasing me for ages after bless. You were lucky you had your boyfriend to fend off the calls for you though. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
12 Jun 08
We call that "pick up lines" here in the states! I would not recognize one either, although I do wonder at times if someone is flirting or interested! Friendship first, please! I want to be able to trust someone completely before I start dating!
@ellie333 (21018)
12 Jun 08
Oh I agree friendship first as I also need to trust but you have to actually meet them in the first place somehow through a conversation and it could be that they are chatting up or it could be that they are also looking for friendship. I just don't be able to tell the difference. Ellie :D
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
14 Jun 08
I like your new picture! Is that you? I agree, it is difficult to tell the difference! Maybe it would be easier if they use body language! Eye-winking, extra eye contact, compliments, who knows? Even more difficult is understanding their intentions, like if they are looking for longterm, short-term, hit the sack, relationships are all different!
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@ellie333 (21018)
15 Jun 08
Hi Olivemai, not it is not me, my old avatar was me and my eldest daughter so I thought I'd put one of my younger daughter to give her her 15 minutes of fame LOL. Ellie :D
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@mummymo (23707)
13 Jun 08
LOL Awww Ellie I hope you didn't blank the advances of a handsome hunk! I have heard some humdingers in my time - especially working behind a bar - not just aimed at me but heard them being used on women customers by some of the guys and ended up helpless with laughter! Let me think of some just now.... Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again? Should we chat or do you want to keep flirting from afar? Did it hurt when you fell from heaven? Love your outfit - it would look good on my bedroom floor! and I think the worst is one I heard on tv last night Excuse me is that a mirror in your pants cos I can see myself in them! lol xxx
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@ellie333 (21018)
13 Jun 08
Hi mummymo, wow you have certainly picked up a few lines from being behind the bar I must say. All of them really cheesey too, do women seriously fall for this stuff? LOL. Oh on the occasion I mentioned lovely guy but not a hunk in my book at all, but I think I have a few times though, I just didn't get it. My most recent err I suppose was a guy on a motorbike parked up behind my car as I was loading in the weekly shop and he was distributing he shopping into numerous pockets of his jacket and he said something about the freedom of being on a bike especially as it was such a lovely day but sometimes he wished he had a boot to load it all into type thing and he was chatting to me for ages about all sorts and I was mentioning a few things re bikes and some festivals this year, he didn't want to stop the conversation and I did feel that perhaps he was interested and he was a looker with personality to but I said bye and got in car but thought about him for a while after and also caught him looking as I was leaving the other side of the car park so I think that may have been a missed one or perhaps a practice one eh! I've been on my own so long I couldn't imagine being with someone now anyway at least not until my little one is older bless. Ellie :D
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@mummymo (23707)
13 Jun 08
LOL Most don't Ellie but some when they have had a drink will fall for any chat up line! lol Sounds like you missed out on a hunky guy there Ellie but at least you can remember it and know he found you attractive! I split up with my ex when our son was a baby and my partner and I got together when he was 4 and it was the last thing I was looking for! lol You never know what is around the corner sweetheart! xxx
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@ellie333 (21018)
14 Jun 08
LOL There is hope for me yet then eh! Ellie :D
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@mimpi1911 (25474)
• India
20 Jun 08
hahahaha.... you are a dahling! Pick up lines are just to cheesy and obvious. How can you not get it! Never mind. I get you need to take a lesson on this. lol... Well, here's one for you: Hey I just realized this, but you look alot like my next girlfriend. Or how about: Be unique and different, just say yes.
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@ellie333 (21018)
20 Jun 08
I like the be unique and different just say yes one that made me laugh and not so cheesy as some eh! Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
@mimpi1911 (25474)
• India
23 Jun 08
ye, I dont quite like the cheesy ones. They repel me more.
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@littleowl (7157)
12 Jun 08
Hi Ellie-am home at last!!! When in Glastonbury there was this guy about my age staying at the hotel granted it was his firm who was footing his bill as he was working there but most nights he kept buying me drinks and chatting to me about himself as they all do-i thought he was being friendly at first but came to realize he was chatting me up!! Did I avoid him as much as I could but then he asked me when I was leaving which was the following day he then stooped and gave me a kiss on the cheek was not happy there is only one other person I let do that-my partner as you know-boy was I happy when he said he was going to bed straight after and thankfully had left the following morning early for work so Ii could have my breakfast in peace-blessed be littleowl
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@ellie333 (21018)
13 Jun 08
Hi Littleowl, glad to hear that you are home safe and well. A woman staying in a hotel on her own. Not going anywhere, someone to talk too and as the week progressed progressed to the kiss on the cheek bye on the last night. I would have still just thought he was being friendly as both staying in the same place and the drinks factor if on his firms bill also would have just been him being friendly. This is where I miss the signs. So you pulled (well could have done if wanted) LOL in Glastobury well done you. Thanksa for sharing. Ellie :D
@littleowl (7157)
13 Jun 08
Hi Ellie-'pulled' being the operative word though he was a really nice guy I would of run a mile if he'd asked for phone no or if he could keep intouch not for me hugs and bright blessings littleowl
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
12 Jun 08
Ahhhh i wish if some one do that to me i wonder why its always me to do that LOL
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@ellie333 (21018)
12 Jun 08
Hi Cupid, does that mean that it is you who always uses the chat up lines, come tell which ones do you use and do they work? Ellie :D
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
12 Jun 08
Lol when i say that other thing, nothing at chat can be planned, it can be spontenous, and other thing, i dont want to chaet any one
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Don't ask me about them Ellie, I've seen my share of nonsense, doubletalk and utter crap in this regard too. Supposedly, "signals" (non-verbal of course -_-) are the key! But in the real world, said signals get misinterpreted easily. It can be far worse if the person isn't coming on to you and you react to it the wrong way, especially for guys.
