Help me get this guy!

India
July 23, 2008 5:25am CST
So this amazing guy found me on a networking site and we have been mailing each other from a week or so. He's everything I want - smart, good looking, funny, passionate. The thing is, I don't know how to approach him. Sure he's single but I don't know if he's looking for a relationship and cant ask him directly because I don't want to risk the friendship. The other day, I sent him a mail which carried my phone number in the signature part. I thought he'd pick it up and call/message me but he didn't. This caused a serious step back and I'm pretty down. Does anyone have any idea as to how I can go about this guy?
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8 responses
@heart4u (409)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
let the guy do the first move its not good if you would show to the guy that you like him unless he already told you he like you
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 08
But if you let the guy make the first move, it might never happen. Like i said below, i made the first move, if i hadnt, im pretty sure mark wouldnt have said anything or done anything, and i'd probably still be stuck in my abusive relationship with no way out.
• India
23 Jul 08
I agree with you both. So confusing..
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
[b]I wouldn't suggest on you to play the game, he loves me...he loves me not. To be honest, maybe he doesn't like you the way you like him. He's not stupid about that phone number you inserted in your e-mail. He knows what it means. Maybe he wants you to be his friend. Let him be. Then work your way up in to his heart, you know the ways and means. Go girl, and good luck.[/b]
• India
23 Jul 08
:-( I guess so.. somehow the world falls short of good guys when I'm single.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I would first want to know if he is all the things that you think he is or has presented to you on the net. How do you know? I have friends that have had good relationships that started on the net. But I have many more friends that met online and when they finally met in person, it was a totally different person both physically and personality. So I would suggest if at all possible meet the real person in person before you go head over hills and decide that he is such an amazing guy. Also you have to know that some people are ONLY interested in communicating on the net...thats it. The internet is the one place that you can be anybody that you wanna be and nobody knows who sits on the other side of cyberworld. P.S. there are also alot of scammer guys out there that woo woman in networld, that come off as mr. wonderfuls for a couple of weeks and then they start asking for money etc. so beware...
@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
26 Jul 08
Patience. This friendship is only a week old. When mailing to him, ask him questions about himself, his work , his life, his car, etc. That is one way to let him know you are interested in him.
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
Hey, what kind of man he is? Blind or stone?. I remember someone. LOL.Well do he seems really friendly. And I want to ask you do you really really like him. Wait for him to make a move, it will take a week give term. You study him and i think he will study you too. I am sure he sees the phone number but thinking really seriously this time like you do. Wait for him be patient, that man should make a move. He will call you soon don't be messed up by that. And please update me of what will be happening I want to know if I am right.
• United States
23 Jul 08
You have to fall back cursedsoul ( um, why is your name cursedsoul?)ok , back to the matter at hand. You cannot be too forceful with men because they will get nervous and start to retrete. Just because he hasn't called you doesn't mean he isn't interested and as a matter of fact, when he emails you, don't be so quick to respond to him because then you will seem anxious. Just relax! Take care and God Bless!!
@Kemboi (341)
• Eldoret, Kenya
23 Jul 08
Thank you for finding a loved guy in the net. You need to evaluate yourselve remember you have not met face to face and eat together, work around together, talk together so that you will be able to know his likes and dislikes remember it has been said don't charge a book by its cover okay. Stop thinking emotionally and come out be real you and take the risk tell the guy you fallen in love with him. Because there is no man can refuse any relationship. May be he is fearing to tell you because of your personalities and the background you come from. With me as a man I used to dear any girls who comes from the rich families. So be watchfull and take care.
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 08
My current boyfriend i met online. However he needed to be told, apprently he liked me too but he didnt say anything because it's more unrealistic to get with someone over the net. (Thats not how i thought though). I was in a bad relationship at the time (where i was being emotionally abused), and i was ready to end it. When Mark (My current) asked me how my life was- or whatever. I told him it was fine until i hit my road-block a few weeks back. (Basically saying he was my road-block) obviously not in a bad way. He told me not to say anything more because it would ruin our perfect friendship. From there on, it felt awkward when i spoke to him, but me- being stupid and open, just admitted that i was falling for him and thankfully he felt the same way... The thing is, you need to choose between... Risking the friendship but possibly gaining him as a partner. Or, Stand by and just be his friend, obolish what you feel and get over it. I personally would risk it, i knew from the moment i met Mark, that i needed to be more then just a friend. That saying 'Just a friend' hurts- and thats a pain you might never beable to get over. Good luck, i hope you find love :)