...everything irritates me..help!

United States
June 14, 2008 6:28pm CST
This is not a common experience but last time I had my "monthly visitor", I was extremely bad.. I am irritated a lot even with the simple things, words and noise. I am thankful that my husband has that unlimited patience for me. I want to resist the feeling, I want to divert by doing anything to help me feel good but, I am just feeling it, I do know exactly what to do. Is there anyone here who have the same feeling during your cycle? how did you handle it? what are the things that you can suggest to overcome the bad energy? I want to help me..LOL, but it's a feeling I will encounter often but not every month!
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@agfarm (930)
• United States
15 Jun 08
Dear Capricorn.......I am really Bad about this. This was never an issue untill I turned 33 then....Wham........I am a Grouch-squared! I am super , Sound sensitive. Certain pitches and Sounds just cut me to the Core.....On a Normal -DAy! But when it's that time forget it! It's like standing right next to an Amplifier at a Rock-concert! That's what " Sets me Off " is Sound. The best thing to do.... ( for me ) take a Long hott bath in the BAthroom with no lights , and no noise! Good topic thank you ! A. Saints of Los Angeles ROCK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
• United States
15 Jun 08
Hi agfarm, I will also try that tip, I have learned a lot from different members and I will be exploring what will work best for me.Thanks for sharing!
@ZephyrSun (7382)
• United States
14 Jun 08
I have this too! My husband it's like yours though. He doesn't like it at all. It has gotten worse as I have gotten older. At one point the doctor put me on Lexapro (I think that's how it is spelled) because I was very stressed while going to college and I couldn't believe how much it helped this bad pms I was having. I wish that I could afford to take it now, but no insurance for prescriptions makes that really hard. Anyway, good luck and I hope you find something that works for you! I know how hard it is and most men do not understand it!
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• United States
15 Jun 08
I am relieved knowing I am not alone about this, I am quite frustrated since my sister and some of my friends don;t have this feeling and I was thinking I am abnormal..LOL, I know he understand me but I don't like him to suffer is, I know it's not healthy also, I am hoping I will find something and someone can recommend anything. thanks for dropping ZephyrSun, I am happy to hear from you!
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• Indonesia
15 Jun 08
Hi capricorn, I am sorry you have to experience that. I have irritated too during my monthly period. I feel annoyed and so was everybody around me.. So I seek for help to the doctor and doctor told me that I have imbalance hormonal. He gave me some medicine (I am sorry I forgot the name) and suggect me to live a healthy live, like eating more vegetables and fruit, avoid junk food (which is my favorite) and do some exercise at least 2 times a week. I did the doctor suggestion and yes, the irritation feeling become less and less every month and I can control myself better.. So I think maybe you should consult your doctor too..
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• United States
15 Jun 08
Thanks for that very nice and informative sharing afternoontea, I do love junk food a lot too, maybe that is one of the reasons why I have this attitude during my period and rarely have exercise I will be trying what you have practiced, I know it will help me in some ways. Cheers!
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I'm sorry to hear that you have to go through this. I used to be so irritable too when I had my monthly visitor. I would have mine twice per month though and the pain was very bad with it. I had to have a hysterectomy because of it. I would seek help through your physician. He may be able to prescribe something for you to take.
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• United States
15 Jun 08
Hi stephcjh, Actually I didn't talk to my doctor about this since I thought, I will be able to handle this like before. But, this time that I have no work, I tend to be more sensitive and truly hard! Thanks for sharing!
@littleone3 (2065)
15 Jun 08
Hi I have terrible mood swings when it is time of the month have always been like this since i started. Like you i also have a very understanding partner he knows when my period is due as i get moody and start snapping at him a few days before. But he is very forgiving. I usually snap without thinking then am sorry for it afterwards as it seems the slightest little thing gets to me.So far have found nothing that works for me all i do is try to keep my temper in check. Our will go away and have time to myself just so i can calm down.
• United States
15 Jun 08
Hi littleone, I do know why we need to have this every month..LOL, ANyway, I am hoping that I will be a little bit better after following some tips given by our good friends here!
