Am I an idiot for not accepting friends requests?

United States
July 25, 2008 9:01pm CST
I admit, I keep my Mylot Friends list short and small. I am wondering, is this stupid???I try to get to know my friends and concentrate on their discussions. Is this a bad strategy? It often takes me 3- 4 months to reach payout. I'm starting to think my discussions aren't reaching a very large audience. LOL SO... should I start accepting every random friends request I get? How does that work for you?
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@mimico (3618)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
Well it's your choice really whether to accept invitations or not. If your goal isn't to make money and not so much on socializing then there's no point worrying about rejecting friends who try to add you up. But you should be aware that having more friends means an increased number of responses to your posts since there is a tab here that links to discussions your friends started. I personally believe that it's impossible to make friends through an social network site such as myLot, so I only add friends for the money and for the sake of having 'friends.' I don't think I lose anything by adding friends, so why not? :)
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@movicont (495)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I think it's better to friend someone who you've actually gotten to know (somewhat) than to just accept random ones. That way, your friends list will be shorter and you can better concentrate on the ones in the list. I tend to accept friend requests if I've had an interesting conversation with them that I might want to continue in the future. That's basically my criteria.
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@ladym33 (10990)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I don't see why you shouldn't accept more friends. I think some people don't because they don't want a large list of people to go through their discussions all the time, but that is actually how I choose discussions, I go to Discussions My Friends Have Started. So if there are a lot of people like me you are missing out on that. But it is really up to you how you like to do it. In case you didn't know I heard smileys give you more points too!
26 Jul 08
listen i guess u have to get more friends , not just as strategy but after all u have to know more ppl , not if u wanne to earn even u have to deal with ur profile as its way to talk and talk say what ever u need and take more and more friends ,, dts what i think any way
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I don't understand limiting friends. Does one say - in real life - sorry, I have enough friends, so I don't want any more??? I don't think most of us do. And yet people do that on sites such as this. I was amazed when I came here and discovered that people not only limited friends but they also would not accept friendship for anyone who had not posted 100 or 500 (depending on the individual) posts. Strange to me. I've been on many sites over the years where I was known as the unofficial greeter - finding newbies and welcoming them. Here, people make fun of newbies and their attempts at discussions. Again, I don't understand. I don't have as many friends here as I would like, but that's because of the attitudes I encountered about that when I began. At another similar site, I have over 900 friends. No, I cannot keep up with everything each one posts. But having that many contacts means that most things I write there will get at least 30 comments. That's lots more than I'll probably ever get here.
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• United States
26 Jul 08
I agree with what you are saying, kenzie. But in real life- and on Mylot- I could never keep up with 900 friends. So what is the point of adding someone as a Friend if they never respond to any of my discussions and I never respond to theirs? How is that really a friend? But I do see that I have been limiting myself because my discussions don't always get a lot of comments. This one sure is, though!
@momalisa65 (1983)
• United States
26 Jul 08
That's the way I look at it. The more friends you have, the more people see your discussions. Also, I put all my friends on Notify so I get an email telling me they started a discussion, so I never miss out on their discussions either. If that gets to be too many emails, I can always change the settings and stop the notifications. At least they will all still be my friends and they'll be responding to my discussions.
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• United States
26 Jul 08
VERY smart strategy, momalisa. I like it!
• United States
26 Jul 08
do what you want to do. i sometimes look at friends discussions and comment if i can. buy many times i can't. you go with what you can talk about. we are all one big happy family. talk where you can and where you want to.
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• United States
26 Jul 08
I used to have the same avatar as you.
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
26 Jul 08
i dont know what do i call for it but you are not an idiot for not accepting friends request coz sometimes they dont cooperate your topics.the one who cooperate is the one who are not in our list but so far i have nice friends i did add lately they are nice to me.
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@chrisone (99)
• Belgium
26 Jul 08
hey i'm not a just random friend accepter just like you so relax ;):) a friend is not smth like a raggdoll ins't it ;):) yours trully chrisone
• United States
26 Jul 08
I agree with you. Just as if in person I like to have things in common.No, that is not a bad approach!I dont accept all frie requests either. I like to check their profile first.I check on their discussions and responses and try to find similarities to mine. I dont even know, or have ever tried to know f it will afect my payout hmmm does it? It wouldnt change the way I accept friends anyway., you are not alone! Also,if I have o many I might not be able to keep track andforget who is who.
