do you have to be in a relationship to be happy?

@jhl930 (3601)
United States
July 31, 2008 1:16pm CST
i personally like being in a relationship because i have someone there and its a lot of fun to be in a relationship because you are taking chances and learning about each other and learning things that you didn't know before, so for me i would have to say that i can be happy with out a relationship but i would rather be in a relationship..but i have heard of some people that said that they are much happier when they aren't in a relationship because things are more simple then, but i guess that its just each others own choices as to what we want and none of us can really fairly say that you are right or wrong for what you want and what makes you happy...so what about you, do you have to be in a relationship to be happy? thanks for taking the time out of your day to read my discussion and i hope to get some answers and have a great day today!
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31 responses
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
somehow, being in a relationship would make one happy. but we should not really depend on that for all the time. we can be happy on our own, or when we are alone like watching a funny movie.. but it is totally different when we are with someone or somebody.. i agree with you.. having friends means being in a relationship too. and surely it makes us happy when have them...
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Before I met my husband I was completely independent, had a job, a car and a home of my own, and there were times when I felt pretty lonely even though some of my children still lived at home. There were also times when I was very happy to be on my own, to be able to make my own decisions and do what I wanted, when I wanted to do it. Since meeting my husband I would rather be in a relationship with him than to be alone but I think that happiness for me has to come from within and that I could be happy without him if I had to be.
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
1 Aug 08
i personally don't have to be in a relationship to be happy, i think that as long as i am doing to make myself happy i don't need anyone else but it is always nice to have someone, thanks for replying!
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
one's happiness is not dependent if she/he is in a relationship.. we can always be happy with our family and friends. it's a different feeling if you are in a relationship but happiness is not dependent on it...
@chinaacp (14)
• China
1 Aug 08
i'm very happy in relationship. it's importent for me.i think everyone have to be in relationship.
@bogo27 (51)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Sometimes it is great to be in a relationship other times i enjoy just being a flirt=P its more fun sometimes but other times its just kinda chill to have some1 to hangout with and talk and stuff so its on and off for me whether I'd want to be in a relationship or not. Its all in the moment
@poona_m (336)
• India
1 Aug 08
Its not absolutely necessary to be in a relationship to be happy. I have had times in my life when I was not in any relationship but still I was happy. Its a different matter when you have been in a relationship once. I guess then it might become a necessity to be happy. I have only had one relationship and am still in that very happily so I guess I wont be the right person to comment on the case where once you have been in a relationship and lost it. But I must say the joy of being in a relationship cannot be compared to the joys of being single. the two are totally different and have their own special significance. the freedom and carefree nature of being single has its own fun while caring for someone and before dong anything having a thought about that person gives a different kind of joy.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
1 Aug 08
no, i dont think so. if you are not in a relationship, you can have more fun with friends or hang out more in a group. you dont have to worry about what the other person is doing and you can do your own thing.
@austere (2812)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Not really. I mean I am in a relationship right now and I am very happy because I love my boyfriend and he loves me as much too. But then, it doesn’t really mean that one should be in a relationship to be happy. Being in a relationship wont measure your happiness as a person at all. Being happy is always up to you. Happiness is a matter of perspective, and a matter of choice as well. There are people who opt to be single, because they are happier that way, without commitments and responsibility towards anybody, and there are some who love being in a relationship because they want somebody to love and care for them. Basically, happiness depends on the person. It’s a disposition, an outlook in life. The question is really subjective, only the person who is living his/ her life can tell if she is happier with someone than when she is alone, but then, if I were to answer the question, I think it’s a no.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Man is a social animal and being in a relationship is something everyone desires. I love my family and I am happy the way I am.
@c2k2008 (92)
• Jamaica
1 Aug 08
Unfortunately for me personally yes i am happy when i am in a relationship. Its probably not the best way to go but i've gotten so used to being in a relationship i cant see myself being happy without one.
@glorybel (42)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
i am the kind of person that enjoying having relationship with my partner. Maybe because of his attitude and the way how he handle our relationship. You can be happy in a relationship depends on your feelings and trust to each other!
@msedge (4011)
• United States
1 Aug 08
True happiness comes from within so its up for us what makes us happy.I had been blessed materially.I got all the things that i wanted and i was happy.But the happiness i felt just faded away.It was just temporary.I felt lonely and empty.I realized that it would be nice to have someone whom i share my ups and downs.And always there beside me to comfort me when i am sad.Now i got married and i never been as happy.I could say my family gives me the real happiness that i wanted in my life.
• India
1 Aug 08
I think it is not necessary that to be happy you have to be in a relationship.I been living with my friend from last four years and we still don want to be in relationship yet.Because we feel that after a serious relationship their will be certain limitations on our movement,work.We are very happy without a serious relationship.
@NrgDfenZ (1810)
• Belgium
1 Aug 08
I don't think you need to be in a relationship to be happy.. Although it sometimes can help to be more happy, but it can also make you less happy from time to time (arguments and stuff) But I think you can also be happy with just friends... But I also believe it depends from person to person, for example some persons need love and affection, others don't.. For me I don't need to be in a relationship to be happy, just friends will do for me :)
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I don't HAVE to be in a relationship to be happy. I have been happy living on my own before. I have been in my present relationship for a little over 3 years. I am lucky enough to have met an amazing man, and have been very happy with him. It's actually a different kind of happy, I think. It's having someone to share accomplishments with, having someone to talk things over with and share your thoughts with. It's having someone give you encouragement you when you need it, and give you a compliment when you achieve something. I think it's different, but I don't think you have to be in a relationship to be happy. When I was on my own, it was after a 16 year marriage, and I was happy, I learned to like myself again, and put me first. I think it helped me when I did get into my present relationship.
@ruby222 (4847)
1 Aug 08
Each to there own on this one I think,there are many people who are more than happy to live on their own and do things on their own,and to them it is their way of life,myself im quite happy being a part of a couple,there is someone to share with,someone to care for,and to me that means quite a lot!but there are many feminists now that arent too enamoured with washing mens socks
• India
1 Aug 08
no really who can be the happiest without being in a rwaltion if u know how to enjoy your own company by tht i mean enjoying being with yourself and ofcourse feinds and family..in todays net savvy wotld we can rarely feel alona as we have internet,cell phone to comnuincate whenver and wherever we desire...i m single since 4 years and loving it alot..only time i miss a girlfreinds in when i feel the urge for physical desire or i feel i rwllay need a girl to talk to,to look at and to feel and experince her love and her embrace and many such thing but yeah u can be very happy without one there s no denying to tht
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
I think to each his own.Both ways we can be happy.If you're in a relationship and you complement and help each other become a better person, I think that would make you both happy. If you're alone but you can freely do the things you want and help whomever you want to help, that would also make you happy.
• Sweden
1 Aug 08
For me YES because there someone love you,care for you,your important for his/her life..and what you will do is do the same in return..and also in relationship you are learning a lot and lead to a maturity.I think you can be happy with or with out in relationship,and really up to you to be happy,do what you want,do what makes you happy..Other people select for being alone because maybe they had a bad relationship that why they thinking that it would be better if you are alone..
1 Aug 08
No you dont have to be married to be happy. You could be a swinger all your life and still be happy. You can go out with your mates and still be happy, you can do anything and be happy. Don't worry about it. I'm sure you will have a great finding the right man of your dreams if you want one.