friends request

Singapore
July 8, 2008 11:09am CST
i know this sounds ridiculous. i can imagine the disbelief on your face and the laughter that follows soon. i'm going to admit that i seriously don't know how to use this site. i was wondering how anyone gets so many friends. i know i don't have a lot of friends here. and i fear the rejection if i were to approach anyone and ask them to be my friend. in one of my posts, i was lamenting about my lack of friends. until recently, i asked a fellow mylotter about adding him/her as a friend and he/she replied that a request was already sent. i waited patiently but didn't get any notification so i decided to do it myself. when i clicked on the 'friends' link, i realise i've got friends requests! some goes back as far as 8 months! so all these while there's these nice people wanting to be my friend. and the stupid me just don't know how to work it. this is so embarrassing and i want to apologise to all the friends i've just added. so sorry ;p
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17 responses
@baileycows (3668)
• United States
8 Jul 08
It's okay. I did it to for a while. I still forget to do it. I just get so caught up in discussions I forget to do any of the extra stuff.
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• Singapore
8 Jul 08
thanks for your kind words. i'm just too silly to realise that the number beside the 'friends' link mean something. i've always though it just stands for the number of friends i've already added. it's only today that i realise it means the number of friends request. i'm gonna be more diligent and add them as they comes. cheers ;p
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
16 Jul 08
Hi dear nothing to worry about and just stay here and u will know how to use it and sure u will get more friend Never afraid of rejection or dejection as its part of life, only look at bright sides Take care
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• Singapore
17 Jul 08
thanks so much for your encouragement. i'm really happy here at mylot. everybody is really friendly and encouraging. i feel like i'm part of a big happy family. i'll explore around further and learn more about mylot. cheers and take care ya.
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
18 Jul 08
U r welcome and sure people here at my lot are friendly Take care and enjoy ur stay Byee
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@mayka123 (13470)
• India
9 Jul 08
I have just been sending friend requests to all those who have sent me nice replies to my discussions and I think most of them have accepted me as their friend. It really helps because now I get a lot of email notifications in my inbox and this keeps my fingers busy and my purse full.
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• Singapore
9 Jul 08
it's great to know that you've got a lot of friends. i am still in the process of adding friends. i can't be sure if they've added me or not. ;p i try to respond to as many discussions as i can. but having many friends really helps as they will start interesting discussions. i will be more motivated to respond to discussions started by my friends. ;p
@mayka123 (13470)
• India
10 Jul 08
Yes I am having a nice time here with so many friends. Its surely keeping my inbox full.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
I am sure you are not alone. A lot of my referrals also did not add me to their friend list when they first joined mylot. As such, they did not have that option of turning on the notification to get emails about their postings or mine, for that matter. So now with all your friends listed and accepted, I guess it is onto the task of turning on the notification for all of them. This should keep you with a steady stream of replies and postings from all the people in your friend list. This means more activity here in mylot liow!
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
hahaha so i'm not alone in this. boy am i glad to hear that. at least i don't feel so stupid now. i'll just keep watching out for the number in the parenthesis beside the friends link. i really must start exploring mylot. it seems that there's so many more about this site that i'm oblivious to. ;)
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
yes, do explore around. Took me a few good months to do it. I have yet to explore the various blogs though. Still have not got around to figuring out how to set up my own mylot blog!
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@successlog (3172)
• China
17 Jul 08
hello my chinese friend,i am glad to discuss here.It is really a funny question.I also have this kind of experience in some condition,never mind.i have joined mylot for 16 days.and i have make a lot of freinds already.They are so good to communicate.And i think it is a good idea to make more friends to support each other..and i always send the friend requests to other members.I am not care who send the request firstly.lol I am glad to know you here. good luck to you. I love China
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• Singapore
18 Jul 08
hi there my dear friend. i'm really happy to know that i've got friends here at mylot. i realised i've been receiving friends request regularly. everyday or every other day i'll get at least one friends request. it great to know that everyone is friendly here. guess we all have to start learning somewhere. cheers and thanks for responding. ;p
@underdogtoo (9591)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
There is always something learned everyday and your day has come to learn about friends. It's not so ridiculous at all and I am glad you now have many friends.Cheers!!
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
yes there's always something to learn everyday. i've learnt a lot since joining mylot. everyday there's something new, something different. it's really a great way to learn about things. i'm so happy to know that i'm not alone here in mylot. thanks for your very kind words. cheers ;p
• United States
9 Jul 08
You're not stupid! We all did that when we were new to MyLot. Actually, there were friends that I didn't get around to approving from requests. And then I took my six month leave. And when I came back, many of the requests were eight months old or more. I have since caught up on them all.
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
thank you so much for you kindness. at least i am learning more and more about mylot. there are so many things i didn't know until recently. just today i realised that i can rate a fellow mylotter on their post. thanks to a kind fellow mylotter no less. i am so happy to be part of this big sharing family. whoppee :D
@successlog (3172)
• China
9 Jul 08
hi friend i understand your concerning. I have been a mylotter for a week.and i have made 117 friends on mylot community.I am very excited on this.I think a big part of friends are friendly,honest,trustworthy.I am pride i could have these wonderful friends here. About the friends request, i should say i sent more than i received. But i have my standard to choose who could be my friend.so i know who will accpet me as his friends when i sent the friend request to him. checking them firstly, i think it is necessary to me. Of course,i hope to make good friend with you,too.I hope we will suport each other more in the future. good luck
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
wow that's a huge number of friends in such a short time. i've been here for more than a year by now. guess i am just slow in reacting. even slower in my posting speed. i've resolved to be more active in mylot and try to respond to every discussion started by my friends. it's nice to know that mylot is a big supportive community. thanks for your kind encouragements. ;]
• United States
9 Jul 08
Don't feel bad, I am still new and I am figuring it out as we go. Everyone forgets/learns some times.