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@bizmom24 (163)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I have only 1 friend on here, of course I'm still a newbie so, I'm just posting to discussions and then will work on getting friends, don't know too many people here, I ran across this by a friend so between that I'm just taking it one day at a time. so between being a stay mome mom with 4 kids and work from home and all the activities I do, I only get on a few moments out of a day, my kids are always on. so I just take it day by day*Ü* Bizmom24
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• Brazil
26 Jul 08
i've tried to answer here but the last time my net has disconnected xD so lets try it right now. =p i'm newer here and do not know if you earn more or less by writing responses for you friends or no. but i believe you should give a chance for everyone and see if it can truly be you friends or if it just want you as friend to earn more money. this is my view about the discussion but you could.. should do what you want to do. want to accept them? so accept if you do not want just refuse. thanks, Scorpionok
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@metschica25 (5405)
• United States
26 Jul 08
Hello I have a little over 100 friends and I know some much better , and am getting to know some others outside of the lot too . I suppose having a bigger friends list helps, because I always check out their post first , and many of mine answer my post , and that helps too . I dont think I want a huge amount too , be too confusing . so i will never go over like 200
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@gemini_rose (16257)
26 Jul 08
The good thing about keeping your friends lists small is that you will not get over run with discussions, I have quite a lot of active friends and some days I know that there is no way I am going to get through them all. Plus you are getting to know a few friends really well, yes your discussions will reach a wider audience but then you have to think of all the time it takes to respond to them all. It takes me forever sometimes and I cannot get around to everyone quickly enough, so no I do not think that your strategy is a bad one!
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@jmarquis (28)
• United States
26 Jul 08
I actually don't have any friends on here yet, but that could be because I just joined yesterday. However, I am the same way on Facebook and Myspace. Almost everybody on my friends lists, I know in person.
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@Scarrlet (168)
• Ukraine
26 Jul 08
I keep the same strategy as you are too. But as you can see i've been on mylot for a rather short period of time, and so i need to learn too. That's why i am also in this discussion to find out what are the experiences of others. i keep my list short for now, and though a big number of friends may result in higher earnings i still concentrate on the quality of my discussions more. I appreciate when friends keep adding me because they like my responses, and i think that this is a good way to earn mylot reputation. However, i also would not deny a friend request, but rather keep limited my own pending requests. We should still remember to appreciate all people who are interested in our profiles and discussions.
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
It's really your choice if you want to have more friends here or not. But if you want your discussions to be well responded to, try to add some friends and turn their notifications on. As for me, I haven't denied any friends' request. Those friends that I have right now are the ones who supports me by contributing to every discussions that I start. Keep posting! HUGZ!
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@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 08
I think it's nothing to wrong to accept random friends request. It's not harmful to get to know more people in Mylot since everyone is sharing the same interest. Maybe you should try out something new to earn more or make your discussions more attractive and interesting to gain more responses.I think it's not stupid for not accepting friend requests. It's fine if you prefer to be in that way. Be yourself. Cheers. Happy posting.
• United States
26 Jul 08
chat it up - Picture of a blonde girl talking on the cell phone wearing khaki petticoat, backdrop of the city
I am doing the same thing as you and just eliminating a couple people today that I found we have no common interest together and they do not contribute to my discussion like I do theirs, while I dont demand people to make comments to me--i love an interesting discussion regardless, it still is just another person taking room on my list and I want my list to be people with similar interest but I do think it doesnt always work that way and theres days I just want to have random discussions with people so I add people that are just happy to talk to me.
@KrauseHome (36733)
• United States
26 Jul 08
Well, personally for me, I never limit myself when it comes to Friends on here. I feel Friends is an important part of this site, and how can you not learn about someone or something unless you choose to make New friends on here as well. And since not everyone will ever respond back to all of your discussions, why limit yourself as well. I am not saying I always accept everyone that requests to be my friend in here as well. I am one who feels you need to sometimes be a little doubtful unless they post on a lot of topics you will agree back on as well. As many people come and go in here all the time, being cautious sometimes can be the way to go as well. But it is all up to you as well.
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