heart breaking

United States
June 14, 2008 7:37pm CST
My ganny was put in a nursing home recently. I love my granny but I hate going to the nursing home. It saddens me. I see all these people there that have no quality of life left and feel sorry for them. Most of their own familys do not come to see them. Do you think people put there family members in these places and forget about them? Do you think they get good care in a place like this?
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
8 Feb 09
My father was admitted into a nursing home this past week, 2/05/09. It was really scary to me, and I did not want to think about it let alone talk about it. I decided to visit today, I really did not know what to expect or what I would see, I did not want to go alone, so I planned my visit when I knew my sister and mother would be there. Let me tell you, a great relief has been lifted from my shoulders. The staff seemed very friendly, helpful and caring and the facility was nice. My father looked 100% better than he did while he was in the hospital, and he even smiled and laughed a few times. We brought family pictures to put on his night stand, his guitar and some clothes. At first he did not want to play his guitar, but then he took it and said that it needed to be tuned. For what it is worth, his spirit was much better, and that made me feel good. I guess it depends on the nursing home, as to how the patients are treated and cared for.
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• United States
4 Jan 09
i work in a nursing home as a therapy tech. in our place it is a home,like we are all a big family. just because they are in homes does not mean they have no quality of life. they just can no longer care for themselves. at our place our residents go on trips to shop zoo whatever they want. they get the best care and i hope your granny is in a good place. some situations are sad and some family do not visit their loved ones after being placed. that is a shame too. visit your granny as often as possible and visit for longer than 2 min. i used to feel that way too until i started working in a home. i love it and you can learn alot from them.
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@Porcospino (27521)
• Denmark
29 Dec 08
My grandmother lives in a nursing home, and it is a great place. The nurses are very friendly and caring and there is a great atmosphere in the home. If I ever have to live in a nursing home, I would like to live at a place like that. I have worked in couple of nursing homes myself, and I have seen different kinds of nursing homes. Some of them have been great and some of them have been terrible. I have worked at one place where there was a very bad atmosphere and where the nurses didn't treat the residents very well. Working there was definately not a nice experience, and I felt bad for the residents. I was able to quit and find another job, but where are the residents supposed to go?
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@barehugs (8985)
• Canada
15 Jun 08
Both my parents spent the last 4 years of their lives in a Nursing Home. No, I didn't put them in there. They went in of their own volition. My Parents were 90 years old when they arranged their admittance. They needed professional nursing help, and they got it in the Nursing Home.They were well cared for in a way that none of their relatives could have managed. They had good meals, and were fed when they became unable to feed themselves.They had lots of friends their own age, and good conversations. There was entertainment which they would not have had anywhere else. Quality of life was much higher than would have been possible anywhere else. The family visited several times a week, and made sure they were happy and well cared for. The best thing possible for my Parents was being able to happily live the last 4 years of life in a Nursing Home.
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• United States
15 Jun 08
As a nurse who works in a nursing home, yes I think they get good care. Unfortunately even in hospitals there are short staffing issues, not so gung ho nurses, doctors and cna's. I know it makes you sad to see your grandmother in her present shape, but stay involved. Having a family member that is present and involved, is the most important way to make sure your loved one gets the care they need and deserve. I wish people understoood that.
@rosey2006 (945)
• United States
11 Jun 10
I have worked at many nursing homes and do not think that they get the care that they deserve. I worked at one place as an aide and had at least 15 residents that I was in charge of. This means toileting, changing, dressing, oral care, feeding and many other duties. This did not include the combative residents who would slap, bite and do other crazy things to you as you were trying to help them. I also worked in home care and found this to be a much better setting for the residents. They got 1 and 1 care and were able to relax in their homes.