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@ellie333 (21018)
20 Jun 08
Hi yes I agree sometimes body language can be very confusing to. I suppose these cheesy chat up lines must work for some but definately not me I would much rather someone be direct. Ellie :D
@myklj999 (35527)
• Olney, Illinois
12 Jun 08
Well, I'm not sure what to say. I've been told I'm a terrible flirt, but actually I'm pretty good at it; or I used to be. I haven't even tried flirting with anyone in ages (except here on the 'net, and that's a little different). Sorry I'm not being much help here, but all those "skills" are rather rusty, I'm afraid.
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@ellie333 (21018)
13 Jun 08
Oh yes flirting on the net is totally different I agree and perhaps the reason I find it difficult when out in real life cos I just put it down to friendly banter and yet the girls will say he was chatting you up mum LOL. Ellie :D
@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Been there and done that. I had to learn to listen to the"vibes" of people I met. It took practice, though. Just don't say "yes" to anything that feels the least bit uncomfortable. Trust your gut.
@ellie333 (21018)
13 Jun 08
Thanks for the advice, oh no I wouldn't say yes to anything I or anyone that I didn't feel comfortable about. Ellie :D
• United States
12 Jun 08
Is that what they call it? Here's it's flirting and guys do that stuff all the time. Not with me, cause I'm VERY married and make sure they know it. I don't like it when random strangers hit on me or flirt with me. I don't want to get into that. My spouse doesn't like it either. I suppose that if I were single that would make me very very flattered, indeed, assuming it was a guy that I liked!
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@ellie333 (21018)
13 Jun 08
Hi yes it is flirting I suppose, this is where I can't tell the difference. I am pleased to hear that you are happily married and can imagine it does annoy you and your husband when strangers do do this. Thank you for sharing. Ellie:D
@subha12 (18452)
• India
12 Jun 08
i am not taht much into chat and all. so its raelly hard to say anything new. But i do not even can guess what this line want to say. those are more familiar who are regular on chat.
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@ellie333 (21018)
12 Jun 08
No it is a very strange expression I must agree. Ellie :D
• India
12 Jun 08
Well I would rely more on my woman’s instincts than any previous experience. Since your and my mother tongue are different, I cant really elucidate my point, but whenever a guy is chatting up or acting smart, I understand. Basically I have seen all guys are same in such matters…it doesn’t really matter from which strata of the society they are coming from or their age. BTW while typing my response, I suddenly remembered a guy here in Mylot. He’s from India too and on my friends list. His age says he’s about 10 years younger than me. Well after the initial hello and welcome, he started PM-ing me about almost everything under the sun. my likes, dislikes, my job, details of my job, how many members in my family, age of my son etc. While these are OK till a certain level, the way he was probing, got me feeling uneasy. Just the other day, he wanted to know my date of birth. I have no problems is saying its 1st of September…that should suffice for any friend, but his next question was ‘what year’…now this is when a start getting an uncanny feeling, this is what I feel about ‘chatting up’. There are many more instances which I have face in real life, in some I have flirted, in some I knew when to stop at what line. I hope you will put yours instincts to work and try and understand it your own way…if not, what are teenage daughters for!
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@ellie333 (21018)
12 Jun 08
Oh I would say that this guy was probing a little too deep for my likng, why want all this information. I would certainly not have given it not over the internet anyway. I use my intuition with most things but I think I have put up an invisible barrier somewhere regards guys so I really don't see the obvious at times. Yes I have two daughters so I will let them guide me on this one eh! Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
• United States
12 Jun 08
Hi there Ellie :))) I am assuming we are talking about flirting right? I have a pretty flirtatious nature and will 9 times out of 10 instigate the "chat up". all perfectly harmless fun on my part let me assure you. Its fun, harmless and most of the time just of a friendly nature. This was cute reading your post and I got a bit of a giggle from it.
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@ellie333 (21018)
12 Jun 08
Hi Anglewhispers, Oh yes I am talking about flirting, I have learned since posting some people call them pick up lines rather than chat up as we say here in the UK. I'm glad it gave you a giggle, it certainly did my girls Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
• United States
12 Jun 08
I've heard some very cheesey ones. "Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again"? is one of my favorites. Another one is, "You should be arrested, because it must be a crime to look that good." I don't know if anyone actually falls for them or not, but I know I wouldn't.
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@ellie333 (21018)
12 Jun 08
Hi Thanks for sharing these, I must admit I certainly wouldn't fall for them either. Ellie :D
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
12 Jun 08
I probably wouldn't recognize one either! LOL....And I'll have to check back on the responses so I learn something! LOL
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@ellie333 (21018)
12 Jun 08
Its not just me then eh! There have been a few posted so far but not any that I would fall for. Ellie :D