I Am So Missing Out On mylot ..
By zed_k4
@zed_k4 (17589)
Singapore
July 31, 2008 5:40pm CST
Really guys how have you all been doing? I was recuperating from a heart-break. Alright, it's time I come clean with what happened actually. I was getting over a love-lost. Because I am so guilty to be missing out on mylot. I was just 'jammed'.
No excuse for that, but I think I handled it sort of differently. I was going out with this lady in the sales-line, and she was working for Hugo Boss or something. Actually, I told myself over and over again that it's just a date; a few dates actually and nothing more. But I've fallen for her. And I told her the other day; but she has just got this to say, 'I thought we are just friends, and I have made that clear to you as to no strings attached.' I was sad when I heard that. I knew that she made that clear, but I just couldn't help myself falling for her.
No excuse for me missing out on mylot, and I'm so surprised to see so many changes. I was following closely and then this lady had to come by. I suppose guys take a 'shying away' period to recuperate, instead of ladies. Or perhaps we are the same..? But all's good now, I'm trying to move on. It was just a false hope on my part. I should have known better. Are you guys on a heart-break spree like me as well........??????????????? What's new for you guys..I MISS YOU ALL!!!
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43 responses
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Hey, Zed, quit picking on yourself.
Nobody ever has to apologize for feeling what they feel. Our emotions are part of us! Why do you think you should have known better? Although your face isn't in your photo, your appearance shows in your words, and it's all good.
You are clearly a good person. Sensitivity is something American women idolize; how different can women be in other countries.
The time wasn't wasted! You were able to enjoy spending some good times and you made a friend you admire. Enjoy!
I sincerely hope you will find the right partner soon. Until you do, enjoy every moment of the search!
And welcome back to myLot! 
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
4 Aug 08
Hello cobrateacher. By the way, I love that nice yellow flower in your avatar. Is it a rose..? -smiles-
Thanks for your encouragement and support .. I hope that I can be a good person and to remain at it. I will be patient in finding Ms Right. If not now, perhaps someday..
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
4 Aug 08
Zed, it is a yellow rose.
Hang in there. You're certainly worth the time and effort!
Keep in touch.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
31 Jul 08
No hearbreak here I am married to the love of my life, and we're going to stay married until one of us kicks the bucket. A lady from the cae where I am now just go engaged, and everyone in my family is going strong wih their marriages. All is really great here. Sorry for your heartbreak. I hope he ext girl you ind is THE ONE or you!!!
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
4 Aug 08
Hey kite, I think you got things mixed up. If I want to generate money, I can just choose any money-making topics. Unfortunately, I am here to connect with my friends in mylot for my long absence. Sorry to break your bubble there bro. Yea I agree its fortunate that there are lots of choices of girls and lives and also choices for our humility, but unfortunately that we are humans and we have feelings like sad, angry, jealous and many more..:p. Hope you get my priority right here.. have a good day .. :)
@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
1 Aug 08
Welcome back!
I feel sorry for you. It really sucks when we have false hopes about a lady, doesn't it? We start to dream a lot about it, imagine us together and all, and then we see it all going down when they say that it is not going to happen. It is like a stab in the heart, really sucks. I was going through that when I joined myLot, really sad. But don't worry, we all go through it and we all get out of it. There is a world waiting for you, why don't you go for it?
Respectfully,
Munhozmib.
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@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
4 Aug 08
Someday you'll login here and then you will have noticed that you have already forgotten about it. It is going to leave you sooner than you think, just do not expect it to leave at all and it will be gone.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
4 Aug 08
Munhozmib bro, I am inspired by your answer. It makes all of us like flawed and human, LOL. Certainly, because I wasn't able to relate to that feeling at first, but I'm slowly accepting it. I like the stab in the heart part. Thanks for cheering me up.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Hi zed_k4! Sorry to hear that my dear young friend! I have been missing you dear! haha..So, now I know why you have been inactive here lately. You are such a fine young man and I am sure that there will be someone who is just right for you who will come along. Just be patient and enjoy your young life. Nothing much has happened here except for friends disappearing and the new look of mylot. Other than that, everything is still the same except for me being not so much active here too. My laptop needs some repairs and I am just using my husband's pc now that he is still asleep. haha..Good to see you here again my friend.
Take care and God Bless!
