After Over 3000 Posts I Feel Like A Newbie!

@ellie333 (21018)
June 25, 2008 6:36pm CST
I am one of these people who does go into new user and no response discussion lists because I remember when I first started and had no friends on my friends list waiting in anticipation for responses, well today I got a wake up call because without my friends on here (and none of them have had notifications today because of a blip in the system) I am like that new person awaiting eagerly for a response and I feel despondent now as I am not getting any. Question would you answer my discussions if you weren't my friend? I personally cannot answer all my friends post as some I really don't know anything about but I do try. If friends lists didn't exsist and 133000 + people just answered discussion that were really of interest how do you think myLot would work? Would it be a fairer system? Ellie :D
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@Gollywog (1092)
26 Jun 08
I feel like Ive been here forever its because myloters are so friendly,there would be to many people to answer to so we need a friends list! I dont always get a chance to reply to all, my emails are always over 280 each day so I try my best to get through them. I look to make new friends when myloters answer the same discussions as me then I know what they are interested in.It saves a bit of time. I do try to answer at least three a week of new and no responce! I sound like Ive been here a couple of years. lol
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Gollywog, Yes time in myLot is definitely different to the outside world and if you feel like you have been here forever I have for infinity and beyond It is great to know that you also reply to new users and no response too. Ellie :D
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@Gollywog (1092)
26 Jun 08
I have noticed a lot of people have been around for 2yrs? Has anyone been here 3yrs? or do you have a limit of years here.
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
I've been here five months so I really don't know other than I knowsomeone who has been here two years. Ellie :D
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@Rosekitty (19395)
• San Marcos, Texas
25 Jun 08
Yea!!! this one came through finally..maybe after I'm asleep tonight they'll all pour in..LOL Yeppers i know what you mean..I'm going around and answering newbies and meeting new people so its good for the soul to have this happen i guess..only thing is it hurts the responses you expect back to have discussions can you imagine all 133, answering your discussions?? what a laugh that would be to try and discuss with them all..LMAO Huggles Dear Ellie!
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
All 133000, I don't think that would ever happen but it would be a fun trying to respond to that many eh! Thanks for the huggles Rosekitty, that is my favourite word. My son and I also huggle under the snuggle blanket when its chilly at night. Ellie :D
@Rosekitty (19395)
• San Marcos, Texas
26 Jun 08
awww come on Ellie...lets do a test and see how many respond to this..no I know start a new discuss.. and ask for everyone to just come in and see how many of them do show up..maybe if we bring brownies and huggles?..LOL
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Ok, I'll post a discussion re free huggles you do brownies as I can't cook LOL. Lets see then eh! Ellie :D
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
26 Jun 08
I answer any discussion that interests me. I believe it should be a matter of interest rather than anything else. People are always watching each other. I make responses as long as I am in the mood and watch the earnings and do little else. I really don't know how it all works but this is real fun and I'm loving it. Why not forget what everybody else is doing and have fun responding and discussing ?
@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Bluepatch, yes ultimely it is if the discussion interests you and yes to have fun with. I had a real gigle last night on one of my discussions and then another of my friends and a few others joined in with the cheeky banter. When answering to new peoples discussions I will only answer the ones that I can as some I really have no knowledge of the question that is being asked. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D
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@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
26 Jun 08
hi ellie..even if your not my friend as long as i like your discussion and i can understand, i will response to it..but honestly now a days im quite busy so i never answer some post..
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Marketing, That is lovely of you to say, thank you. Ellie :D
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I would. I think we are drawn to others that have common interests and usually you write about something that pertains or does interest me. So even if I weren't one of your friends I would probably answer most of your discussion.
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Aaah Jill, Thanks that is lovely to hear but I did feel a bit disjointed earlier and felt that perhaps it was just my friends who responded to discussions because they were my friends rather than it being an interesting discussion because of the no notifications. Ellie :D
@obidan (368)
• Romania
26 Jun 08
Yes I do think the system would be a bit fairer that way but I always respond to discussions of people that are not my friends, since that is how I made friends in the first place, and since I want to see discussions that might interest me, and when I find some that do, of course I respond to them.
