Friend vs Love

Love triangle - which one will you choose??
@kissie34 (2295)
Philippines
June 17, 2008 1:08am CST
Which do prefer loving your best friend or loving the one who just courted you?? I am certainly choose the one who is courting me that loving the one who is my best friend.. For me, best friend cannot be my lover because when your best friend become you lover then there is a possibility that you will lose your best friend... Not like loving someone who is courted, if ever he/she lives you then you still have your best friends.. How about you?? Which do prefer loving the one who is your best of friend or loving the one who is courting you???
18 responses
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
Well there are both good and bad points when you fall in love with your best friend. A good thing is that you fell in love with someone who is your friend, that only means that your relationships is founded on something deeper. Falling in love with your best friend doesn't mean that you will lose your best friend. If it works out then you are very lucky because you have a lover and a best friend all in one person. Sad thing though if your relationship doesn't work out you might end up really losing your best friend because you would get uneasy with that person. In the end however if you are both really best friends there might be a chance that you would still be friends again.Stay positive don't be afraid to love your best friend if that's what you really feel. Just always be ready of what he/she might say to you when you confess your love.
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
Thanks for that response.. Actually, I had already confessed my feelings to him and I told him that I just want him to know how I feel but I don't mean of anything like he should love me too.. I never pushed my feelings for him, I think same think he did... Now, we have our own relationship with someone else.. maybe, our relationship would never going more than just a friend.. I already accept it.. I am happy that we are just friends..
• India
18 Jun 08
love and friendship seprately
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
Actually, love and friendship can be join together... Of course,we all love our friends and we can't deny it unless you just be friendly for some reasons... Whatever!!! For me, love and friendship is always bond to each other... thanks for your sharing...
@vimal2k6 (391)
• India
18 Jun 08
I think always friend will succeed throught out the life without any problem smoothly. Be always friend better than a lover.
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
I agree... thanks for sharing...
• Philippines
18 Jun 08
I would say why not the best friend? You can't lose a best friend if both of you fall out of love. Unless, you really are not true friends. Besides, it's better to love someone you've known and trusted for a long time. Loving a best friend is a risk, yes, if you are afraid that your best friend might go away from you if one or both of you are hurt. Real and true best friends won't leave each other. How could I say this, because I've experienced loving my best friends. The first one, well, he rejected me when I told him about my feelings. However, he didn't avoid me. In fact, our friendship got stronger. I was hurt, yes. But he was there to ease that pain that he himself caused. Well, the second one, we both took the risk. And where we are now? We are husband and wife, have a one-year old son, and expecting another one. Worth the risk, isn't it?
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
That is really nice to hear... But as for now, we have our own lovers... It just don't work with us...For us, the best thing that we can do is to continue being just a best friend and I think that is the best way that we can do... I just can't imagine if we became a lovers... anyway, thanks for sharing... have a nice day!
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
as for me...if i would be choosing...i would probably choose my best friend as my lover that someone that im courting because if me and my best friend will be lover that is much easier coz we both know each others from silliness to seriousness..
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
I agree that when you love someone you should know him first so that you would know if your compatible to each other and there would be no problems occur...
@thaMARKER (2558)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
My bestfriend was a guy but we never were lovers. He courted me for like days before we became bestfriends actually hahaha.. then a friend of his became my boyfriend, my first lover hehehe.. three of us became buddies and we usually hang out at my bestfriend's place. That was my high school time, a very long time ago. I guess the love for both is different kind of feeling. i can't decide whether to love a bestfriend as my lover or to love my bestfriedn as plain bestfriend because it's not comparable. it's completely different feeling.
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
19 Jun 08
Yes, I agree... Loving a best friend is really different from loving as a lover.. Ir's really hard to know especially if he/she is really important to you and very close in your life...
@kesav010 (1686)
• India
17 Jun 08
i donn think by loving ur best frnd u'll lose ur friend....the bond will b even more deeper....
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
But there is a possibility, right?? I have my ex-boyfriend but they never become my friends after the break up.. it seems that there is a block between us every time we see each other..
@subha12 (18452)
• India
17 Jun 08
i appreciate your way of looking at the life's prospective. But I think if your best friend loves you, then what will you do it is one of the best potential relationship also. It amy be that you lose the best friend, but anyways.
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Actually, he had ask me that question too.. What if he love me?? Can we be more than friends?? Of course, I answer Nope!! I don't want to lose our friendship for being a lover.. I am just contented he loves me and I love him too but not being a lover... I am afraid to lose him not only as a lover but most of all being my friend and brother...
@replyashu (747)
• India
17 Jun 08
the person we love shuld b our best friend, so no need of any selection!!
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Yes, in some point I agree but not being a lover..
• India
17 Jun 08
Hi friend, I am little confused about that. I love my girlfriend. And i an afraid to tell her that i love her. I cant suffer the pain, he i lose her. That much i love her. I think she loves me. My desire is that she would tell me first that she loves me
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Wait.. I think you better tell her first... I don't think it is good that the girl will be the first one to admit that she loves you... Or should I say what if she is waiting you to tell her how much you love her... Maybe she is shy and afraid just like you...
@fatima07 (169)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Yes it is true but we all know that friends can be lovers and we know the fact that a strong relationship with your friend is one factor that makes you feel inlove with him/her. On other hand i agree about what you have said that a best friends who became lovers had a 90% possibilities that after breaking up their friendship could not be the same as before. FRIENDS CAN BE LOVERS BUT LOVERS CAN'T BE FFRIEND RIGHT?
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Yah, right!!!
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
That one was my policy before when i never fall in love to my bestfriend. BUt it was broke and I had to follow my heart. It says to love my bestfriend and not the one who courts me. It is really a game and I had to gamble my faith and relationship with my bestfriend. BUt I can say now that I never lose the friendship with him even we both lost in loving each other. We are still the best of friends until now. So why should I choose the one whom I not love? Better take gamble and fight for the love you feel you may not know it will be the best game you will play and definitely it might be you forever game.
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
As for now, I am happy with my decision... I have a friend and a lover... I had choose the one who is courting me because fighting your love to your best friend is really difficult especially there is only one person who is loving..I am happy with my boyfriend and I know that I have made a good decision...
@celticeagle (123836)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Jun 08
But, you should be best friends and then grow into love. Why not have the best of both worlds?
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
It's hard to choose the both world.. You would never know what will be the consequence of that...
• Denmark
26 Jun 08
perhaps I will prefer loving my best friend, because I know him very well than the one who is courting me not unless if my best friend doesn't love me the way that I love him. It's a matter of understanding if you chose your best friend. It's a good next chapter of your life being together not as best friend's but as lovers maybe he can be the guy that your waiting for in your life and you will not know it unless you try it.
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
20 Jun 08
i prefer loving the one courting me because the best friend turns more into a brother material...to close of a bond to be anything more.
@xiaoyue (206)
19 Jun 08
I prefer loving the one who is courting me.I think it is ambarrassed to love a person who is my best friend.Besides,my best friend must know everything about me,including my secret things.So if my best friend becomes my lover,I think it will make me feel uncomfortable.I think lovers should keep something secret each other.
@PRIYANK1992 (1678)
• India
19 Jun 08
I always choose my Best friend because he is the one whom I like most.
• India
18 Jun 08
There should be a gap between a lover and friend.If you love your friend then may not exchange the affection which both use to and it is better differenciate freind and love.