Is Laziness In The Genes?

Oh that's cute.

By spoiling any child, whether male or female, you really aren't doing them any favors.

Yes, boredom can keep me from doing chores. I agree that it is a learned behavior.

I agree.

I also feel that it can be a form of rebellion.

There are a lot of men who still think that way and it is a shame. Just beside he works outside, does not mean that he can not help around the house a little.

You don't think you are being a little harsh?

I did that very thing a couple of hours ago. I finished my laundry and it is still sitting in the basket. My main problem is that I feel that there are not enough hours in the day to do all that I want to do. I am always doing something, I just need to prioritize better and focus more on the things that can not be put off.

I keep my place clean enough. I just have books and papers in a lot of different places. I can deal with messy, but not nasty.

Sounds like you might be tired, not lazy. We all need a day or two off.

I have a niece who is extremely lazy and her parents have to fight tooth and nail, everytime they want her to do something. She is 21 now, has a two year old, still at home, and I think my sister has pretty much given up now. Her 15 year old triplets are very hard workers though.

I believe that your soon will do better as he gets older and wiser. I believe that there are some chores that we all like to do better than others. I love to wash dishes, but I can not stand to empty the sink when it is full of dirty dishes with food all over them. I love to vacuum, but I hate taking the vacuum out and setting it up. Just like I love to wash, but can not stand to put my clothes away.

Your username says it all, though I totally understand where you are coming from.

I do not believe it is a gene thing either.

I'm not a genetics expert but doesn't genetics give a pre-disposition to something that is passed on by the parents? Genetics and learned behavior carry similarities. Definitely children are going to be molded by the bahavior of parents and their environment at large. I am using my own experience in answering your question also. It's so interesting how we say "I will never do what my parents do." I have worked like a savvy for many years. I know I picked up these traits from my mother who picked it up from her mother. My father, though he did work fairly hard in the area of salary at a job, his usefullness around the house left allot to be desired and on the whole you can really see the laziness streak inside him. I personally can be pulled into the desire to be self indulgent and lazy. Yet it's not learned, it's a desire from inside me. I think the learned aspect comes when parents don't discipline their children to take responsibility for everyday things. Can be little things like doing dishes, cleaning their room, taking out garbage, mowing the lawn. Something has happened in the last 2 generations whereby parents are copping out in the discipline stakes. Children are getting away with everything and the result is complacency and laziness. Yeah, in this regard it's learned behaviour. Take the above scenarios out of the picture, say parents did give children that responsibility and the children did learn to take responsibility and look after their needs, there is still a genetic component to personality traits, one of which is laziness. This is an interesting subject and it takes indepth observation to see what's at play in behavioral patterns.

You don't think it is more of a learned behavior?

I completely agree with you.

I know that for me, a lot of times I will say that I do not feel like doing something. I may go and work on something different, but for instance, folding and hanging up clothes is just so boring to me. I thought that if the parents were active, the children would automatically learn to do what their parents are more likely to do. I agree with you in that I believe it is more of a learned behavior.

Although I do not have children, I understand where you are coming from. Hang in there and pray, everything will be alright.

Do you think you could have learned it from your father?

Congratulations Opal26, I am very happy for you. God bless you.

I can to start movating myself to do everything completely, instead of half doing it and then deciding that I do not feel like doing the rest. For instance, I do not feel that the laundry is complete until it is put away properly.