My 1st

United States
July 13, 2008 12:42pm CST
I just found out last week that I am Pregnant!!! I am very excited. this will be my 1st. My only thing is I have no idea what to expect. I have never gone through this before, and I have been relying on the people I know that have kids. I just hope they dont get tired of me asking questions. Well can any of you here at mylot help me, by telling me, in general, what to expect. Im only 1 month and like I said I am very excited but my husband, I think he is off the charts excited. He has been trying to spped the pregnancy along. Just yesterday he told me my stomach was bigger, and I told him, "please, Im not that far alon" I know he is just really excited and eager but I how do I deal with him acting that way. I am glad he is excited, but he is off the charts. Please dont get tired of me sis!!!!!!!!!
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@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I wish you the very best.Maybe the newness will wear off and he will calm down.It has been so long for me, 21 years,I can not tell you a lot.Enjoy it while you can.
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• United States
13 Jul 08
Thank you very much! I just hope he does keep getting his self worked up or he is going to be the one stressed out
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
13 Jul 08
congrats! well, that is great that your husband is so excited. mine wasn't sure how to react. it didn't get real to him until he could actually see my stomach moving when the baby would roll around. then he became more excited. everyone's pregnancies are different so its hard to tell you exactly what to expect. i'm sure family and friends won't get tired of you asking questions because they probably had to do the same thing with their first pregnancy. it will probably fly by for you, except the last month or so seems to drag on forever because you want to meet your little one so badly.
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• United States
13 Jul 08
Thanks!!! yeah I hope they dont get tired of me. Along with my friends not getting tired of hearing about my pregnancy. I believe I am surrounded by helpful, thoughtfull, and wonderful people, so they shouldnt get tired of me.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
Congratulations on your first! This will be a journey that every women has to go for nine months. As for me being a father is also an exciting time for married life. It is a journey with lots of excitement, and danger as well. My wife's pregnancy was not that easy as she had bleeding along her pregnancy. We enjoyed the journey but the dangers made it quite difficult though but we had our son on time too. Well there are many sites that you can browse through. Try searching for pregnancy calendars this has pretty well help us along the way as monthly we were given a what to expect emails and also we were also able to plot the progress of her pregnancy if it was on track or not. So I suggest try looking into it and you would never be lost in your new adventure in pregnancy.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Hi drkim, Just enjoy the moment and in preparation you can read books or search online about the best tips on pregnancy stage and the day you will deliver the baby...Just eat healthy food of course and avoid stressing yourself since it will affect the child.. Be happy and be always positive! I have no experience yet but hope any experienced mother here will be providing you with their personal experiences!
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• United States
13 Jul 08
Thank you!! I hope so to. I plan on reading alot, and staying positive. The stress part I will have to find a way to get away from it.
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@irishmist (3814)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Congrats!!! on the upcoming baby. I think that is is wonderful that your hubby is so excited, some guys out there dont't care one way or the other. As far as knowing what to expect, well we new really know what to expect when being pregnant. I would talk to your doctor as well as family and friends. Are you hoping for a boy or a girl?
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• United States
13 Jul 08
thank you so much!!! I am hoping for a healthy baby I really have no prefence on the gender of the baby. Although my family could use some more boys, I will be happy as long as the baby is healthy.
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• United States
16 Jul 08
Congratulations on being pregnant! It is one of the most fantastic feelings in the world. When I was first pregnant my husband too was off the charts excited- but he was also off the charts cautious watching my every move, everything I put into my mouth. He was looking out for the well being of the baby and it was wonderful. I was driven nuts by his constant attention but I found the more reading material I found about being pregnant the more he would read that and the less he would be over my shoulder. The reading material helped him realize that most pregnancies proceed just fine and normally and there is rarely anything to worry about as long as you follow your doctors orders. Good luck to you. Hope your baby is healthy and brings you all the happiness you want!!
@SViswan (12051)
• India
22 Aug 08
Congratulations! I'm a bit late because I had my notify off. I'm sure you and your husband are VERY excited. Each child is different and each parent is different. Besides the basics of taking care of a child, everything else is learnt from experience....trust me, I have two of my own...and I know others on myLot who have more of their own.
@kareng (54680)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Congratulations! Get ready to be tired, the first trimester drains you because of the big adjustment to your body and hormones. You may find yourself emotional and crying for no reason. Oh course you will have an increased appetite later on, but just remember to eat small amounts often to keep your metabolism evened out.
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@gigarange (1165)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Congratulations! that's so exciting. My husband and I are trying to conceive and hopefully, I'd get pregnant soon too. If you'd like to learn more parenting tips, pregnancy and baby tips, you might want to join babycenter.com. I'm a member there even though we're still trying to conceive because I enjoyed the great tips and free tools you can use in your pregnancy journey. Aside from that, the community is really nice. You get to connect with other pregnant women and learn from each other's experiences. Good luck and enjoy your journey to motherhood.
• United States
15 Jul 08
Congrats drkimble! You are super blessed to have a daddy to be who is so engaged and excited! It's still not quite "real" to my hubby. But I know that the day the lightbulb comes on, whether its the day he feels the baby kick him in the night, or the day he holds this creation in his arms, it's going to completely rock his world! Anyway, there are some great websites for you to register at to let you and daddy know what to expect. I love www.pregnancy.org, www.babycenter.com, and www.whattoexpect.com!
