Can a friend be a lover?

India
July 22, 2008 1:41am CST
I have had many friends out of which I have never fallen in love with someone, but now when I met a friend of mine at a call center sh is 10 years elder to me, I am in love with her and she is too, we are carrying from past 2 years, I want to know can love change your beliefs, stategies, dstinations. A friend who is lover is the best one, Because she was my best friend.
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11 responses
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Yes. There are some friends who eventually become lovers. Their beliefs and other stuffs sometimes change depending on how they handle their relationships.
• India
22 Jul 08
Hey thanks for good response.
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• Philippines
22 Jul 08
You're welcome.
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• United States
22 Jul 08
Yes they can. It may seem rare but I think it happens more often than we think. It's also cool to be friends first. That's because the person seems to know you better than most of your other friends. I think that I'd rather start off as friends first to see where the relationship leads.
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@mstriguna (418)
• India
22 Jul 08
Yeah I agree with you mate. Even my love was and is my best friend and I believe if your best friend is your partner then your life will be the sweetest. :) But all friends cant be lover. I believe in loving only once in life and marrying the same girl thats what I did in my life. :) cheers. Welcome to lovers family :) Happy loving. :) :) Triguna M S
• India
22 Jul 08
Hey dude you and me have same thinking, I loved the one which I have mentioned and I am going to marry her although she is 10 years elder to me. I have planned studies according to the relationship so I get setteled very soon and that too to great extent. Cool man, Lots of Luck to you, Happy lovers family
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• India
22 Jul 08
:) Thats really nice of you. Actually my partner is 2 years elder to me. :) Thanks for sharing your feelings. :)
• United States
22 Jul 08
Yes they can.. will it change the friendship for the worse is the better question. I have a friend who is almost 20 years older than me and we worked together and had a great working relationship and an out of work friendship. I was married at the time, so there was nothing else but the friendship. She eventually moved out of state and I got divorced. She recently came back to the area to visit and we hooked up for a night on the town and we ended up sleeping together. It was very nice and didnt change our friendship at all, but I think if she moved back here and wanted to start a relationship, I would be opposed as I would not want to jepordize our friends first stance we have.
@acmomcee (49)
22 Jul 08
Yes it's possible. My 1st BF ( I only had 2) was my bestfriend. But unfortunately, we didn't end up together. However, before we separated ways, we have talked about our past and that just accepted that we were not meant to be together. We can retain the friendship, but chose not to since I will have my family already that time and I know it'll be unfair for my hubby. So we ended the relationship sealing the friendship and all the memories behind. But it is really good. Friends then lovers.
• China
22 Jul 08
To my own ,I think so!
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Of course, friends can definitely be lovers! Actually, that's what we all should look for -- a lover and a friend in one. Because when we all get old, the one think we need is actually someone we can talk to, and if we're lucky to be married with our best friend, even if all the kids live their own lives and we are left in that rocking chair, life is still sweet because we have a friend as our spouse.
• United States
22 Jul 08
Really, I believe that true frieds make the best lovers. When the "honeymoon" phase is over (and I think it comes and goes) it is the friendship that will carry you through. I think it is great! I would rather be in a relationship with a trusted friend than anyone else.
@debjit (339)
• India
22 Jul 08
There's every possibility to turn a friend into a lover. I believe, everything is destined from before. If it is written you can not help in falling in love with your friend. Love is the most unpredictable thing on earth. There can not be a question like this - "Why did you fall in love with this person?".. Most importantly, making a relationship with a friend is not so uncommon or unpredictable. As good buddies know each other very well, they share their thoughts and understands each other well. This can be a way to Love infact. Finally, I'll say that you can not love someone intentionally, Love will occur to you.
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Wow that's very nice! Having both your lover as your best friend is really very inspiring.
• India
22 Jul 08
yeah, a friend can be a lover