• Canada
16 Jun 08
littleone3, you are more than likely low on progesterone levels. Please go to www.johnleemd.com and read about his research findings concerning low progesterone levels in women. You can also go to www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com and read my story. If you have any questions or would like to try what I use please contact me and I can get you a discount!
@TCampbell (180)
• United States
15 Jun 08
Exercise helps, at least for me. Whether it jogging or even walking, I don't cramp as much and it helps with the irritability. My sister even swears by it and takes to hiking when her monthly visitor arrives. I don't know if you exercise but you might want to give it a shot.
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• United States
15 Jun 08
I do but the longest time I can bear is just 10 minutes unlike before when I used to attend sessions in the gym or have my regular schedule for playing badminton. I am sure being less active made me have this regular cramps..Thanks for sharing TCampbell!Happy Posting!
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• Canada
16 Jun 08
TCampbell, exercise is always good for all of us any time of the month! But, more than likely you are low on Progesterone. Please go to www.johnleemd.com and read about his research concerning low progesterone levels in women. You can also go to www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com and read my story! If you have any questions please contact me and if you would like to try what I am using I can get you a discount!
• South Korea
15 Jun 08
That's just normal...In my case, one week before my visit, I easily get angry. I just turn this as my warning that my visitor will coming soon, so I have to start controlling my temper.
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• United States
15 Jun 08
Hi arlene, sometimes, it is hard for me to control it..I do know, Maybe I need to do more outdoor activities..Thanks for dropping!
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• Canada
16 Jun 08
Arlene, please go to www.johnleemd.com and learn what his research found about low progesterone levels in women. You do not have to suffer with these issues! You can also go to www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com and read my story!
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
i also experience that every month,just by eating something sweet. it kinda help me. you should try that too.
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• United States
15 Jun 08
Really? wow..Thanks for that tip carrotcake!
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• Canada
16 Jun 08
Please take a look at www.johnleemd.com and read what his research found about low progesterone levels in women. If you have any questions please contact me, ok?
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
15 Jun 08
hello che, i was about to say maybe you are pregnant that is why you are experiencing it then i read at the end that you encounter such feeling often so maybe you just belong to the grumpy one when it comes to your cycle. it is just a normal thing and all you need to do is just understand that it is normal and be aware that you are being irritated with no reason at times and that will help greatly to catch yourself and not be that irritated compared to the normal attacks LOL in my case i am very sensitive and i cry easy for reason i dont know at times. my husband is very much aware of my cycle and he will often tease me about it and we will just have a good laugh at times coz he reminds me that i am just in the abnormal side of the world that is why i am feeling that way, and yes just like your hubby he will just be so patient with me and try to make me happy and laugh in times like this. he will often walk me to the park (provided it is not like oven outside haha) or just hug me and talk to me till i get over with the emotion. such phenomenon (if you want to call it that way) is very normal and all girls experienced it and that is why we are considered NUTS haha. mylot will surely help you a lot, i dont know but it seems to help me feel better at times if my hubby is busy at work. anyway, i wish you all the best and may you feel better soon. have a good night. takecare
• United States
15 Jun 08
Thanks jair, I am glad really to learn from everyone here and know that I am not alone in this journey..LOL, I am alone for 8 hours during weekdays so, makes me feel more isolated and feeling so nuts indeed..LOL, I don't know what or how can I control this emotions but, I am trying really...ANyway,thanks for this words and sharing!