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
4 Aug 08
Hi dear friend! Thanks for the kind words. I do wish you a good life and do enjoy your young life. I am positively sure that one day, you will find the right one for you dear. As for my laptop, I think it needs to be replaced. haha..Just glad that you are back here!
lovelots..faith210
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
4 Aug 08
Hello faith. Glad you are still around mylot, I really miss reading your discussions and it's the more greater to be reading your healthy dosage of positive outlooks in life. I like that. Yes, that's the 'major' reason for my inactivity in mylot. But I hope I really can get pass that all and move on. Sorry to hear that other friends are leaving. Hope they come back. Hope you get active back and your laptop with be as healthy as can be.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
31 Jul 08
Hello zed_k4,
\i am so sorry that you were suffering from a heartbreak, I'm afraid that is just part life and growing up, no matter what age you are it still happens I know it happened to me many times but just have to move on and busy yourself and that is the only way to move on so get back to all your friends at Mylot and get posting. You'll be alright I promise.
Tamarafireheart.
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@austere (2812)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Whoow man!! Am sorry to hear that…yikees..nothings more painful than a broken heart..nyahahaha.. just laugh it out man.. she doesn’t deserve you!:) but anyway, I hope I could say something more consoling, but I know you can forget about it.. life’s too short to be sad, if she doesn’t want to be with you, don’t worry, there are plenty of girls who’s secretly dying just to be with you!! Now give me that killer smile!:)
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
7 Aug 08
LOL, boy your laughter is infectious. I find myself mimicking that in my most profound voice, -chuckles- .. that's a real comforting thought to know that there are still many flowers around wanting to be with me...LOL.
You have a way with words, ...voila austere ~ ... muacks!
@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
4 Aug 08
Hi zed,
Sorry to hear that it didn't work out with this lady. But look at this way, it was her lost not your's. She was not ment for you. there is someone out there for you. You just havn't found her. I know it could be heart breaking, and I know how much it hurts. Like my friends would tell me, there are plently of fish in the ocean and you will catch the right one. Well back to mylot. We never know who we are going to fall for. take care.
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@kaleegirl45 (1515)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Good Moring zed,
Thank you. How are you doing? That's frosty, my baby. You take care and have a great day.
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
1 Nov 08
I have periods in my life that I don't participate in mylot. I never feel guilty for
it though. Sometimes my offline life is just too busy or I just don't feel like
talking to anyone so I don't respond to anyone. And that is okay.
So if you are not in the mood to participate then don't. When you are feeling up to
it you will become active again, like you have in this discussion.
I know this discussion is about 4 months old, so how are you feeling these days? Are
you more active here in mylot? Or do you just come and go when you feel like chatting?
I come and go and some days I will post a whole bunch of response and then some days
I can't think of a thing to say.
Alrighty then, talk to you later,
your friend, chris. 
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
2 May 09
Wow, and seven months after I posted my response, you got back to me. So this discussion has been going on for the last 11 months as I was behind about 4 months on posting my response.
Glad to see you back, I read another one of your responses you just posted on one of my discussions, and I was surprised to see you again. I know how you feel about not beeing here for awhile. I don;t participate much anymore but I try to when I can.
See yah, my friend.
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. Hope to see you around more often too and that advice goes out to me as well. 
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
1 May 09
I'm way behind all these replies and apologies, my friend. I'm back and hopefully for good here in mylot. Been missing all these months and now I'm back. I've been active in some other sites which make me all the more guilty because I'm neglecting mylot. But the bigger part is me missing it. I really enjoy reading your answer here. Hope you are still around chrislotz, take care buddy.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
1 Aug 08
Zed dude, boy have I missed you! I thought you'd dropped off the face of the earth! Good to have you back bud.
Now listen. Fall for ME! I PROMISE not to break your heart ok? That way you'll NEVER leave the lot and you'll be much happier! 
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...it's people like you that will make me NOT wanting to leave mylot. Thanks dear..@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
7 Aug 08
You got a deal dude! LOL
Soooooooooo good to see you again. And better late than never, just as long as you always come back!
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@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I'm sorry you had your heart broken Zed. It sucks! And, it can take some time to recuperate! I hope your recovery is speedy and easy but, those two words are rarely applicable to heart break.
Just know that she was just probably not the one for you and, someday you will be glad that she wasn't when you find the one that is right for you!
Here is an old song for you to listen to: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b69LiTM_7k0
If that link doesn't work, type Garth Brooks, Unanswered Prayers into YouTube.com
It is an older song but, it still works to remind us all of why some things just don't work out the way we originally want them to and, sometimes you can look back and be appreciative of the reason they didn't work out in the first place...even though you can't see that reason right now. It will become glaringly apparent to you some day in the future.
Chin up!