@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Obidan, I do much the same as you but also always try to respond to friends discussions too if I can. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
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@2wicelot (2945)
26 Jun 08
Congratulations on making it to over 3000 posts. You must be really dedicated to mylot. It is a nice virtual environment to hang out and make friends. But when you are used to getting notifications and stuff, the day you don't get them you will definitely feel that emptiness. Imagine waking up one day and there is no internet service or phone coverage. That would really feel weird as well.
@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Thanks for the congratulations, yes I love it here and have made some very good friends, in fact I have now met two in real life rather than just in the virtual world which were amazing experiences. Oh don't re the internet I was offline for 6 days with ISP problems and it felt like forever. The internet is a lifeline at times for me as once my small son is in bed that is me indoors for the night so its great to have the company online. Ellie :D
@2wicelot (2945)
26 Jun 08
Meeting someone from mylot in real life must have been a very amazing experience. Congratulations on that as well.
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@ellie333 (21018)
30 Jun 08
Oh it was, They were everything I had expected them to be from discussions in real life too. No shattered illusions LOL. Ellie :D
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@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
26 Jun 08
I usually look for all kinds of discussions to respond to, and I will do so as long as I can contribute something of value. That's why I also take a look at the 'new user' discussions and the 'no response' discussions occasionally. These members do need our support too, especially those who are relatively new and cannot just depend on friends to post in their discussions since some of them do not have many friends yet. I believe most other people take the same approach of looking out for interesting discussions, rather than only respond to discussions started by their friends. As far as the people on my friends list go, most of my friends don't really participate in my discussions anyway except for a handful. They are probably my friends in name only.
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Lexus, I agree that by responding to the new user and no response discussions it is helping to support and encourage and make them feel a valued part of the myLot community, which of course they are. My friends lists sounds pretty much like yours. I have a select few that will respond who I get on really well with and others even though I have responded to many of their discussions haven't once responded to any of mine and then there are the completely inactive ones which I really should go through and delete but it is finding the time. I love it here and have lots of fun and tend to choose discussions I can give some input too rather than just respond because they are on a friends list. Thanks for sharing your thoughts in this discussion. Ellie :D
@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
26 Jun 08
Hi Ellie, all that you have expressed a moment ago is exactly what my view and sentiment are. I wonder how many other members think the same way or experience likewise as us?
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Lexus, I think looking through the responses so far most do but they are an odd couple that concentrate just on their notification emails from friends only as they say there is no time to search others discussions. It is refreshing to hear that so many do respond to discussions of interest rather than just the friends list though. I value my friends but I can't always answer some of the postings. Ellie :D
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Hello Ellie, as a newbie, I think I understand what your talking about. The funny thing is, I've been here about a month and about half of my friends list seems to be inactive so I'm not sure how well the system is working as it is. In answer to your questions, I am answering this discussion and I'm not on your friends list....Yet Although I only answer discussions that I have something inteligent to add, I do look under the discussions my friends started first If we didnt have some kind of a friends/pals/whatever system to organize the members that we like and prefer to respond to, I think Mylot would be a very disorganized mess. I think its great to be able to seperate the people that we might have something in common with from the ones we dont. Cheers, Tianna
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@zhuuraan (961)
• United States
26 Jun 08
When I was here a year and a half ago or so, under a diff name, I went through my friends list monthly and deleted inactive ones. If it said it had been more than x amount of time they would be deleted. This wasn't to be mean but more to keep my list clean and fresh with active members. I'd rather have three pages of friends that are active than ten pages that aren't, and back then my friends list was very extensive. At first I accepted anyone who added me, but now my criteria's a bit more strict. I go into their discussions and make sure they don't violate the guidelines and stuff before I accept and I am more inclined to accept if I recognize the username, but I will accept others as well. It just depends on the situation. I'm not overly strict on it but I don't want a bunch of friends that will start uninteresting discussions or ones which violate the guidelines and will probably get deleted.
