Do you have any tips on how to take courage driving in heavy traffic?

@Bebs08 (10681)
United States
August 5, 2008 8:13pm CST
I am just learning to drive and I am really scared when the traffic is heavy. I am nervous specially when I am in a 60-70 speed limit. The more I am scared when big trucks are coming towards me. What are the techniques you guys are having? I am thrilled to see ladies even old ones who are driving very relax as if nothing happened. I am an immigrant and driving is not a must in the country I come from. I hope you could give me some tips to ease my nervousness.
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@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I would suggest that you practice alot on smaller streets. The more driving time you get in the less nervous you'll be anywhere you drive. Drive around town on smaller streets, then try the highway, then progress to Interstates and high traffic areas. Just remember that as long as you stay in your lane you should be fine. Cars coming towards you or beside you won't hit you if everyone stays in their lanes. It may look close but it's really not. Drive on the roads with more traffic during the day time at first. Try to pick times of the day with less traffic to get you more used to it. You will get the hang of it. Good luck!
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Thank you very much.. I wish I had someone to accompany me while I am practicing. I know how to drive already because I practice in our private road.. long drive way.. I have a learner's permit and I need somebody to be with me when I am driving on the road. You are very right... Everything you said,, is I think right..It would help a lot.. thanks once again I appreciate your advice.
@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Can you get a friend to ride around with you? Or a family member that already has a license? I hope you can find someone so you can get some more practice in.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
6 Aug 08
The only one I have in the house is my husband.. and unfortunately, I am not comfortable if he will be with me driving. He was the one who taught me at first but.. I am nervous every time he yells when there is car coming.. he wants me to learn as fast like he does..I don't like the way he teach me. lol.. I want other persons.. I plan to be in the driving school but it is too expensive in which I think, I really can do it if I can b with somebody who would encourage me not makes me feel bad when I am on the road.
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@freedomg (1684)
• United States
6 Aug 08
It takes time and practice. I was the same way for a long time. Try sticking to the smaller streets for a while and if you must use the interstate try and time it for non-rush hour times. Even if it means getting places early. Then you can build up to the rest as you get more comfortable with the speeds. Remember to drive defensively and if someone is on your butt or honking for you to speed up ignore them they can go around. You'll do fine. Good luck
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Oh thanks freedomg, that is the encouragement I need. Ignoring the one honking at your back to speed up is jut ok? my husband let me speed up when somebody is honking which make me feel upset..I want to drive with somebody who can make me feel comfortable. I;m sure I can learn than someone who makes me feel upset and uncomfortable..lol..
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Oh yeah. Trying to learn with some one that makes you feel stressed will only make it harder for you.I'm sure he means well but I would try and find a different teacher for now. He will be proud when it's all over and you two will have fewer fights. I have always hated driving with my hubby in the car and he knows it but we fight less when I don't so he's o.k. doing the driving. Good luck. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
• Australia
2 Sep 08
I think its practice. I have recently had to learn to dirve on the other side of the road. Having been raised in the U.S.A and moving to Australia. It was a bit of a shocker. Just get out there and keep trying.. Get as much time on the road as you can with someone who loves you and can give you a bolster of confidence when you drive.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I agree with you 100 percent. I need someone who has all out support and not scares me on the road..
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Hi Bebs, LOL! Great job there..I am still learning how to drive..I am also an immigrant..My friend told me once you will get used to drive, you will just cope up and recover from that uneasiness...Maybe you need to drive more often! Wish me luck for my learning...LOL! Was it easy to learn?
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
6 Aug 08
hi checarpricorn, it is really scary at first. I used the lawn mower for my first try on the wheels. Then, when I learn how to maneuver the steering, I use the car.. I know how to drive now but the problem is my courage to go on when I am in heavy traffic. Many people said I just have to practice more and more.. to get courage.. the problem is I need somebody to be with me... I don't like to be with my husband because he makes me feel nervous. He keeps on joking that he will hide at the back seat. I might hit another car..
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• United States
7 Aug 08
I know that is a common feeling...Husband will always makes their wife nervous since they can't control and they will shout sometimes not because they are mad but they are just cautious! How about a neighbor or a new friend? I am also new here and have no friend near, met some but all working!
