misunderstanding..with him

I'm not married yet so i don't know the situation that you had. But if i were you, I probably will get pissed. Yes, does he forget that you're the one who've been taking care of your kids all the while? But however we can't blame him for that. I don't know. Try slow talk with him.

Did you try telling him in a nice way that you already know what to do with taking care of your siblings. I know pretty well that your husband is just concerned by being like that. I think you just need a little patience because I think its just his way of showing that he is concerned. Just an experiment why would you try kissing him while he keeps on reminding you over and over again and don't forget to thank him for the concern. It might finally realized something from him.

I have been married 40 years and sometimes I think my husband acts, or even speaks without thinking. Now I am as feminist as they come, but I asked a close male friend if he even thinks about something he is going to say before he says it and he said "why would I do that?". So it may very well be a male thing. My husband will say things like you never put the toilet paper in right or something as stupid as that. After all these years I either ignore him or say, that is why I have you, so you can do it right. He knows he had better be careful what he complains about. Many years ago, he really complained about how I washed the pots and pans, I used too much soap, missed spots and so on. So guess what, I said since I am awful at this, it is now your job! So do not feel bad, your feelings are very valid!