@schulzie (4061)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Baby - Cute picture of little baby
Congratulations! Enjoy yourself during pregnancy. Let others do things to help you. And try not to worry about things, just try to take everything in stride. All pregnancies are different - even for the same woman. I have 4 kids and each time was different. I think it is wonderful that your husband is so excited about the pregnancy too. There will be many prenatal visits, especially towards the end of your pregnancy. Get all the rest you can now because you will need it when your new baby shows up!Congratulations again!
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
16 Jul 08
I've got 5 kids, been pregnant 4 times (a set of twins in there). Even during my last pregnancy I still had questions! To be honest there is really nothing that can prepare you for what you're going to go through... and it won't end.... EVER!! Even once the pregnancy is over, there will be sleepless nights, midnight feedings, stress out the wazoo... and it never stops. Not even when the child leaves home. My advice: Enjoy your last few months of being a free woman! After the baby is born "me time" will be non-existant. During your pregnancy.. BE PATIENT!!! So many women near the end of their pregnancy and start begging for ways to put themselves into labor. Nothing works! Trust me, been there, done that. Both my last 2 were a week late, one was induced by the docs. For the next 9 months, stop caring about how you look! Everything is going to get fat, including your feet! Yes it's a pain, but if you try too hard not to gain too much weight, you may make the baby suffer. Don't go overboard and gain 100 lbs like I did (still haven't lost the last 50), and make sure to get some excersize. Walking is great!! It's a good excersize that doesn't strain you much, and it tones your muscles in preparation for labor. Use cream on your tummy every day, or even twice a day. Cocoa butter is great. It will keep the stretch marks at a minimum. I did not do this as much as I should have, now I'm wishing I did :( As far as your husband goes... just let him be excited. Most men care very little about a woman's pregnancy, to the point where women begin to wonder if he'll even be interested in the child. You're lucky that yours is so excited already.
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Congradulations. When I was pregnant I signed up for this free website www.parenting.com and it told me month by month how my body was changing and what to expect. It was my guide!
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I am not married and do not have a baby but congratulations to you. It is a blessing no matter what. You seem very happy. :)
@alexsis (2149)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Congrats! A baby is a wonderful blessing. I was so excited when I found out I was pregnant. I had all kinds of books that lets you know what the baby is doing and how big it is. Well, one thing to expect is morning sickness. I had morning sickness through out my whole pregnancy. And eat healthy and don't drink and smoke. Being pregnant is such a wonderful experience. It is so amazing how someone can be developing in your stomach. I'm here for you have you have any other questions.
@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Congratulations you have a good reason to be so excited and so does your husband. Let him be excited it will wear off later on. Enjoy every minute of your pregnancy b/c it goes by fast and then you will have a little one who will need your attention all the time. Ask as many questions as you need. I would write down questions to ask my dr and do alot of research on the internet. I also loved watching those baby shows on TLC and Discovery channel. Kids are great and you can be a kid with them which makes it even greater even though at times you have to be a mean parent and put them in time out lol. Like I said enjoy those 8 months that you have left and relax alot.
• United States
14 Jul 08
Congratulations! I'm very happy for you. I know that your hubby will probably get on your nerves even more as your pregnancy continues, but please be patient. Think of how lucky you are to have such a loving husband who is so excited about having this baby. I had my first on my own without much help. My daughter's father didn't come into her life until 7 years later. And when I thought he was going to help me out and make life easier and better for my daughter, he did the complete opposite. Enjoy this time and everything that goes along with it. Go to a local bookstore and buy a couple of books about pregnancy and what to expect. I don't regret having my daughter at all and enjoyed almost every minute of it. She is my miracle and I smile whenever I see her. I can't wait to have another (if it is possible for me) and another.
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
Hi congratulations! That's a great feeling any woman could have. I had the same feeling when i got pregnant three years ago...the moment i felt something was moving inside my tummy i felt very excited at the same time anxious. Since you're a first time mom, don't be afraid and get tired of asking questions especially if you really don't know what to do. Seek medical advice as often. And, take good care of yourself. It will be quite difficult during your first trimester but don't worry, it's normal. Actually, the pregnancy is not that easy especially if there's no one on your side to guide you...and to support you...I hope and as you mention you're husband is there supporting you...he's even excited. it's good to know that. just enjoy the pregnancy!
@Rzelikman (141)
• United States
14 Jul 08
that is great that your husband is acting with so much excitment. My husband did even realize anything until he saw me at around 5 months with a belly. It just didn't sink into him that well in the beginning. When you are pregnant you also get treated extra special so take advantage of it TRUST ME!! Also since you are carrying your 1st they say that you can hide it really well until about 4 months, meaning your belly might not show as much until then . I didn't gain any wight or strarted showing until i hit the 4 month mark. It very exciting to go the ultrasounds also knows as the sonograms. Make sure you ask for pictures for memories. Good luck and eat a lot of dairy, its good for the baby especially drinking milk.
• United States
14 Jul 08
Congratulations! I wish that I could give you advice, but I haven't been so fortunate yet.