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
2 Sep 08
Hello Bebs, I was wondering how comes I have not seen or hear from you. Well I am not a driver because I am afraid of those Road Hogs we have here in Jamaica but I will encourage you to please be careful and if you are afraid when those heavy vehicle are passing just pull over and let it pass. Pray about your fears and God will assist you because he does not give any one the Spirit of Fear. Now I see that you are back I will be coming back here more often. Kerry
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Hi, I have been here this month but did not start a lot of discussions. Just lately I started some. Well, thanks for your advice. I am driving sometimes in the road lately but not much. Here in the US you can not pull over the side when you are on the highway. There is a speed limit that you are going to maintain. If you are driving on the interstate, you should go with the flow of the traffic which I find it scary because it's too fast. and some drivers keeps on changing lanes without signals. Well, I would be able to do it sometime. I just hope. I need courage to be on the road. Thanks..
@exziit (35)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
I felt the same way you did when I just started driving. I got over it easily though because I played Need for Speed Underground a lot, so you could say I was desensitized quickly. The other way was thinking to my self that driving is basically just like walking, only if you hit someone its a BIGGER issue. Just try driving cautiously for awhile, until you become comfortable.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Aug 08
another good tips. what is Need for Speed game? well, you are right!! if we think that driving is just like walking, eventually you will know where to place yourself on the road. Thanks.. I appreciate your help..
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I have terrible anxiety when driving in heavy traffic esp. if its somewhere I'm not familiar with and everybody is driving really fast like on the freeway. I found that meditation helped me focus and relax. I also take an antidepressant now and that helps me quite a bit with the driving anxiety.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Oh!! I am relieved that I am not the only one who feel that way. I take all the advice I got from here. I think positive thinking and focus is the best thing to do. If others can do it? even the disabled and the old people how much more for us? I am that old anyway,
@vaishalik (237)
• India
6 Aug 08
Consentration is must when you are learning anything new. Focus straight only on your lane, not on the trucks or anything else coming towords you. Go on driving & you will know Practice makes man Perfect.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Oh!! another good encouragement vaishalik. I think that is a good idea to focus on your lane straight not on the truck coming towards you. But I am having a hard time.. Sometimes I can not overcome thinking.. what if this big truck will bump my car? what will happen to me? Oh!! my good ness!!! I will try to follow your tips. thanks.
@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
6 Aug 08
The best I can tell you is that, after some time, you will eventually get more comfortable with it. I moved from a small city where the rush hour traffic was maybe 6 cars on any given road, to Atlanta, Georgia where you can be stuck in rush hour traffic for an hour or more. It was a huge shock for me and, I had only really been driving consistently for a couple of months by the time I moved here. I had a license previous to that but didn't need to drive since I lived across campus in an apartment and I could walk everywhere. I didn't have a car either so, what was there to drive? So, trust me...I know how scary it can be but, you do get used to it. Now, it is old hat for me. Granted, I still get nervous if I have to drive in Atlanta traffic. I live outside of Atlanta now. But, I still have lots of traffic to deal with where I live now. The difference is my comfort level of knowing where I am going. When I am unsure of my destination, I get more nervous in heavy traffic. So, once you familiarize yourself with your routes, you will get more and more used to it.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Oh!! thanks for the encouragement cortjo. I agree with what you said that once we familiarize our routes we will be comfortable, we are not nervous when we are sure where we are going. Anyway, I am living in a small town but there are times that the road is busy.. and I get nervous.. now that I have all your ideas, and I know that even those whoa re driving for a long time get nervous, I made me positive that I can make it. thanks...
@samijo719 (1052)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I have scared of heavy traffic too. Our local freeway doesnt bother me but I refuse to drive in San Diego or LA whenever we go. But I'd say just watch everything going on. Defensive driving is the smartest thing. Stay in your lane, do the speed limit and don't let anyone bully you on the road. And always stay calm!
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Good tips too.. thank you very much..I will do that.. too. keep calm that's right!!!
@amvinay (122)
• India
6 Aug 08
i feel that first thing you should not be scared and then bit confidence and just learn the balancing stuff remaining things automatically u will come to know other things easily ,learn in a remote area where no traffic for some time it will good experience ..
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Oh thanks for the good advice. yes, I have to take courage to go out on the road just in a remote where only me is passing.. I like it when I am alone on the road.. but they all said, I have to mingle with the traffic so that I would be used to it...