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
15 Jun 08
he che, i can understand what you are feeling coz i had that when we are living in china. i am lucky then that he can work at home as much as he works at the office also i have a dog and my sister lives with us though she goes to a school i can still enjoy her at the afternoon when she comes home. back then he bought me some painting stuff, books, sewing machine, sculpley and scrapbook stuff that he thinks will help me a lot to spend my time by myself. do you have other likes and hobbies out there? it will help you a lot as well when you are feeling alone. i dont have any friends here and the only one i have lives in NYC, but i am happy that it is not like china anymore coz he works at home and i have a dog and a turtle to play with when i am feeling alone. aloneness is good as long as you are not feeling lonely. look for the better side of it. most of all look for the fact that you have a wonderful and loving husband and not all have that kind of relationship at all. takecare
• United States
15 Jun 08
Thanks for that jair, I appreciate it a lot. I do cross-stitching. I love playing pool and badminton unfortunately, i don't know anyone who can play with me...I mean girl friends. I got few friends whom I use to hang out for swimming but when this cramps will attack me, it is something I can't control..I used to be in a gym before and it helps me for like 2 years without suffering any pain. I just stopped and I know I need to work out back! Thanks again!
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
16 Jun 08
1. i work out a lot or move a lot...whether going to the gym and jogging and cycling, walking or jogging in the neighborhood. 2. then take a lukewarm shower. 3. then drink herb tea. 4. relax in bed with relaxing music. or read if you can something light, a magazine maybe, or watch tv, or play on the internet. 5. take 2 aspirins with a glass of water also helps.
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• United States
16 Jun 08
Hello fifileigh, thanks a lot for these informations and tips..I have not tried doing some of those and I am so eager to try it.I hope it will work for me as it works for you!
• Canada
16 Jun 08
fifileigh, It sounds like you have tried a lot of different things to get control of these PMS symptoms. Please go to www.johnleemd.com and learn what his research found about low progesterone levels in women. I use an all natural hormone balancing cream called Phyto Prolief by Arbonne. You can read my story at www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com If you have any questions or would like to try what I use you can contact me and I can get you a discount!
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
17 Jun 08
my pmsing isnt that bad...i just usually take 2 aspirins and drink something cold. herb tea helps too. i dont even get zits anymore like in high school.
• United States
15 Jun 08
i usually try to rest the first two days at it's worst.you get so crampy you don't want to do anything.sometimes a hot shower or bath helps.
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• United States
15 Jun 08
HI scarlet_woman, Thanks for dropping and sharing. I tried to relax but maybe I need more time! I appreciate the idea!
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• Canada
16 Jun 08
Scarlet_woman, you do not have to accept these symptoms! Please go to www.johnleemd.com and learn what his research found about low progesterone levels in women. You can also go to www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com and read my story. If you would like to take control of these symptoms and try the same cream that has made a huge difference in my life please contact me and I can get you a discount!
• United States
18 Jun 08
thanks for the advice grasshopper,but i'm not menopausal.my family doesn't even start til age 50. seriously. it's just plain run of the mill cramps.
• Australia
15 Jun 08
LOL... my ex husband used to refer to that as my 'full moon' time... because I sprouted claws and fangs! Help, I'm married to a werewolf! LOL. I'd start snapping and he'd warn the kids, 'Look out, it's mummy's full moon time!' Personally, I think a lot of it is caused by depression that is being triggered by the hormones being so low. I know when I am suffering from depression anyway it tends to be much worse. So for me, it tends to help if I get out in the sunshine (creating vitamin D etc) or doing something that I enjoy like going for a massage or a little retail therapy. It tends to lift my mood a little for several hours. Unfortunately, it's not a permanent remedy. Medications are better for that.
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• United States
15 Jun 08
Hi jewelenterpises, Thanks for reminding me the different ways to unwind, Maybe I need to go out in moment like this and have some activity instead of locking myself in our room and hate everything that I hear.." full moon indeed!LOL!
• Australia
15 Jun 08
I know what you mean, hiding yourself away just makes you feel worse in some ways because you start feeling guilty for not interacting with anything or anyone. Get out and do something girl... especially something you enjoy You could also try some herbal remedies. St Johns Wort, Valerian and Ginseng are good for depression. There are other ones that might help with PMS too. Just ask at your local health food store. Personally, I think I prefer those to prescription medications.