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
I really ought to do a clean up of the inactive ones but it takes a while to do so they are fine where they are for now as they may suddenly become active again just like you eh! LOL. Ellie :D
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
26 Jun 08
Hello, ellie, congratulations to your 3000+ posts. I will answer your question so long as i can understand. Sometimes I don't quite sure that I clearly know your ideas, pardon me. Yeah, I think it's a fairer system, but it's not very convenient for friends to exchange ideas. Lynette
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Lynette, My discussions must seem complicated to you at times and I really appreicate it when you can and do respond. Your English is amazing. Your re doing so well, keep up the good work. It is a fairer system but like you I like to keep up with what my friends are doing. Ellie :D
• China
26 Jun 08
I appreciate that, ellie. Yeah, i'm working hard to improve English, hope one day i can understand most of your discussions.
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
LOL, You'll be understanding them in no time at all. Keep up the good work. Ellie :D
@rainwater (353)
• China
26 Jun 08
Congratulations.You will do better.Best wishes.
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Rainwater, Thanks for the congratulations, yes if I keep posting and keep responding I will do better I agree. Ellie :D
• China
26 Jun 08
I am glad to meet you.Best wishes.
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
26 Jun 08
Hi dear Well all i can say after having so much friends and so much post u r too much used to of it( rather addicted) and when u open ur computer and dont find notifications in ur in box, u feel un easy and not comfortable, right and this feeling is giving u Newbie feeling, u want to open the inbox and start replying to discussion, commenting on them but its not that fast and u feel lonely. sure i do response to discuusion which i like either its from new member or from some one i never interacted before as its how friends hip start So i am with u my dear, just check and u will find me there Byee
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Cupid, Thanks for your response, I do answer to many newbie discussions also but I do try to answer as many of my friends discussions as I can. This discussion has certainly made up for the no responses on the others though! Ellie :D
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
26 Jun 08
u r welcome but u did not comment, if u r agree with my observation? sure u r gertting good enough response take care
26 Jun 08
Hllo ellie, As you know I'm new to mylot so don't understand it yet,but have friends and I try to keep in touch with them. Kind regards Tamarafireheart
@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Tamara, You are doing really well as you respond back to anyone that responds to you and in my eyes it is the interaction that makes the discussion. Ellie :D
26 Jun 08
Hi ellie' Thank you very much for that I'm trying this is wonderul site and so interesting I do get carried away. Love Tamarafireheart
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I do not know, as I am like you in that I go to new discussions and no response discussions! I think it would not be too different, as I was at yahoo answers until I found this website on another yahoo users website! At yahoo answers, you can add friends but you can also answer any questions, just like here!
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Olviemai, I am not aware of Yahoo answers but it is great that you also reply to new users and no response dicussions. Ellie :D
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
26 Jun 08
It is very similar to this forum, where you can spend a lot of time if you are not careful! Especially after reading some of the comments from other people, it gets you so mad that you have to post!
• United States
5 Jul 08
Its always nice to respond to a newbies disscussion. I try to hit all the topics if I can and try and answer them. Its hard to think up a discussion and post it. Then when you dont get any responses its very disapointing. I think that it would be fair without the friend system.
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@ellie333 (21018)
5 Jul 08
Congratulationson receiving your star. Well done. I remember mine and I was only a 3 so to get a 6 first off excellent. I think you should still have friends so you can private message them. The time of day you post a discussion seems to make a difference too as I live in the UK more of mine get seen if I post at night rather than during the day. Ellie :D
@MichaelJay (1100)
27 Jun 08
I AM a newbie with only 572 posts and I love to look at the no response and new user discussions. There is some rubbish there, of course, as most people have to work through the 'what colour are your eyes?' type discussions before either quitting or discovering that there is a meaningful world of discussion here. I also look at the discussions started by a select number of friends becasue it seems we either have mutual interests or their posts have been stimulating and fun to answer. Like this one naturally!!
