after marriage

Well i have always said that marriage is a commitment not a jail sentence..Even if you are married you should still be your own person..You will have certain responsibilities as a married person but you should also have your own thoughts and rule your own life..There should be trust between you and your spouse and if you want to visit a friend or go shopping you should be free to do that,as long as it does not interfer with you and your hubby as a couple...I do not feel that getting married should end your freedom,its not a prison....I would suggest that you talk with your husband and tell him how you feel..Each of you will be partners ,one should not rule over the other ,you should walk together in unity..The only thing you must remember is whatever you do just consider your partners feelings ....If i do not have plans with my husband and i have free time i will tell him i want to visit a friend and i go,no problem...If we do not have anything planned then there is no harm in me going...There is always ajustments to be made with both you and your husband but with patience and love all can be worked out...Its like two people becoming as one with respect for each others feelings.....I do hope you both will be happy.Marriage can be hard in the beginning but it will be fine after a while....

well of course when you get married you're gonna be sharing everything to that person you'll marry. Even your own freedom I guess. You should prepare yourself for that, cause when you get married you'll be having a lot of responsibilities and you're gonna be sharing practically everything with your wife/husband

I feel very sad you think that. I have been married 40 years and make my own choices. Do I consult my husband , yes but I still make the decision unless it is something that will seriously affect the both of us, and then we discuss it fairly.

If you're already sure your future marriage will cause you to lose your freedom, maybe you should consider not getting married! If you have a well-balanced, open relationship with your husband, your life should be as free as before. Sure, you'll have to discuss how to spend your Christmas bonus, rather than blowing it all on fancy underwear, new shoes, electronics, whatever, but my committed relationship has offered me a lot more freedom than when I was single. We discussed money, kids, friends, trips, etc. before we established a legal bond, so there were no surprised or shocks when he was a bit hesitant to go do something or when I asked him to go out alone with his friend. Maybe talking with your future spouse NOW would help assuage some of your fears?

ohhh.. no.. itys not like that what you think.. maybe their are things myt change but not too much, being to =gether to the someone means alot for u is a very special thing.. Gudluck poh^^

I don't think marriage changes anything, after all only your name gets changed, if you want it to change, but your still with the one person in the whole world that you love. you both love each other, and now you have rings as symbols of your love, thats all that changes.

There are a lot of things that will change in your life. That is true freedom is lost but with you love one beside you to be with you always is something that is more precious than the freedom you're enjoying right now. It should weigh more than the freedom you are in right now. If that is not what you feel and you still value the freedom you are enjoying right now better not go into marriage. You go into marriage because you love the person and the personal freedom you have is irrelevant to the choice you would be making in two months time. It needs more commitment in your partner, maturity, and most of all love and attention is needed. If you can live with that then proceed with your plans of getting married.

If you have your Real Love by your side you do not have to compromise anything! Now if start already with compromises in the future will be a problem. I hope is not you!