• Canada
16 Jun 08
Hi Jewelenterprises, you are right when you said that you are low on hormones, but it is progesterone that you are low on, not estrogen! Please go to www.johnleemd.com and learn what his research found about low progesterone levels in women. Then go to www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com and read my story! I use an all natural hormone balancing cream called Phyto Prolief and I won't go without it! I would have to say that my life has changed for the positive since I have taken control of my low progesterone levels! If you have any questions or would like order some cream let me know and I can get you a discount!
@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
15 Jun 08
have you tried taking the midol for all the symtoms you have? I don't have my cycle anymore, but I still get irritated by a lot of things. going through menopause is just a bad. Everything bothers me. And than I have my good days. I'm better off by myself. This way I don't get upset with anyone. When I do get like this, I go to my room and stay there until I've calm down. Try the midols and let me know if that helps
• United States
15 Jun 08
Hi kaleegirl, I am taking midol regularly because of the strong pain...And very often during my cycle I just have thie attitude, I hate it honestly but I can't control too! Thanks for the sincere response!
• United States
16 Jun 08
thank you I will do that. I have put your the website in my favorite place. I don't take anything, I didn't want to depend on anything. so when i get hot, I turn the fan on and close off. When I get in my mood, I try and stay away from everyone. But I will look at your site. thanks again
@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
16 Jun 08
Hello checapricorn, Personally, I don't have this problem. I won't get angry too much or feeling unsatisfied with everything around me whenever I have my monthly period. Mine is sometimes irregular. It will be like early of the month for this month, mid of the month for next month and maybe, end of the month for another month. So, I can't really get prepared when the time comes. But I realize one thing for sure - whenever the time is near, I will start to get irritated easily. It won't be too bad but I always be careful not to hurt anyone around me. I might be sarcastic sometimes. My husband knows it. Whenever he feels that I am not like I am, he will definitely try to avoid any argumentation with me *smiles* I prefer to be a little bit quiet too, for not to accidentally hurting others with my attitude.
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• United States
16 Jun 08
Hello gr8life, good for you, that is a great seld-control. I tried that but my being "mean" during those times can't be avoided..LOL, I hate even myself but I can't control it! I will be trying the tips I learned here, hope it will work for me..Thanks!
• Canada
16 Jun 08
Please go to www.johnleemd.com and learn about low progesterone levels in women! You can also go to www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com and read my story too!
@bluemars (952)
• Australia
15 Jun 08
Oh yes I actually can entirely relate to this discussion and I know what it is like on that front. I try to relax the best way i can but sometimes I don't know who I am when it takes over and I feel like I am not on the same page as anyone really and that can leave me feeling kind of low. I do feel like I have to at least take some responsibility for my actions and moods even though that can be tough sometimes. I am glad that your husband has unlimited patience for you because that really makes the whole experience of our monthly cycle and all its emotions a bit more easier to handle. Well at least a bit more easier than say imagine someone who was not understanding and even added to the existing fire inside you. I think that it can be good to keep active and try doing more to keep your mind occupied and free from worry and those sudden changes in moods. I like to wear myself out too with a jog or something physical to keep me more relaxed. I do enjoy a nice warm bath with candles too, that can really help out sometimes especially with the physical pain that sometimes comes with the whole girly visit.
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• United States
15 Jun 08
Thanks bluemars...I love the idea,maybe I need to go out and have some walk or jog in those times. Might help me to unwind!
• Canada
16 Jun 08
Bluemars these symptoms do not have to come with that time of the month! It is caused by low progesterone levels. Please check out www.johnleemd.com and learn what his research found about low progesterone levels in women. You can also read my story by going to www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com If you would like to order the cream that I use please contact me and I can get you a discount, ok?
@SheliaLee (2738)
• United States
15 Jun 08
Bless your heart!! I had a hysterectomy back in 2001 so I don't have the monthly visitor anymore but I still remember what it was like!! My husband had lots of patience too which is a tremendous help. But there were times I would get even irritated at him and have to go in a room by myself and just cry. He would ask me when I came out if it was that time or nearing it LOL. He could always tell. Now we go through it with our daughter and he always ask me if it is that time for her LOL. Like mother, like daughter. Even though I had surgery I still have my ovaries so I still experience the mood swings from time to time but not quite as often as I did before. God Bless hon. You might want to talk to your doctor and ask him if he can give you something to help.