• United States
6 Aug 08
Just try your hardest to keep your eyes on the road and pay attention in your rear view mirror for oncoming traffic, try to listen to some music that you like and enjoy the ride. If you see a big truck coming...always stay focused on the white line and NOT the yellow lines in the middle. Looking at them makes you move closer to them without even realizing and you don't want to move toward the truck!
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Aug 08
That is another good point moondrop. FOCUS ON THE WHITE LINE.. yes, because I usually look at the yellow line at the center which make the big truck more closer to me.. Oh!!! others said, I have to make a reference point from my mirror to yhe edge of the road and I don't know how to do it.. thanks... for the tips.
• Serbia And Montenegro
6 Aug 08
You know, when I started learning to drive I was scared too :D But after a while I realized what actually made me nervous: I was always trying to make room for other drivers, then they feel encouraged to drive faster and go past me... Then is when I start to feel nervous not to hit them because they are driving to close to go past me... not to horn on me and so. So my advice is to stay clam and not think what the other drivers around you think and try as much as you can to have your place in the traffic and by doing that make other drivers think about you and the other way. :) Hope this helps.... helped me though :D
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Oh!! another good tips.. Keep calm and not think what the other drivers are thinking. Concentrate and be in my right place... thanks ...
@cshopb (3)
6 Aug 08
My girlfriend just finished driving school so I am helping her because I have the driving license for a couple of years. The problems I have noticed about her is that she to is very nervous when there is a bigger traffic and that she looks very much in the rear view mirror wheter she does or does not. Use it only when you are changing lanes or when you want to pass someone. Also you have to watch what is happening in front of you not just in you're lane. And you can ignore the honking cars freely. They are usually the ones who crash their cars eventually. I hope it helps. Good driving.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Aug 08
oh!! the ladies' nature to be scared on the road. So, your girl friend wen to a driving school and still gets =nervous? how much more for me? anyway, I always ride when my husband driving and I keep on observing him specially on the intersection. I am having a hard time in the intersection, when I start to curve? Oh!! dear, I observe the technique how to do it.. from others whom I ride with. thanks for the tips.
@twallace (2675)
• United States
6 Aug 08
The key to that is drive. No matter what is around you pay attention to your driving and keep up with the traffic. You don't have to go over the speed limit. Just focus and stay calm. Even when you have big trucks the zoom by. So don't focus on that, you have to remember to look straight ahead and check your mirrors. Even if you have someone riding close behind you drive. The fear will pass the more you drive. So the thing you have to do is get out there and drive.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Oh!! thank you very much I appreciate that. I think I need to practice more.. As of this time I have to use the driveway which is also a long way... I can practice more in here...like back up and the curve too..
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Driving can be scarey in heavy traffic, especially if you haven't been driving very long and it makes you nervous. All I can say is stay on your side of the road, and you have to watch other drivers, just because your being careful doesn't mean they are, some people don't watch what they're doing. Just take deep breaths, and try to relax, don't let anything distract you, cell phone, radio, stuff like that. The more you drive the easier it will be, and you'll get used to it more. I don't know what else to tell you, I myself have been driving for years now. Good luck...and have a good day
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
6 Aug 08
yes, I'll take you advice. More practice more courage. I should drive everyday.. I already have a car but am not using it everyday... Maybe I can just practice in our long driveway back and forth just to master my steering..
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I know you are afraid, but you have to stay in your lane, keep up with the traffic, and don't step on your brakes a lot. Use your mirrors, and pay attention to what you are doing, relax, it will be okay.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Hi sundalunts, that is my problem because I keep on stepping on the break.. because, iI am conscious with my driving .. whether I am driving straight or not... I have a short estimate on things.. I can not straight the steering still... that's why I am scared I might bump to the car coming hehee
@lisa0351 (303)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I am also a nervous driver myself, even though I have had my license for years. I do a lot of interstate driving also, during rush hour. When I start getting nervous, I try not to focus on the traffic and how scary it is, I just focus on my driving. Also, if you take deep breaths and think calm, you will stay calm. If it still makes you nervous, take alternate routes that are not as crowded if available. Even if it sets you back a little in time, leave early to compensate for it. That way you can help avoid a nerve-racking situation!
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Hi Lisa, you give me courage to think that even long time drivers are still nervous to drive. Which means, I am not alone. This driving problem is a hindrance for me to find a job because I can not go to work if I can't drive. thanks for your encouragement.