Friends or lovers
By walkthetalk
@walkthetalk (1307)
United States
August 5, 2008 12:21am CST
You know, I've learned in my life that it is hard to have
both with a man ( maybe with a woman ).
I love my husband, we've been married for 16 years. We were
friends for 3 years before we even started dating. And we are
still somewhat friends, but its hard to be really good friends
like we were. I think in time you loose that.
I think in the dating world, its hard to have both, a lover
and keep that friend relationship. My friends struggle with
this all the time.
If you have an opinion on this let me here it, please. ;-)
6 responses
@1grnthmb (2055)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I have to agree with you. My wife was my best friend. But over the years we have lost that friendship. Not to say that we are not still close to each other. We are. But we are not close like we were before. I do not know if it is because we see each other all the time that we just do not talk as much or if it is that we just do not have that much to talk about anymore.
@walkthetalk (1307)
• United States
7 Aug 08
My husband is a carpenter, and a very good one. But it
doesn't interest me. I work in a Factory. when we get
home all I want to do is rest, he talks none stop, about
work. 90 miles an hour. It may be ugly, but I'm seriously
not interested. I have listened to it for years. that's what
I'm supposed to do.
But I don't talk about work, and when I do, I can tell he is not
interested. So I know how you fill about not having much to talk
about. ;-)
@jaghead1179 (199)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
yes its true that its hard to keep the friendship when youre already lovers i had a boyfriend for six years already and we got engage but along the way something happen with our relationship he got involve with another girl and before we start the relationship we are really good friends but right now its really hard to go back as goodfriends.
@walkthetalk (1307)
• United States
7 Aug 08
That happened to me once also. I don't know
if it's possible. On a girls side yea, on a
guys side no. And if we knew this before hand
I think ( at least me ) we would have choice to
keep the really good/best friend.
To bad there's not a rewind button in our life
for times like these. ;-)
.
happy mylotting.@walkthetalk (1307)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I'd like to tell my husband everything, but he is so jealous
that he looses his mind at the thought of another man looking
at me. So it is heard for me to have the close relationship
I'd like too have for that reason. And I'm sorry for that.
@walkthetalk (1307)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Well I some what agree. Although we do expect some of the same things
from both our friend and lover.
Or at least I do.
I want both to be honest with me, no lies.
I want the same respect that I show.
I want them to be there when I need them.
There are many more. But a friend is a very important part of
your life. We should not always mix the two. ;-)
@walkthetalk (1307)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Yea communication is great. It is great if you have that
with your partner. Everyone should. Don't you think?