• United States
15 Jun 08
Thanks SheliaLee, I agree with you, there are moment that even the voice of my partner will irritate me, I feel so bad since I know he's been good and patient for me, but, this is something I can't control honestly.Thanks for this sharing!
• Canada
16 Jun 08
Sheilalee, you are probably low on progesterone. Please go to www.johnleemd.com and read what his research found about low progesterone levels in women. I use an all natural hormone balancing cream that has really worked, not only for me but for many of my friends that have had hysterectomies. You can use the cream with any other meds as it is a natural cream and will not hurt you in conjunction with the other meds that you might be taking. You can read my story at www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com If you would like to order some please contact me and I will help you get a discount!
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
Just like you, I get so irritated even before my "monthly visitor". I don't like the noise. I've been getting headaches. And when it was time, I got dysmennorhea which is really very irritating. What I will always do is to lock myself in my room but eventhough, I can't still control it. I think it's normal having PMS. Too glad, my husband is so understanding. He knows what part of the month I will be having it. To overcome the bad energy, I suggest that you get some rest, if headaches or pains occur, take medicine. That's what I always did.
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• United States
15 Jun 08
Thanks for that dhangski, Actually I am taking my pills regularly and can't control myself being bad during those times..Maybe a rest will help a lot! I appreciate it!
• Canada
16 Jun 08
Darlin' you are low in Progesterone level and PMS does not have to be normal. Please go to www.johnleemd.com and learn what happens to women and girls when they are low on Progesterone. Many are only 13 yrs old when this happens and being low in Progesterone seems to be normal but the symptoms do not have to be. I have been using an all natural hormone balancing cream that has totally changed my life! You can read my story at www.nomorehotflashes.myarbonne.com If you want to take control of these symptoms please contact me and I will help you get a discount too, ok?
@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
[u][/u] I never had a problem with irratabilility when I had my monthlies. I don't get them anymore and haven't had them for the last 21 years as I had a hysterectomy when I was 30 years old because I had uterious cancer. I was lucky and they got it all and I have never had any signs of it coming back. I do get checked every year for it just in case. So far I have been lucky. But in saying that, I live with my daughter and boy is she cranky at that time of month. I can't even look at her without her bursting a seam or two, if you know what I mean. I always know when it is that time of month for her because she is so miserable. I told her she should be happy that she has her period because that means she isn't pregnant and since she has a new boyfriend, for the last three months, she doesn't want to get pregnant. But I guess she can't help being cranky as she has no control over her hormones. She did take some Midol last month, on my request, I went and bought it for her, and it helped a lot. She wasn't as bad and so she will keep taking it for the next few months as we were told it gets better and better the more time goes by. I sure hope so.
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• United States
11 Jul 08
LOL! great mom! I remember when I was single and stay with parents, both Dad and Mom will be scared since I will really collapse without my midol..It's a little bit okay this time but still the attitude is there..LOL!
• United States
3 Jul 08
I know exactly what you mean. I don't know how to get rid of that feeling. What I do is let my hubby and kids know that I am having a bad day and stay in my room until I am feeling better. That way I don't get irritated at them for no good reason.
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• United States
3 Jul 08
I agree, that will be the safest thing to do..LOL! Thanks!
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
16 Jun 08
Have you thought that there might be a remote reason. behind this anger and frustration, most of us have anger issues but PMS ing is a big one, and a lot of women have this problem, talk to your doctor about this and perhaps try to take it a bit easier on your self at that time. there are a lot of medications that will ease the strain and help you, just talk to your doctor
• United States
16 Jun 08
Thanks for that encouragement RobinJ, At first I decided not to discuss this issue to my doctor since I thought, I will be able to handle it with the pills, but now that I have less activity outside,made me feel this awful feeling often!