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
15 Aug 08
I guess things like this happen all the time, cortjo, but since it's me suffering, I just have to take a 'relaxed' approach to it all. Thanks for the song, I've listened to Garth Brooks track before, and I think he has this amazing and soothing voice. He's a rare singer, but unique and awesome at the same time.
Thanks for that, and I will keep my chin up. And you have given me some nice encouragement to pull through better. Will be looking forward to your discussions soon enough..
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@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
31 Jul 08
No heartbreak right now. A couple of months ago yes. I wasn't really in love but I was enjoying and liking where the relationship was going. Then he had to move for work and we split up because of that. Now he lives in a different state. I saw him on the fourth and we chatted a little during that day. The last time I talked to him was a couple of weeks ago. We still chat on the phone but I am trying not to call him as much because I think it is just making it harder on me.
There will be another girl for you. You just never know when.
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@Remembering1996 (2219)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Hey Zed, welcome back hon, hey I can fully understand what you were going through for you had talked to me prior to this discussion. I knew you had things you needed to sort out. I am sorry to hear about your downfall with this girl and all.
It's good you fineally gave yourself some time to stay by yourself and let things heal for a while. It is good to have you back though I missed ya and hope fully you can come around more often it would be nice. It wasn't the same around here with out you and a few others that just up and left. I'm sure you'll be filled in on that by everyone. Well listen if you ever need to chat you know how to reach me
you've done it befor and just remember that one message I sent ya you said really made a difference. You take care and put a smile on that face of yours.( Hugs)
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
4 Aug 08
If I'm not a guy, I would have surely cried. Your answer is very thoughtful, meaningful and moved me deeply. Really. I won't forget you guys, and I'm sure it will be kind of 'empty' not to have our friends around. I will buck up from this, my friend no worries, I have found the inner strength to move on and will, definitely. By the way, whom amongst our friends that have left the scene of mylot..? Will they be back or are they gone permanently. Thats sad to know.
Thanks buddy. Here's a nice smile for you. And I will try my very best to get over this. In fact, I am already. Coming up..looking forward to your discussions soon..
@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Aug 08
Welcome back to mylot.
Its nice to see you active again here.
In love you dont have to rush things and expect things would turn out on your favor. If you are really serious with the girl, then you should be willing to wait on her and her love.
Maybe you were just in love of the thought of being in love.
Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
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@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
7 Aug 08
I think we have been missing you a lot too. No ore discussions from you.. and I have been missing with many best responses... I think it's about time you came back on the block. Having broken hearts is something that is common now and you shouldn't stop your life because of that. Well, I'm not on a spree now, but was some years ago and it was fun you know.. You have to move on now.. Best of Luck and come back fast.. It's all a part of life and you have to get over it soon. Good Luck
bourne
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
7 Aug 08
Hiya bourne, thanks so much for that and as a token of my appreciation, that's a best response from you. I miss you guys as well and I will make it my determination to move on. This happens to the best of us, and I'll make it pass over me without a glance...
@SaviourV (260)
• Malaysia
5 Aug 08
Saviour-V teleports in...
You might find the person of your dreams. Or not. But the important thing for you is to be happy.
Something I find difficult at times, meself. I'd like to have someone who'll tend to my wounds (physical and spiritual), someone who'd believe in me when no one else will, someone who'd fight by my side even when everyone else has fled, someone who'd be my Muse for when my ideas break down....you get the idea.
Maybe I'm a bit too picky...^_^;;
Saviour-V grins, and teleports out...
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@mobilecubie (820)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
I do hope all is going well with you now. I'm not in a heart-break spree now but I can still remember the bitter feeling of it. But you know what? At this point in time I actually appreciate those things happening to me because I know I'm stronger and better now than I was back then. Women are very strange, they always mislead you into thinking that there is something more so when you do act because you think there is something more they get mad and say you are only friends. But then again if you don't act then in the end they'll say am I not good enough for you? Women sheees you can't live with them but you can't live without them. LOL
@mobilecubie (820)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
I dunno what we could do without them. LOL Perhaps party all night, but it won't be much fun. I'm glad I could help. Thanks for the comment. :)
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
4 May 09
Thanks Ysabel. It doesn't matter because I know you are sincere. . Same here. But I'm not on a heartbreak but more from a long hiatus from mylot and I miss the action here so much. And I hope that I'm back for good this time. Hope we can participate regularly here. 
. Same here. But I'm not on a heartbreak but more from a long hiatus from mylot and I miss the action here so much. And I hope that I'm back for good this time. Hope we can participate regularly here. 