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• Singapore
9 Jul 08
thank you for your encouragement. i agree that we are figuring it out as we go. i should have done this a long time ago. being lazy is not getting me anywhere. so i should explore mylot in detail before i make another boo boo like this. really appreciate your kind support ;p
@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
9 Jul 08
It happened to some of us, including me when I was still a newbie. But when I got to familiarize myself with Mylot features, I also happened to overlook that small portion of friend request. Before, I used to go direct to the discussion category, not even bothering to check the whole Mylot page. And it so happened that someone sent me a friend request almost a month ago. When I finally noticed the "friend" portion at the top page, I immediately approved that member. Now that you've mentioned about this friend requests, I'm thinking maybe those members I sent friend requests a year ago, who I thought didn't bother to even respond, may have this same situation. But when I thought I was being rejected, that made me not to send another friend request. It discouraged me a little bit. So, whenever someone sent me a friend request, I just checked their profile and approve them right away. But those members who sent you a friend request dating as far back as 8 months, was sure very patient to wait for your approval. And it's a good thing you've posted this discussion, so you can explain your side why the waiting took too long for them.
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
yes i guess that's what i should have done much earlier. instead i just kept to myself. thankfully i finally got around to familiarising myself with mylot. i think few here at mylot can actually beat my 8-month record. this is hilarious, at least to me. i really hope those mylotters are reading this. at least they'll know that i am just blur, instead of proud. thanks ;D
8 Jul 08
Hello applefreak, Yes I am new to this site and I didn't know how to as friends request and yes I still fear for rejection but Mlylotters are friendly people here and I have a few firends now my realfriend told me how to do it. Tamarafireheart.
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• Singapore
9 Jul 08
great to hear that you've got a few friends now. i started off with a few friends that i knew from elsewhere. all these time i thought that's it, these are the few friends i'll have here at mylot. turn out i thought wrong. couldn't be more wrong as a matter of fact. i'm really happy to know that mylotters are really friendly people. cheers ;]
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
8 Jul 08
you have nothing to be embarrassed about. i did the same thing. i still don't know all the things about mylot that i should. i just know i enjoy talking to people. i live alone so it is alot of company to me.
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• Singapore
9 Jul 08
yes i enjoy talking to people too. it's nice to be able to share our thoughts. it's even nicer when i get opinion from others about an issue that's bothering me. i think i should spend some time exploring mylot. two boo boos in a short time is really nothing to be proud of. see you around ;p
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
8 Jul 08
You really should not make assumptions about yourself. I used to think friends would reject me until I started asking and getting as a matter of course. Why should anyone reject an offer like that on the net ? I think this is just a case of first time jitters. Everyone can have a load of friends.
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
yes i shouldn't have made those assumptions. the word 'assume' made an axx out of you and me. that's what's been said to me a dozen times. so i guess it's really a case of first time jitters. i'm thankful to all those who have sent me friend requests. and i should be sending out a few soon. cheers ;)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Ah, interesting little discoveries. I do not ask people to add me as a friend. If someone asks to be added as a friend, I usually do so but I will check their home page. Some people just seem to be collecting friends and do not really contribute much. I do not pander to them.
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• Singapore
9 Jul 08
i am shy to ask to be added. so most times i'll just add friends when i receive a request. i don't mind being 'collected' if that's what they want. like i said earlier, one more friend is better than one more enemy. that said, i do hope that fellow mylotters send me a friend request because they are really interested to become a friend. cheers ;]
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
8 Jul 08
Hello Applefreak, I'm kind of new here and I'm still learning new things all of the time. Its not like they go out of their way to explain any of the features here. I'm sure they understand and if not, they will when they read this! Cheers, Tianna
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• Singapore
9 Jul 08
well you've got more posts than me. but i think i joined mylot for a longer time. i wasn't too active in the beginning. it's kind of disheartening to see my earnings rise today then fall tomorrow. i've learnt since then about the quality of my posts. so now i know a little more about mylot. sure hope to learn more as the day goes by. cheers ;p
@munhozmib (3850)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
8 Jul 08
Hello, applefreak! I don't find it ridiculous, nor am I laughing at you. I think it's common, people take some time until they can know every function of myLot. I guess you should not be afraid of sending out friend requests. At every discussion, I send one for somebody. If they don't accept, there's no problem. After all, they have all the rights to turn my request down. But if they do accept, I'll be constantly responding to their discussions. And here goes another friend request, this time for you. I'll understand if you prefer to turn it down. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
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• Singapore
9 Jul 08
thank you for your kind words. i hope everyone thinks like you do. i don't see a reason to turn down friend request. i always believed that one more friend is better than one more enemy. hope to see you around more often my friend. cheers ;p
• United States
9 Jul 08
i'm new and i appreciate you bringing that out so that i can learn from it. thank you.
• Singapore
9 Jul 08
welcome to the big mylot family. i glad that i've managed to share something interesting. do keep the posts coming. before long, you'd reach your first payout too. don't forget to start discussions so that i can respond to them too. cheers and take care ;p