Does your significant other or spouse do this?? (subject - cleaning)
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
July 14, 2008 11:33pm CST
Do you ever let a room you spend a lot of time in kind of unravel and get cluttered, books and toys migrate in there, clothing strewn about and not put away, papers or magazines not picked up, shoes on the floor in piles instead of in the closet or a bin by the door?Does your significant other or spouse wander into the room, trip over something, and then complain about the state of the room - without doing anything to help the situation? This happened to me last night. Today I spent some time cleaning up but I'm not done. It irked me - he was right, but it still irks me. What do you do?
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13 responses
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
Oh, your husband reminds me of my husband mommyboo. He is totally like that. He likes to clutter things and then complain. But when he sees me staring at him, he cleans his clutter. LOL. (he gets nervous when I look at him like that. lol) Happy postings! HUGZ!
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
3 Aug 08
Mine doesn't complain much. In fact, sometimes no incidents happen for like months! The problem is that when he actually complains, it's usually compounded because I'm already at my wits end about the mess, and it doesn't help for him to MENTION it when I'm already irritated about the fact that nobody helps me clean it lol. He seems to think he's being helpful by telling me something I don't already know.
@Virgie60 (556)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Yep, you just mentioned our house :)!! I am forever cleaning but still there are times when I am tired and figure what the heck I'll wait till tomorrow to clean that and then hubby comes in and tells me the obvious that the room needs cleaning. I hate it when he tells me that cause I do have eyes and can see that it is a mess. And yes he hardly ever does anything to help with the cleaning. But then sometimes I really don't want him to as he is a perfectionist. It takes him 2 hours to vacuum one room!!!
Cleaning is never ending. I should know as I work as a janitor at several places. So I can never escape cleaning!!!!
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
3 Aug 08
Ugh, mylot ate my post. I hate it when anybody who lives in my house with me acts like *I* am the one who doesn't notice a mess. I notice every mess, but if it's not mine, then I am not going to clean it. My family knows that the rules in this house are 'you made it, you clean it'. My husband gets away with not following this a lot, probably because he's my husband, but my kids don't get away with anything. One time I didn't say anything about the trash for five days. The can got full and the recycling bin got full and people started piling things on the floor and around it. Finally I exploded because my older daughter had the NERVE to say - hey mom, when were you planning to take that stuff out? It's all over the floor! GRRRRR. I told her that she or her brother should have taken it out LONG before anybody put ANYTHING on the floor, and they shouldn't say anything to me, I knew it was there, I was wondering how long they were all going to ignore it!
well nope ..if ever he will have the time he himself will pick those mess and never complain to me..and usually every morning he is the one who fold our blanket and everything..@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
3 Aug 08
That's nice of him! Mine goes through cycles, sometimes he will pick things up, other times he does nothing yet complains. I never know what it's going to be though, sometimes he is good for MONTHS, then suddenly, just when I finally need help - then I don't get it.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
2 Aug 08
I know what you mean. We usually work as a team in our house, each one that is available at the time doing what needs to be done. However at times this has happened to me too. Hubby helping to make the mess, leave it out and them complain.
Thankfully those instances are rare even though the kids can be pretty messy, leaving things here and there all over the house, stepping over things on the floor without picking them up etc.
But yes, I have had hubby coming like that and like you, although I admitted that he was right - in general - I wasn't too happy about it either.
@Matthammer (385)
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16 Jul 08
Sometimes its easy to let the cleaning slip a bit, but i generally get on to it. My gf can clean when she's in the mood to do it, but i'm generally the more tidy as i can get into a cleaning run alot easier hehe.
@jojuana (311)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 08
I'm the messy one but gladly i do not live with my boyfriend, he's a clean freak,he cleans his house from top to bottom,when ever i visit my shoes would be all over the place but his would be neatly put away. but i try my best not to mess up things though.
@gemini_rose (16264)
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15 Jul 08
Yes I do and yes he does! It irks me too, but nothing gets done and it is not just me that makes the mess yet I end up feeling guilty and lazy. But, I will get round to tidying it in my own sweet time and not when anyone else points it out!
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
15 Jul 08
My husband does nit pick more so than I do, but he is also the one who makes the bed each morning and does the dishes each night.. I have my own duties but he does do his share, so when he complains, I usually tell him to either wait until I get time to do it or do it himself.. He does help, so I can't complain very much about this subject..
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
15 Jul 08
well im the clean freak (when i feel up to it) and hubby is the slobby one so he doesnt complain lol i do
@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
15 Jul 08
If my hubby does not like the clutter and mess he better pick up before he opens his mouth. I have a 2yr old at home and it is impossiable to keep all the toys picked up. kids or just being kids and what kinda childhood would they have if everything had to be in a certain spot. Tell him help clean it up!
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I get irritated too, but these days don't say much. Lost my job a few weeks back so I'm home now. Have plenty of time to clean whereas he works every day. So if the place is messy I usually blame myself. Besides, I'm lucky, my guy never says a thing about the state of the house. He knows I have good days and bad days and sometimes they can string out for weeks.
@soooobored (1184)
• United States
15 Jul 08
My boyfriend isn't so bad, but he will never initiate cleaning on his own (except for, I'm not kidding, special occasions like Valentines Day). If we are sitting there eating dinner and he finishes, he will walk into the kitchen to grab something and NOT bring in his dirty dishes! I could strangle him...
BUT he is such a trooper whenever I tell him we are going to clean, and he will do the jobs I hate doing. So I can't complain, he will always help, never complain about any of it, and occasionally DOES attempt to clean!
@riverfolk (59)
• United States
15 Jul 08
First of all, my husband doesn't complain unless he's going to help fix the problem--very rarely. He knows that I work hard here at home as well and not EVERYTHING is going to be done or stay done at one time--ever.
However, it is a Murphy's Law thing or something--whatever room or tidy up chore I didn't get to no a particular day will be the one he trips in or something he needs done lol. For example, if I didn't get to the laundry, he'll be looking for a particular shirt--not on purpose LOL but it just happens that way sometimes.
If you're the stay at home mom, the house is your realm by default--however, if you n need help, have a talk with him and say so. Do it together, make it a positive thing.
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