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@ellie333 (21018)
27 Jun 08
Hi Micheal, I agree some of the new discussions I just skip over as they are not discussions that interest me but I do like to support new people and welcome them here and making them feel part of the community. I have many friends but really like you have a select few that I seem to be able to relate too really well. Thank you for finding this discussion a stimulating one to answer. Ellie :D
@GreenMoo (11837)
27 Jun 08
At the moment I am barely making a dent in the discussion notifications I'm receiving by email, but under normal circumstances I do a combination of friends and non-friends discussions. I look at my friends discussions, and then when I've completed one you get those similar discussions coming up at the bottom of the page and I sometimes answer those too if they appeal. It's a way of 'meeting' new people too. Some of my friends seem to have stopped posting recently, so it's nice to have new friends to replace them. I think that even if there was no friends list, I would still seek out the discussions of certain people simply because I enjoy their discussions. And yes, you'd be one of them
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@ellie333 (21018)
27 Jun 08
Ah GreenMoo that is lovely to hear that I would be one of the ones you'd seek out, I'd look for you too, I can imagine you have a large in box at the moment as busy at the farm. I like to answer new peoples discussions to encourage and support them but only the discussions that interest me. I think it makes them feel part of the myLot community. Thank for sharing. Ellie :D
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
26 Jun 08
I think I would get fed up looking lol as I just go by my Notifications and if something catches my eye then I will respond but I am with another Site so I don't really have the time to search for the Discussions lol I would reply to a none Friend if it catches my eye and it is of Interrest to me
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Gabs you managed to find this one again then LOL. Notifications do seem to be working again now which is good. Thanks for sharing how you work, yes if you spend a lot of time somewhere else searching would take a lot of time I agree but for me I am on myLot a lot more so I don't mind it at all really. Ellie :D
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@bdugas (3581)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I also check out the new user and no responses first, like you I know what it is like to be new and no one replying to my post, so I figure I will help them out a bit, I often make posts that seems I am the only one interested in the discussion. I go from there to interst from my friends, for some reason I get no email notications but they are turned on, so don't know what the problem is. Then I check the post I have made to see if there is responses that I should answer back to. Then I just take it down the line. I dont think I have you on my friends list, I look for discussion that interest me, not whether it comes from my friends list, so your discussion I answered because of the type it was not because you are a friend, but I will add you.
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi Thanks for adding me as a friend, appreicated and look forward to many interesting discussions. I agree that by answering the new peoples post it is encouraging and supporting them. No you are right before your responded you weren't on friends list so I am pleased that this discussion interested you. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this one. Ellie :D
• Lubbock, Texas
26 Jun 08
I don't know that the system would be any more fair. I do check for my friends posts, but I can't always comment, because I just don't know anything about the topic. I always check for my referrals' discussions, because I like to encourage them to keep going, but sometimes I can't comment on those for the same reason. Then I go into my interests and see if there's anything there interesting, then on to the discussions by new members and discussions with no comments. To me the system wouldn't be any more fair, because I wouldn't change MY system. Friends do figure into it, but discussions I'm personally interested in are more of a priority. I do get to know my friends by the discussions they post and sometimes I like to send them a personal message because I have a question or something to say that would be against guidelines to post in a discussion, or just not something I want to share with the whole world.
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@ellie333 (21018)
26 Jun 08
Hi thebeaddoodler, You are right as our friends discussion can't always be responded to if we don't know anything about the subject, there are some that talk about tv programmes I have never heard of as I don't really watch television find it hard to comment but I do like to communicate through PM too. I haven't any referrals to worry over but I do like to support and encourage the new people to make them feel welcomed into the myLot community and I remember the first time I got a response to a discussion and how excited I had felt by it, in fact I still do get excited even now. Your system sound great. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D