For or against?
By arkaf61
@arkaf61 (10881)
Canada
June 28, 2008 3:01am CST
So many things happening ....SOme of them positive, some neutral, and some really bad like my son getting sick.
The truth is that the past month or so has been a busy one in many ways.
But we had good news yesterday. My daughter needed to buy a car since she works nights and she is the one who closed the cafe, so she leaves at midnight at the earliest.
Well after a few things here and there we went to pick up her new car yesterday. She got great financing - 0.9% - and a great price on the car so she's actually quite proud of herself right now :)
But I have heard many different opinion about allowing my daughter to buy the car.
Many people tell me they wouldn't allow it. She's only 18, she shouldn't be having her own car yet. She doesn't need a car yet.
Some tell me that it's fine, and that she made a good deal, and there's nothing wrong with us allowing her to do it.
The truth is that hubby had to go take our car to her job each night and leave it there for her to bring home because we didn't want her to walk or even take the bus so late.
We understand her needs and although we could stil lend her our car for a bit more, she was smart on taking advantage of the sale prices and low financing.
Once school start again she would have no choice. Her school is over one hour by bus and wouldn't even give her time to leave school and be at work on time.
SO either now or in September, there isn't much of a difference.
What do you think? WOuld you allow it, be positive about it? Or would you be against the idea and not allow her to do it?
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11 responses
@drannhh (15237)
• United States
28 Jun 08
I had my own car at 17 and I drove responsibly, sort of, lol. It was much safer than riding with people. If she is mature and hardworking I see absolutely no reason for her not to have the car and hopefully a little help from mom and dad in maintaining it and learning to handle it responsibly. It may raise your insurance rates a bit, but who said kids are inexpensive. :-)
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@rantingqueen (495)
• United States
28 Jun 08
I would allow it. Personally, I purchased my first car at 16, for the reasons of being able to go to work after school. My parents guided me in saving money from my check each week to pay the car payment and insurance. It definitely taught me a whole new view of responsibility, as I had to make the decision to go to work or call out sick, or take days off to go running off with my friends.
It was an experience I wouldn't have given up or changed, even if I could go back and do it again. And there comes a time when we must let our children spread their wings and leave the nest. I think that you made the right decision.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
29 Jun 08
I had my car right after I got my licence and everything was fine too. I remember that back home we couldn't have our license before 21 unless our parents signed for it. Mine did and dad gave me my first car. I wish I could have done the same for her, but I can't. Still she got a very good deal and her budget is a good one.
I think some of the people thinking it wasn't a good idea have no idea of how much she needs the car = even if just for when she leaves work way after midnight.
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
28 Jun 08
Twin the Girl is 18 what is the Matter with People she is classed as an Adult and why does she not need a Car of course she does need a Car, she is working , so what is the Problem??? I think some People say it out of Jealousy My Son got his first Car when he was 19, if they are working and can afford it there is no need for them to not have a Car
You tell her to enjoy her Car and never mind what others say
Big Hugs
@xParanoiax (6997)
• United States
31 Aug 08
Heck, alot of kids get cars at sixteen. 18 is adult age, so methinks its definitely good thing for her to get her own mode of transportation.
I'd be positive about it, and for it...obviously, lmao.
@blackmantra_x (2733)
• Philippines
29 Jun 08
good day.. i she needs it then let her have it. She works and leaves for home midnight the earliest? then the car is a necessity both for convenience and safety. It's a right decision.
@danishcanadian (28838)
• Canada
29 Jun 08
Allowing her to buy the car is allowing her and enouraging her to take responsibility for her own life. The people who say she is too young, are thinking like over-protective parets who want nothing more than to keep their "child" in the next a little longer.
@KrauseHome (36689)
• United States
29 Jun 08
Personally, if your daughter has a job, and can afford the payments, Gas, etc. without having to have you help her out too much, I see nothing wrong with it, and why would people frown at an 18 yr. old buying a Car? If you would have paid for it, then I could see maybe them frowning, but if you are help teaching her Financial responsibility you are only doing her a favor in the end. Hope this situation works out for the best.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
28 Jun 08
Once somebody can drive well and has a sense of responsibility there's no reason why they shouldn't have a car.
Its the lack of responsibility that makes car ownership wrong, not someone's age.
If your daughter needs a car to help her with her work, why not ?
Make sure she doesn't abuse the privilege and let her help around with some other things.
That way she'll know the value of her transport.
Good Luck !
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
28 Jun 08
At 18, she is considered an adult and is old enough to own a car. She is working and showing that she can be a responsible person. One of my daughters got her first car when she turned 18. She had proven herself to be a responsible person and a good driver. It was a gift from her grandmother and the deal was that she provide her own insurance. She is 22 now and has a perfect driving record. Another of my girls was a bit different and more immature. We did not help her get a car and were all grateful that she did not even attempt to get her licence until she was nearly 20. She not responsible and made many poor choices. One of her wisest choices was to hold off on driving. She has grown up much since those days and is now a very good driver. It all depends on the kid, i think. You know your daughter better than anyone. If you feel she deserves a car and is ready for one then don't pay attention to what others say.
@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
28 Jun 08
Well, since the car has been bought, I would say remain positive with the initial decision. Since the car will bring convenience to all, I guess it is a win-win. As for the concerns raised by others, perhaps you might take note of it and share your concerns with your daughter if need to.
@GardenGerty (126759)
• United States
28 Jun 08
Oh, I would certainly allow it. 
It is good for her credit record, and much safer for her at night. She is becoming a responsible adult, and that is very good. Some people would have something negative to say no matter what you chose to do.
It is good for her credit record, and much safer for her at night. She is becoming a responsible adult, and that is very good. Some people would have something negative to say no matter what you chose to do.