Is it the right time for marriage

@smartraz (128)
India
June 20, 2008 3:21am CST
For sometime now i've been under constant pressure from my parents for getting married. They've also found a beautiful bride for me too. Even though i like her,i'm just confused- is it the right time for me to marry. Since my exams are over they feel it is right time for a marriage but. But i dont think so. I feel that i'm not prepared for it. Is there any way to convince them abt it.
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@fiarby (105)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
I actually don't know much about your culture in marriage but I believe the question of being the right time is not the issue.. it should be, is she the person you want to spend your lifetime with...success in marriage doesn't just happen to couples who married young or old, or was in a long or short engangement...success in marriage i believe lies solely to how you accept and love the person you want to be with for the rest of your life...talk to your parents and listen to them as well, from there weigh things out....your talking about your life here, it should be your choice and not theirs. GOOD LUCK!
@smartraz (128)
• India
20 Jun 08
Thanks for the advice.:-)
@celticeagle (123902)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Jun 08
I think your folks want grandchildren. Most folks do. You need to be candid with them. Life is too short for you not to have an understanding. You will get married when you feel it is right for YOU. Easier said than done? Probably. But a healthy connection with your folks will make you feel so good.
@smartraz (128)
• India
20 Jun 08
Actually that is the reason which stops me from declining this proposal. I dont want them to get hurt by my gesture
@alcazar (761)
• India
20 Jun 08
welll...what is your age first....and clearing the exams is not a big deall..to marry you should have some income....
@smartraz (128)
• India
20 Jun 08
I'm just 24 years of age and i'm a medical student. My parents foot bother abt a job as they think they have made enough money so that i can survive till i get a job.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
25 Jun 08
I believe a person must be ready in their own mind before marrying anyone. It should be a life-long commitment. Even when one is ready to marry, things aren't always perfect. Try talking to your parents, letting them know that you aren't turning down the proposal to hurt them,just that you aren't ready in your own life to be married just now. Explain to them that you feel you need to be out of medical school before marrying or at least, ready to be married. They should want the best for you, not just their desire for you to be married. Lots of young people don't get married early. In fact, lots wait until their 30's to marry and some later. You want a happy home when you marry, one in which the couple gets along and the children, when you have them, will feel no stress in your home. And, if you aren't ready, it will certainly be stressful to be married.
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
Is this some sort of fixed marriage? You like her? Would you still like her if you see all her negative side? Is your feeling for her enough to make you stay by her side for the rst of your life? Would it turn to love after sometime? Personally, I think one should get married because he/she feels that he/she is ready and inlove and not because of pressure. Marriage is a lifetime commitment... It should be taken with much understanding and readiness. Once you are married, it will involve not your parent's life...but yours, and your wife and kids --to be. Are you sure you can take the responsibility of being a good husband and father in time? If not, then think again! Talk to your parents... Tell them that you are not ready, if you are not. You have to be sure of yourself. You have to be responsible for your own decision just before you can decide for your soon to be family. It's not like buying bag in the store. It will involve your life and happiness... and not only yours, but other people too.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
20 Jun 08
Actually i believe one should marry only when one feels ready for it.it can't be forced. many time parents don't think about children they just want to marry them off.